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Nen

Member since
May 2024

5 posts

Posted Mon May 20, 2024 8:54amReport post

11.10.22 arrest and 28.6.24 sentencing. Absolutely heart broken and can't see a future without this forever being at the forefront of our minds every waking moment. It's been a long awful nightmare and it's still not over for us and our son. Does it ever get better ?

EBP

Member since
September 2021

198 posts

Posted Mon May 20, 2024 9:50amReport post

Sorry you have had to join us here. We all feel for you in this scary,horrible time. My son is also an offender.

The court date is a hurdle you get over. Try to stop the ' what ifs' & manage the known. It helps to write a 'character reference' for the offender, noting how they have tried to get help,any support from family & friends,previous good character etc.

Try to take some time for yourself now the better weather is here.

Remember you are not the one in the dock. You have done nothing wrong.

Best wishes for a 'light' outcome.

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2556 posts

Posted Mon May 20, 2024 10:41amReport post

Hi Nen - I'm sure we all know what your going through - the overwhelming feelings and devastation is foul.... bless you.......

Try your very best not to overthink - quite often the things you dread might not happen, I continue to say this to myself so I'm not tortured by it all, my son needs my strength.

I know it's easier said than done but 'try' not to panic, let it unfold......

Edited Mon May 20, 2024 10:44am

Mandymoo

Member since
September 2021

296 posts

Posted Mon May 20, 2024 10:51amReport post

Another mum here. As someone who had extreme anxiety and fear in the run up to sentencing I know exactly how you feel. All I can say is see that day as the beginning of the end. Our mind is our own worst enemy sometimes. The ladies on here will be holding your hand that day and you won't feel as alone xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Mon May 20, 2024 3:27pmReport post

Hi Nen

I am also a mum so totally understand how you are feeling x

As much as we dont want the court date here it's just another part of this journey, you will at least know what the outcome will be , the next few weeks you will be full of anxiety but you will get through it xx

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

288 posts

Posted Tue May 21, 2024 2:25pmReport post

Hi Nen.

Sending you lots of hugs and love. You can get through this. I really thought I wouldn't survive another moment and that was 7 years ago. Xx

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

774 posts

Posted Tue May 21, 2024 8:16pmReport post

Hi Nen, another Mum here and yes it does eventually get better but for me it only started to get better when my son's well being started to improve and that didn't start to improve until he was forced to go out and meet other people during his 300 hours probation.

Thinking of you as I know how hard it is to watch the person you love so much go through this.