OH has moved out
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This weekend, my OH moved out. I was away over the weekend, so when I came back he was gone. He has had to go to a hotel as the room share he is going to move into is not available until 13 June.
He has moved out as if he did not, I was going to lose my job. I tried to get them to extend the deadline so he did not have to go to a hotel, but was refused as they has extended it twice.
I am absolutely heartbroken. Returning to a house that has had all his belongings removed was awful. If I was not going to lose my job, I would not have had him move out. He is going to lose his job at some point and the risk was too high for us both to be jobless.
But, I am beginning to wonder if I have made the right choice. I know it is only day one. But I am constantly on the verge of tears and I worry about him being on his own.
He has moved out as if he did not, I was going to lose my job. I tried to get them to extend the deadline so he did not have to go to a hotel, but was refused as they has extended it twice.
I am absolutely heartbroken. Returning to a house that has had all his belongings removed was awful. If I was not going to lose my job, I would not have had him move out. He is going to lose his job at some point and the risk was too high for us both to be jobless.
But, I am beginning to wonder if I have made the right choice. I know it is only day one. But I am constantly on the verge of tears and I worry about him being on his own.
I'm so sad for you. Those first few weeks of coming back to an empty house are incredibly hard. I can't imagine how this is amplified by the fact that it's not fully your decision. In my case he was remanded in custody so I packed up his things and his parents collected them. This journey is very tough, somehow we find strength in ourselves. You may not feel it right now but you're stronger than you know xxx
I recall your first posts and how incredibly complex your situation is. This must be an painfully emotive and difficult stage in this journey for you both. Be gentle on yourself. Sending you strength x
Thank-you distressed and life feels over.
If I was working anywhere else, it would be so different. I would be able to support him. As we all know, our people are not inherently bad people. They got caught up in something, in my OHs case, an addiction to porn. He's not interested inthe images, he just downloads loads of stuff from the Internet. I am not angry at him at all. Maybe it would be easier if I was.
If I was working anywhere else, it would be so different. I would be able to support him. As we all know, our people are not inherently bad people. They got caught up in something, in my OHs case, an addiction to porn. He's not interested inthe images, he just downloads loads of stuff from the Internet. I am not angry at him at all. Maybe it would be easier if I was.