Fridays check in x
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Afternoon lovlies x
I hope you are all doing ok x
Where do I begin this week?
I have been doing these check ins for sometime and to be honest I enjoy reading about your weekend plans, how you are keeping, almost like the nosey neighbour but I dont have curtains to twitch :-) and to be brutally truthful I honestly do care about how you all are, what I don't want is for each and everyone of you to feel any pressure in to having to explain how your week has been so please at anytime if it gets a bit overwhelming I will stop doing these x
Sometimes on this journey we actually forget who we are because we are so engulfed in the sheer depths of the unknown and pain we are going through, yet here we are, we find the strength to navigate daily and that for me is just incredibly humbling
A place I never imagined to be on but a community of just incredible amazing individuals, the same journey but different stages, different reasons
This forum has given me a completely different understanding of compassion and understanding
Webb89, Ocean, you ladies are just amazing and I know I can message you and you remind me of our friendship x how lucky I am to have you in my life x
SoTired if you get a chance to log on I will never forget your journey and the fact you spent as much on a face cream as it would have cost for a dishwasher did make me chuckle, but so pleased you did treat yourself to one in the end :-)
Seaside, you just had me from your first post x
Smile, what can I say, we just clicked, you used to delete your posts before I managed to read them :-) you were always so cautious but now you are one of the most important ladies on here, your advice is a lifeline to many here but from my point of view you just are an incredibly important beautiful person who has opened her heart to me , my son and your son are now our boys, we have truly developed a friendship that has extended to something beyond I could ask for x
So form my usual check in it's a part of reality and I honestly cannot be more grateful
So on this long weekend each and everyone of you no matter how hard this journey is remember we are here for each other xx
Love sent as always xx
I hope you are all doing ok x
Where do I begin this week?
I have been doing these check ins for sometime and to be honest I enjoy reading about your weekend plans, how you are keeping, almost like the nosey neighbour but I dont have curtains to twitch :-) and to be brutally truthful I honestly do care about how you all are, what I don't want is for each and everyone of you to feel any pressure in to having to explain how your week has been so please at anytime if it gets a bit overwhelming I will stop doing these x
Sometimes on this journey we actually forget who we are because we are so engulfed in the sheer depths of the unknown and pain we are going through, yet here we are, we find the strength to navigate daily and that for me is just incredibly humbling
A place I never imagined to be on but a community of just incredible amazing individuals, the same journey but different stages, different reasons
This forum has given me a completely different understanding of compassion and understanding
Webb89, Ocean, you ladies are just amazing and I know I can message you and you remind me of our friendship x how lucky I am to have you in my life x
SoTired if you get a chance to log on I will never forget your journey and the fact you spent as much on a face cream as it would have cost for a dishwasher did make me chuckle, but so pleased you did treat yourself to one in the end :-)
Seaside, you just had me from your first post x
Smile, what can I say, we just clicked, you used to delete your posts before I managed to read them :-) you were always so cautious but now you are one of the most important ladies on here, your advice is a lifeline to many here but from my point of view you just are an incredibly important beautiful person who has opened her heart to me , my son and your son are now our boys, we have truly developed a friendship that has extended to something beyond I could ask for x
So form my usual check in it's a part of reality and I honestly cannot be more grateful
So on this long weekend each and everyone of you no matter how hard this journey is remember we are here for each other xx
Love sent as always xx
Upset I love Friday check in and your post today is simply inspiring. I'm so grateful to have found you and for the kindness, support and acceptance you show to me and everyone else on here.
Upset thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your wonderful support without you I honestly don't think I could have survived xxx
Upset
I have always read Friday Checkin and today is no different. It never ceases to amaze me where we find our strength from - admittedly it's not always easy - and each and every one of us is at a different stage of this experience that I would never wish on my worst enemy. Thank you for always giving me hope x this evening will be spent in a pub beer garden - sending love and strength to all xx
I have always read Friday Checkin and today is no different. It never ceases to amaze me where we find our strength from - admittedly it's not always easy - and each and every one of us is at a different stage of this experience that I would never wish on my worst enemy. Thank you for always giving me hope x this evening will be spent in a pub beer garden - sending love and strength to all xx
Upset, I love your Friday checkins and I thank you for caring so much! We don't get treated with a lot of compassion on this journey and are often treated as we didn't have any humanity, so it feels good that we're looking out for each other.
We will finish packing today and tomorrow as we will be flying on Sunday.
Before Flybe went bust during Covid, there was a direct route between my city in the UK and the city where my family lives abroad. So door to door it only took 7 hours.
Now there's no direct route anymore and we'll be travelling for 14 hours on Sunday :(
I wish you all a lovely weekend xx
We will finish packing today and tomorrow as we will be flying on Sunday.
Before Flybe went bust during Covid, there was a direct route between my city in the UK and the city where my family lives abroad. So door to door it only took 7 hours.
Now there's no direct route anymore and we'll be travelling for 14 hours on Sunday :(
I wish you all a lovely weekend xx
Ocean x
You inspire so many of us and I am privileged to have met you on both occasions on our video calls, your empathy and understanding is just remarkable, over the last few months to read about what you have done for your own wellbeing, look at you just incredible x
Your son has your strength, that is clear to us all, he no longer doggy paddles to stay afloat he has done so well in himself x
Honestly I look back to our first posts, Smile, Seaside, So tired, and I feel incredibly proud of just how far they have grown, yes of course they have done wrong , its given us sleepless nights, anxiety, but for me the fact they are open, and trying to just rebuild is just so incredibly important and they need to remember they do deserve a life, but most of all a second chance xx
You inspire so many of us and I am privileged to have met you on both occasions on our video calls, your empathy and understanding is just remarkable, over the last few months to read about what you have done for your own wellbeing, look at you just incredible x
Your son has your strength, that is clear to us all, he no longer doggy paddles to stay afloat he has done so well in himself x
Honestly I look back to our first posts, Smile, Seaside, So tired, and I feel incredibly proud of just how far they have grown, yes of course they have done wrong , its given us sleepless nights, anxiety, but for me the fact they are open, and trying to just rebuild is just so incredibly important and they need to remember they do deserve a life, but most of all a second chance xx
Fridays check in keeps me sane. When I was going to see a coucillor i told her that this check in gives me a point in a week that highlights, I and everyone on this forum has survived another week. It is a point in time, that if I am struggling i think it will be soon be that friday check in. I survived another week of this new life. I know a lot of people read and do not post. But that is ok, there is no expectations here, no pressure to post, but by reading and looking at this forum you are still part of this family. This is how I see this forum a family.
I have had a good week. Going back to work after my holiday not so good, Lol. But it gave me a break, to re charge batteries. I do not have much planned over the weekend, sorting stuff and clearing out as i am having a room decorated. Hope everyone manages to have a nice weekend. X
I have had a good week. Going back to work after my holiday not so good, Lol. But it gave me a break, to re charge batteries. I do not have much planned over the weekend, sorting stuff and clearing out as i am having a room decorated. Hope everyone manages to have a nice weekend. X
Thankyou Upset - you are truly a pure gem. Anything on my mind, you are the first port of call always and I'll never take that for granted. Sorry to have been a nag this week with overthinking creeping in (yet again).
Ocean - our friendship : trust develops, you SO close in location to my son, that gives me great comfort in our connection. You are so very kind.
All you other ladies are SO special to me too.
Ocean - our friendship : trust develops, you SO close in location to my son, that gives me great comfort in our connection. You are so very kind.
All you other ladies are SO special to me too.
Seaside x
I remember your first post, and remember saying you are never alone as you have us, x I remember you feeling so alone but these amazing ladies were here by your side x
You have fought every step of the way for your son , from having sleepless nights todwads court day, from him having to deal with an absolute arse of a a probation person, to where you are now , yes it's a journey of something no one can understand unless you find your self here x you have absolutely got this as does your son xx
Always here for you
I remember your first post, and remember saying you are never alone as you have us, x I remember you feeling so alone but these amazing ladies were here by your side x
You have fought every step of the way for your son , from having sleepless nights todwads court day, from him having to deal with an absolute arse of a a probation person, to where you are now , yes it's a journey of something no one can understand unless you find your self here x you have absolutely got this as does your son xx
Always here for you
Elliott x
Enjoy and have one or 2 or maybe more for us x
No.one can understand this journey apart from us xx
Enjoy and have one or 2 or maybe more for us x
No.one can understand this journey apart from us xx
Hpl111 x
Gosh that has come around so quickly x
What can I say other than it dosent matter how long it will take (as much as a pain it is)
Once you get there, just take a step back and breathe, unpack and if possible open a bottle and just remember how far you have come xx
Gosh that has come around so quickly x
What can I say other than it dosent matter how long it will take (as much as a pain it is)
Once you get there, just take a step back and breathe, unpack and if possible open a bottle and just remember how far you have come xx
Webb89 x
A well deserved recharge break x
As hard as it is to go back to the working day it's what keeps us saine :-)
Just enjoy walking the furbabys x you have absolutely got this, cannot wait to hear how the decorating has gone x
A well deserved recharge break x
As hard as it is to go back to the working day it's what keeps us saine :-)
Just enjoy walking the furbabys x you have absolutely got this, cannot wait to hear how the decorating has gone x
Smile x
We just connect x I would absolutely be there in a heartbeat for you and our boys xx
I think for me at the start of finding this forum I was lurking in the mist of reading peoples journeys trying to compare what the outcome would be, then I realized there is no comparison as each journey is different
Then I realized it's not about the journey, the outcome, its about us as individuals who find themselves here
The journey is bloody awful yet here we have a safe place to share our feelings and no one is judgemental x
We just connect x I would absolutely be there in a heartbeat for you and our boys xx
I think for me at the start of finding this forum I was lurking in the mist of reading peoples journeys trying to compare what the outcome would be, then I realized there is no comparison as each journey is different
Then I realized it's not about the journey, the outcome, its about us as individuals who find themselves here
The journey is bloody awful yet here we have a safe place to share our feelings and no one is judgemental x
I have family whom I love so much, they try SO hard to support me but I can clearly see their worries and reservations which, bless them, they try to hide for my sake.
You guys see it, experience it, understand it, and will one day) overcome it. That means the world to me, it has made me gather strength and get up off the floor and do my damn best to carry on....... and (mostly) fight.
You guys see it, experience it, understand it, and will one day) overcome it. That means the world to me, it has made me gather strength and get up off the floor and do my damn best to carry on....... and (mostly) fight.
Hello all!
I love Friday check ins and reading everyone's responses, even when I am not contributing I am always here.
This week has been huge. Sentencing & Baby boy's arrival scheduled back to back.
It's like waiting for the bus and two comes along.
Hubby recieved 12 months suspended with device restrictions on SHPO. Judge was fair.
Unfortunately SS told me they will issue interim care order for my baby's removal from me at the hospital. This was not expected!
I am now prepared for a week long stay at the hospital for family court to hopefully be also reasonable and fair, and not take my baby from me!!
Mix emotions but I look forward to having him and bringing him home.
I love Friday check ins and reading everyone's responses, even when I am not contributing I am always here.
This week has been huge. Sentencing & Baby boy's arrival scheduled back to back.
It's like waiting for the bus and two comes along.
Hubby recieved 12 months suspended with device restrictions on SHPO. Judge was fair.
Unfortunately SS told me they will issue interim care order for my baby's removal from me at the hospital. This was not expected!
I am now prepared for a week long stay at the hospital for family court to hopefully be also reasonable and fair, and not take my baby from me!!
Mix emotions but I look forward to having him and bringing him home.
Oh Flower, how worrying for you. What on earth is going through their heads? Do you have a solicitor? I'm shocked and disgusted that it has got to this point. Did the judge state your husbands risk level at sentencing? xxx
Flower, I'm so incredibly sorry that you're going through this. Quite frankly I don't understand this - reading your posts, you have always followed the safety plans and your husband/partner even moved out. It's not your fault that you weren't aware of the severity of the material that your husband looked at.
Sometimes I am really disgusted by social workers and even feel a bit of hate for them.
Please make sure you have a good solicitor and I wish you all the best, a safe delivery and that you're able to take your baby back home. I'll keep you in my thoughts xx
Sometimes I am really disgusted by social workers and even feel a bit of hate for them.
Please make sure you have a good solicitor and I wish you all the best, a safe delivery and that you're able to take your baby back home. I'll keep you in my thoughts xx
Upset; like many have said, I don't always respond but I do ALWAYS read the check ins. The emotional energy you put into replying to everyone is incredible. I, personally, wont need a response. It's just nice to check in , like you said,and perhaps talk about what we will eat and do this weekend rather than the grind of our situation. And I am not sure I can make it more clear how much I love love love the HC list when it appears.
flower, I am so cross on your behalf about social services. Sending you all my best for the birth and what comes next
have a restful long weekend, gang xxxx
flower, I am so cross on your behalf about social services. Sending you all my best for the birth and what comes next
have a restful long weekend, gang xxxx
I alo like reading the Friday check in. I don't always post as I often feel my week is just mundane and never know what to say x
Flower x
Congratulations on the birth of you baby boy x
I am just lost for words for what you are having to go through with SS, its just terrible xx
Congratulations on the birth of you baby boy x
I am just lost for words for what you are having to go through with SS, its just terrible xx
Hi everyone
I haven't posted much but always look forward to reading the Friday check in. You are all so lovely. Love reading about how everyone's doing and it really helps to know this group is full of such caring people who are there for each other. Enjoy your weekend and take care xx
I haven't posted much but always look forward to reading the Friday check in. You are all so lovely. Love reading about how everyone's doing and it really helps to know this group is full of such caring people who are there for each other. Enjoy your weekend and take care xx
Flower, what on earth are they thinking? I sincerely hope you have some good support because I know how lonely this can be. Much love to you. X
Dawn 19, same here. X
Flower - so sorry about this and yes, it's shockingly callous. Just to say that before an Interim Care Order can be issued there are thresholds that have to be met by SS so they should have carried out any assessemnts (eg risk and safeguarding/parenting). Our grandchildren were subjects of an ICO recently but it was denied by the judge as the thresholds hadn't been met, assessments not completed plus she ordered the LA to fund carers for the family member so they could be helped to parent the children. An interim order is to do with immediate risk, not long term. Also it's expected that SS will consider a family member to care for the child so is there anyone (parent, sibling, even a good friend) who could offer to do that if necessary. I really hope it wouldn't be needed but they can't whisk a baby away and into the mists of the care system. Also are you breast feeding? Surely as that is accepted as optimum for a newborn baby, whilst not suggesting that all mothers must breastfeed, it could be a point in your favour if you are, not to mention bonding and attachment.
You really need legal advice here - you should be offered legal aid (non means tested) to find representation from a family court lawyer. The LA should send you a list of accredited solicitors although you can find your own as long as they accept LA cases and are members of the Family Law Association. Alternatively there is a helpline on the Family Rights Group website where you can get advice.
I hope you can enjoy lots of cuddles with your baby and this nasty situation doesn't rob you of that xxx
You really need legal advice here - you should be offered legal aid (non means tested) to find representation from a family court lawyer. The LA should send you a list of accredited solicitors although you can find your own as long as they accept LA cases and are members of the Family Law Association. Alternatively there is a helpline on the Family Rights Group website where you can get advice.
I hope you can enjoy lots of cuddles with your baby and this nasty situation doesn't rob you of that xxx
Hi Upset Mum,
I love your Friday check in, Cheers me up ready for the weekend! Please don't ever stop, I might not comment much but I always read your posts xxx
I love your Friday check in, Cheers me up ready for the weekend! Please don't ever stop, I might not comment much but I always read your posts xxx
I enjoy the Friday check ins even if I don't comment often.
I was out out last night. Very rarely do it. It was a works do and everyone knows my situation. Didn't drink as too tight to pay the £20+ taxi home. Had a laugh but also several times I found myself sitting there feeling so sad.
I was out out last night. Very rarely do it. It was a works do and everyone knows my situation. Didn't drink as too tight to pay the £20+ taxi home. Had a laugh but also several times I found myself sitting there feeling so sad.
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Hi all,
I have come on here as a postive story.
But a long and hard one.
My partner was convicted in 2016 and again in 2019 (online offences) after not getting the right help after his first conviction
He worked hard on getting better and did everything he could.
In 2022 we fell pregnant with a gorgeous baby girl. Throughout my pregnancy we were treated appalling. Social workers accused him of going to r**** my baby and that I was risking this by staying with him no risk assessment had been done at this point.
I had a forsenic psychological risk assesment done at 7 and half months pregnant.
They removed my beautiful baby girl at 24 hrs old despite my partner being no risk at her current age. Because I had a traumatic childhood and was seen as unable to protect my little girl.
We split up but ended up getting back together. He moved out before she was born.
We did also have past dv (nearly 2 years since the last incident by the time she was born)
Anyway we fought for the past 18 months. 4 social workers.
We both did therapies, courses etc.
In February we thought she was gone for adoption we thought they would win. However due to the report done when I was pregnant being out of date we were allowed another risk assessment
2 weeks ago we found out our little girl is coming home!!!!
I am now seen as protective and able to put my daughter first.
She will be home fully in my care by the 21st July!
My partner will be allowed to move back in over a year ( my own safety plan).
It's been a long 18 months and I missed out on a lot.
But I will have her back and our future as a family is brighter :)
I hope I can give some hope to some of you.
I have come on here as a postive story.
But a long and hard one.
My partner was convicted in 2016 and again in 2019 (online offences) after not getting the right help after his first conviction
He worked hard on getting better and did everything he could.
In 2022 we fell pregnant with a gorgeous baby girl. Throughout my pregnancy we were treated appalling. Social workers accused him of going to r**** my baby and that I was risking this by staying with him no risk assessment had been done at this point.
I had a forsenic psychological risk assesment done at 7 and half months pregnant.
They removed my beautiful baby girl at 24 hrs old despite my partner being no risk at her current age. Because I had a traumatic childhood and was seen as unable to protect my little girl.
We split up but ended up getting back together. He moved out before she was born.
We did also have past dv (nearly 2 years since the last incident by the time she was born)
Anyway we fought for the past 18 months. 4 social workers.
We both did therapies, courses etc.
In February we thought she was gone for adoption we thought they would win. However due to the report done when I was pregnant being out of date we were allowed another risk assessment
2 weeks ago we found out our little girl is coming home!!!!
I am now seen as protective and able to put my daughter first.
She will be home fully in my care by the 21st July!
My partner will be allowed to move back in over a year ( my own safety plan).
It's been a long 18 months and I missed out on a lot.
But I will have her back and our future as a family is brighter :)
I hope I can give some hope to some of you.
SoTired x
I am so sorry to hear your sad news sending love and strength to you all at this sad time, I hope he will be home soon and given a final resting place, his poor family and fiancee but so pleased you are all able to be there for each other xx
I bet your house is coming together beautifully and at least you have time to pay the CC card off over time without causing a headache to find the money in one go xx
Thinking of you lovely xx
Here if you need us xx
I am so sorry to hear your sad news sending love and strength to you all at this sad time, I hope he will be home soon and given a final resting place, his poor family and fiancee but so pleased you are all able to be there for each other xx
I bet your house is coming together beautifully and at least you have time to pay the CC card off over time without causing a headache to find the money in one go xx
Thinking of you lovely xx
Here if you need us xx
Sky
Well done to you both on this horrendous journey, I am just so relieved for you been able to have your little one home finally, I cannot even begin to understand how difficult this has been
I wish you all the very best of happiness xx
Well done to you both on this horrendous journey, I am just so relieved for you been able to have your little one home finally, I cannot even begin to understand how difficult this has been
I wish you all the very best of happiness xx