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Whatamess

Member since
June 2024

4 posts

Posted Wed June 12, 2024 11:59amReport post

New here!! :(

We got the knock!! For communication with a police decoy!! Early days but can someone please put my mind at ease with what to expect to come of this.

Bub84

Member since
January 2024

113 posts

Posted Wed June 12, 2024 12:55pmReport post

Hey, sorry you have had to join this horrible journey but you will find a lot of support here.

We got the knock in September 2023 also for an alleged communication offence. The only bits of advice I can offer is take everything that the OIC tells you with a pinch of salt. These investigations take a long time so take each day as it comes, some will be good and some will be bad and always let out the tears if you need to.

Xx

Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Wed June 12, 2024 3:03pmReport post

So sorry you find yourself amongst us but reaching out to the forum community will be a lifeline on this journey. We all understand the rollercoaster of emotions you are experiencing and will experience and none of us will ever judge. When we are faced with such unfamiliarity we tend to seek 'possible outcomes' for situations similar to our own. The complexity of each and every case means an outcome can rarely be predicted and it tends to be detrimental to your mental health to try and predict what 'could' happen. The best anyone can do following the trauma of the knock is get through each day. We are all here on this journey with you. You are not alone and you will be ok x

I also echo what has been said about the Police. They do not act in your best interests and trust shouldn't be assumed x

Edited Wed June 12, 2024 3:07pm

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Wed June 12, 2024 3:15pmReport post

What x

I am also so sorry you have found yourself here, its early days so just try to get through each day as best you can, this journey can take months and no one can really advise on the what next as each one of our journeys are so different in how they are dealt with, the most important thing is your wellbeing

As mentioned the police really are a different bunch they are only interested in a conviction so dont rely on them for giving a timeline

We are here to offer support so you are not alone in this xx

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

774 posts

Posted Wed June 12, 2024 8:54pmReport post

Hi What, I'm sorry you've found yourself here. We're all here to support you and walk your journey with you so please keep reaching out to us.

If you have children, one of the the first things you can expect is a visit from children's services but without knowing your story it's difficult to tell you what you can expect over the next few weeks and months.

My advice is to take care of yourself as the journey you've now found yourself on can be a long one. I can also reassure you that in time the way you are feeling will get easier.

Mandymoo

Member since
September 2021

296 posts

Posted Wed June 12, 2024 9:56pmReport post

I would also add don't rush into telling anyone yet unless you can really trust them to stay quiet and support you xx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2556 posts

Posted Thu June 13, 2024 4:08amReport post

Bless you - I think I've lost count on the newcomer posts I've commented on - sadly....

I agree with my friends on their comments. Looking after yourself is SO important and try not to panic by over thinking - do you best to deal with each day as it unfolds.

Not a nice journey, it might not seem it right now but things do slowly get better.

im another, here for you x