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I have had a child in need meeting. I said they could contact school, but not tell them the nature of the allegation. Therefore school gave a comment but did not attend the meeting. Im not sure our meeting was done correctly but i think its supposed to be multi agency (with social workers, police, school etc). No they are not saying you cannot protect your daughter they are just ensuring her safety and putting in place help and measures to protect her (im not entirely convinced social services have done anything to help me). All we have had to do is ensure access is supervised at all times. We then had several meetings with a named social worker and my husband is now being risk assessed and we have another child in need meeting at some point. The stop it now helpline have good advice it might be worth calling them. Sadly social services are the worst part of all this, i had no idea what was going on most of the time.

My daughter was a child in need and it doesnt mean that your not keeping her safe. I actually saw it as a good thing because social services will either put you child in need or child protection. My daughter should have been child protection but because of my actions i kept her off that and just child in need.

It means there needs to be input to keep your daughter safe and is multi agency to look at what needs to be done. So in my case it was social services, health vistor, creche me and my ex. And the adgenda was keeping my daughter safe from sexual abuse.

We looked at safe ways for.my ex to see her, discussed what our relationship was (i had to prove a number of times we werent getting back together) and talked about benefits and organisations that could help me.

It is 6 weekly meetings with the agencies and my health visitor had to assess my daughter every 4 weeks as did a social worker.

But just because your on there now doesnt mean you will be forever. I proved that i was doing wht was in the best intereet for my daughter and keeping her safe so when my ex was sentenced to jail time we had 1 more meeting and we are no longer under social services and theyve said they dont intend to reopen the case when hes out because of my actions.

Hope that helps a little

I am in the same position at the moment with 3 of my children who are 5,7 and 12. I have a trainee social worker who has been really lovely up until this week when I want to knock her out! I'm not really being told much and she is turning up at school questioning the kids without my knowledge. I am not sure if they can do this or not? I found out tonight that she has been to see my middle daughter at school and questioned her about the time we spent visiting her Dad whilst he is living away. I am so annoyed.

I cannot do any more than what I am to keep my children happy (as happy as they can be with their Dad not around) and to keep them safe. Yet I feel like I am being judged all of the time. They have asked for a health assessment with the school nurse and I have had to get proof from the dentist of how regularly they have had check-ups. I have had to provide evidence they attend their eye appointments with the optometrist and I think it's really unfair that I am now being treated like I am the one who has committed an offence and not him.

I have a meeting tomorrow with her so am going to be a bit more firm with her as it seems she is assessing me under section 47 not a 17

so had the visit yesterday and they aren't happy with how I am handling the supervised access (even they ok'd it!) and have now said if he doesn't move out of the county they will be doing a protection plan under section 47 =( just when you start feeling a teeny bit better something else happens.

my children are one section 17 children in need plan with sc... only because their dad attacked me in frount off them and the police where called