It's happened again
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Hallo everyone, I am new to this forum & hoping that others will understand what I am having to cope with right now. I am legally separated from my husband. 21 years ago just after we got married, he was arrested for indecent exposure. To cut a very long, horrible & sad story short, he ended up serving a prison sentence due to possession of indecent images & videos. Our 2 children are 19 & 14. Both are aware as to nature of their father's offences. Last night I found out he appeared again in court yesterday and has been remanded in custody. I don't have any other details & am petrified he has done the same thing. My younger child is devastated. My older child is working & living in a different city as is taking a year out from studies. I haven't told them yet about last night. I feel so alone & scared & so worried it will end up in the press again, which severely impacted on my children. I just don't know what to do....
Oh Lisa you poor thing.
Have you tried calling the helpline? I'm so sorry you are going through this again. Please keep posting on here. The support is amazing.
Your in shock and full of fear. This will pass into a new normal. You can cope and you can deal with this. We are here to support you.
Sending you love and strength x
Have you tried calling the helpline? I'm so sorry you are going through this again. Please keep posting on here. The support is amazing.
Your in shock and full of fear. This will pass into a new normal. You can cope and you can deal with this. We are here to support you.
Sending you love and strength x
Thank you so much Partner for kind & supportive words. I feel so helpless. I ended my marriage to him several years ago. I stood by him through several offences & made the choice to have my children with him. Then 3 years ago, there was the early morning knock at the door. He was still living in the house as he refused to leave. We were both under suspicion as the use of the internet to access the indecent images & videos had been traced to the house. When the Police informed us, I went to punch him as I was so shocked. The Police said they knew that moment that I had no knowledge of what he had been doing.
He was charged, convicted & received a custodial sentence. Over time, my children built up trust & wanted to see him. Now that has all come tumbling down & the nightmare has started again. I am so anxious & worried.
He was charged, convicted & received a custodial sentence. Over time, my children built up trust & wanted to see him. Now that has all come tumbling down & the nightmare has started again. I am so anxious & worried.
Hi Lisa
got no words of wisdom I’m afraid, just wanted to say your situation sucks. I’m so sorry you are going through this crap again. X
got no words of wisdom I’m afraid, just wanted to say your situation sucks. I’m so sorry you are going through this crap again. X
Lisa,
Do you have anyone around you to offer support? Or maybe speak to your GP?
You are not alone through this. Xx
Do you have anyone around you to offer support? Or maybe speak to your GP?
You are not alone through this. Xx
Thank you Big Sigh, for kind words. It's been a long & difficult road over 21 years of his offending behaviour. I have tried not to think about it, but not easy...My younger son did what he usually does on Sunday - played football. Alas his team got beat, but it did us both good to get out of the house. Fresh air & breezy weather. I'll phone solicitor tomorrow morn to see what I can find out & will let my son's school know as well. They have been very supportive over past 3 years x
Thank you Partner, for kind words. It's been a much better day today. My best friend & boss have both messaged to see how my son & I are. Am very lucky to have support. Best to keep mind busy & back to work tomorrow. Will hopefully find out more as to what has happened...x