They wouldn't arrest him unless they had found something would they?
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Yesterday the police came to my door asking about the whereabouts of my male friend.
I rang my friend and he ssid 2 youths had turned up at his door calling him a peado and trying to break in and threatening him with violence. He said he ran out the back door and ran away. He sounded terrified and told me he has no idea why they were there and he hasn't done anything. He spoke to the police. They told him they would pick him up in police car.
This was yesterday afternoon and I've not heard from him since.
I've been to his house and there was a police notice hskf sticking out of his letterbox saying they have taken away all his phones and laptop etc and some cannabis.
I just rang police because I'm so worried about him. He not in his house. Curtains are drawn which is v unusual.
I was panicking he might be lying dead in the house or been attacked.
Police have said 'he is safe and well' but can't tell me more.
I'm now thinking he must have done something very serious? Or they have found something? It sounds like he may be in custody from yesterday, overnight and all today?? This sounds very serious doesn't it?
I'm trying to think of reasons why they would keep him in custody if it was all a misunderstanding? I cant think of any.
This sounds really bad and serious doesn't it?
I rang my friend and he ssid 2 youths had turned up at his door calling him a peado and trying to break in and threatening him with violence. He said he ran out the back door and ran away. He sounded terrified and told me he has no idea why they were there and he hasn't done anything. He spoke to the police. They told him they would pick him up in police car.
This was yesterday afternoon and I've not heard from him since.
I've been to his house and there was a police notice hskf sticking out of his letterbox saying they have taken away all his phones and laptop etc and some cannabis.
I just rang police because I'm so worried about him. He not in his house. Curtains are drawn which is v unusual.
I was panicking he might be lying dead in the house or been attacked.
Police have said 'he is safe and well' but can't tell me more.
I'm now thinking he must have done something very serious? Or they have found something? It sounds like he may be in custody from yesterday, overnight and all today?? This sounds very serious doesn't it?
I'm trying to think of reasons why they would keep him in custody if it was all a misunderstanding? I cant think of any.
This sounds really bad and serious doesn't it?
Hi Ladyjane, what a worrying time for you. Yes there is always the possibility that your friend has re-offended but could it be that he's been placed somewhere for his own safety if he's been assessed as vulnerable and at risk?
I hope you soon hear some news as not knowing must be so awful.
I hope you soon hear some news as not knowing must be so awful.
Maybe the police are following up the accusations against him. Hopefully they find nothing and he is released.
Thank you.
He was released. He said he accidentally sent a photo to someone who said they were underage.
The guy told him he was underage. My friend say no not interested then went to send a photo to another man and accidentally sent it the Underage account too. My friend was drunk.
He said police can see all this on his phone.
They have taken his I.T stuff and might be months before it is checked. He said he not worried because there is absolutely nothing underage on there.
I'm now in the awful position of not knowing whether to believe him or not?
I would never have imagined he would do anything like this but equally I also know that men who get caught doing this lie and twist the story to justify to themselves as well as others.
He said he absolutely traumatised after being in cell overnight.
I feel like I should be supporting him because if its true its awful experience for him.
However, I'm so wary that it might not be the truth.
And I feel like it's totally changed how I see him now?
How on earth do you decide if you believe them or not? :(
He was released. He said he accidentally sent a photo to someone who said they were underage.
The guy told him he was underage. My friend say no not interested then went to send a photo to another man and accidentally sent it the Underage account too. My friend was drunk.
He said police can see all this on his phone.
They have taken his I.T stuff and might be months before it is checked. He said he not worried because there is absolutely nothing underage on there.
I'm now in the awful position of not knowing whether to believe him or not?
I would never have imagined he would do anything like this but equally I also know that men who get caught doing this lie and twist the story to justify to themselves as well as others.
He said he absolutely traumatised after being in cell overnight.
I feel like I should be supporting him because if its true its awful experience for him.
However, I'm so wary that it might not be the truth.
And I feel like it's totally changed how I see him now?
How on earth do you decide if you believe them or not? :(
Lady Jane
It is a dilemma and in some of these cases it can be hard to know, in the early stages, what has actually happened and what the truth is.
At this point you if you're really not sure, you could give your friend the benefit of the doubt and decide to offer them your support. You may find out more in due course that will enable a more informed view. Even if you believe he did something wrong, giving support does not mean that you condone what he did.
However, if it is a deal breaker for you if you find out he has been lying to you, you could tell him this and this may encourage him to be truthful.
Sometimes you just have to accept that you may never really know the full truth
It is a dilemma and in some of these cases it can be hard to know, in the early stages, what has actually happened and what the truth is.
At this point you if you're really not sure, you could give your friend the benefit of the doubt and decide to offer them your support. You may find out more in due course that will enable a more informed view. Even if you believe he did something wrong, giving support does not mean that you condone what he did.
However, if it is a deal breaker for you if you find out he has been lying to you, you could tell him this and this may encourage him to be truthful.
Sometimes you just have to accept that you may never really know the full truth