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Gosh I am so very sorry for you, your OH and your little ones. This is a big load to carry and all I can suggest is that you talk to the Samaritans or look at their website where there is advice for people worrying about someone who is threatening suicide. I'm sure people who feel at the end of their resources see this as a way to find some resolution for themselves and those they love but of course that's not true. (Your OH's OIC has a duty of care about his mental health too) Not much help I'm afraid but here is a link to the Samaritans page to save you a job and also sending a hug and do keep posting on here if only to know you are not alone xx

https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/if-youre-worried-about-someone-else/supporting-someone-suicidal-thoughts/

What a terrible worry for you. It does sound as if he actively seeking help for the way he feels but that the overwhelming fear of the future is forefront in his mind.

I really don't have any advice other than to let him know he can contact 111 or attend the emergency department if he feels he can no longer continue. My son was also given a list of emergency mental health crises numbers when he was suicidal which we could phone on his behalf if he needed emergency help.

Are his family aware of how vulnerable he is and are they able to offer support so it lessons the load for you?

The one thing my son remembers from his darkest days is the policeman saying to him that he could get through this but if he chose to end his life, his children would have to live without the Dad they loved forever. That seemed to make an impact on him.

I really feel for you, it's a very frightening place to be. You're carrying such a weight on your shoulders so it's important you look after yourself as well.