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This is such a brief but incredibly powerful post. I couldn't read and pass by. Experiencing these feelings must be very difficult, is the feeling of loneliness new to you on this journey. x

I can empathise with deliberately distancing yourself from others, I think it's a form of self preservation on this journey. I found the burden of lies easier to bare. I'm blessed to have had a fully supportive parent throughout this turmoil. Do you have any support? x

I found at the beginning of this journey, you can be surrounded by people yet still feel lonely. When locked in my thoughts, even now, I still feel exactly the same.

to be honest my special friends on this forum pull me up and get me through it....

we are here for you x

I'm with you, I want people to reach out, like me, not judge me, understand that theres more to the story, understand that I do not condone these crimes, but it's not the case. Instead, people look away/down when they see me, delete me from social media, don't contact me anymore, disown my family, only think what they want to think.

I am so lonely and I'm so young, I don't know if I can or want to live this way.

How can there be so many thousands of women in this exact situation and I don't know any of them.

Have you GP support?

I think it's such a devastating shock you never 100% get over it. Don't be too hard on yourself, we all understand exactly how you feel x

Feeling the same intermoil, and for some reason I feel so shameful I'm even struggling to look people in the eyes currently. It's all so sad and even worst when your sad and can't tell people why.

I found the GP to be incredibly supportive when this first happened. Perhaps a visit would be something to consider. Survival mode gets us through but then everything has a tendency to catch up. Sometimes its at this point everything seems overwhelming. Recovery from trauma takes time and small steps. We are all with you x

Hi I was about to make a post explaining more but that's ultimately how I'm feeling as well. I'm spending time with family who know nothing right now and it's hard to connect with them how I normally do. I haven't felt normal for a while and I can't even tell them why.

Hi Inturmoil, I'm so sorry to read your post, I hear you and have had very similar feelings myself.

I'm not wanting you to answer this on here but something you might want to consider is whether your loneliness could be as a result of you struggling to let go of the things that no longer serve you, this could be anything from living in the past, unhealthy friendships, to negative and unhelpful thoughts and feelings about yourself. I only suggest it as that was my struggle, not being able to let go of the things that were holding me back so that I could begin stepping forward into the future.

Yesterday I had 6 friends round for a BBQ. It was the first social event I had put on in over 2 and a half years and it felt good. There was no awkwardness towards my son, the conversation flowed and everyone felt at ease and had a good time. But this hasn't just happened, it's taken me a lot of work to get myself to this point but by learning to let go the things that are no longer serving me I am moving forwards into my new way of life.

It's just a thought so if it's not for you, I really hope that someone else has posted something that helps you.

Inturmoil x

Nothing other than huge hugs sent to engulf you with love and strength xx

I find loneliness is hardest part of this journey. I lost a very close friend at the beginning, and i found it hard coping without her. I do have a few friends but no one very close. I do not have much in way of close family either. I am sorry that so many of us feel alone. I also find that I cannot talk about my OH to anyone. Either people are not interested or they do not understand why i would want to talk about him especially at the moment I have stayed. X

I was out on Friday night with work. Most of them know. But I had several moments where even though I was surrounded with friends I felt very lonely.

My overwhelming emotional is sadness.

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I so understand how you feel. Sending you love xx