Family and Friends Forum

Second time here

Notifications OFF

Dee197878

Member since
May 2022

29 posts

Posted Sat June 15, 2024 10:00amReport post

Hi hope everyone is ok

I'm here second time first was my now ex partner 2 years ago I'm through the other side.This time it my son's friend both made the news paper he doesn't know I know and I doubt he would say he has not been sleeping and took tablets I'm wondering if he has anyone to talk to i dont know if i bring it up i feel i would be best to understand i realy keep going back n forth i really dont want him hurting himself and i could of helped

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat June 15, 2024 2:13pmReport post

Hi Dee

How incredibly understanding you are and I think it's so kind you want to reach out to your sons friend,

Maybe speak to your son first and say that you want to check in and maybe can be another person that he can reach out to, we all know how lonely and difficult this journey can be x

Maybe even give him the number for LFF helpline x

Edited Sat June 15, 2024 2:14pm

Dee197878

Member since
May 2022

29 posts

Posted Sat June 15, 2024 5:31pmReport post

Thank you .my son hasn't read the article and only has one piece of information.Hes only just turned 16 and his friend just turned 18 after what happened with his dad I don't know how he would take that's why is so difficult to decide what to do

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

774 posts

Posted Sat June 15, 2024 9:04pmReport post

Hi Dee, it's just a thought but would you be able to reach out to your sons friends mum or dad. I know I would have appreciated someone with lived experience reaching out to me. His parent might then in turn then be able to pass on your support.

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2556 posts

Posted Sun June 16, 2024 5:30amReport post

A couple nearby us experienced the same thing many years ago. I glance at the lady many times prying she would perhaps confide or offer me words of knowledgable comfort, but she never has.

She does go out her way to speak to me though and exchange a few words, so perhaps her way of acknowledgment. Perhaps she doesn't want to rake up her past. But it so would have made me not feel so isolated in those early days.

You have in your mind its such a foul 'rare' crime, no one else could have possibly experienced it, but sadly as we find out each and every day on this forum that's not the case is it?

Edited Sun June 16, 2024 5:32am

Dee197878

Member since
May 2022

29 posts

Posted Sun June 16, 2024 2:46pmReport post

Smile through tears

You are so right I was that person ignorance is bliss but it's horrible for all involved and theres so much involved a Reason shame there's so much I know of so many cases a few you hear of but this is 2nd close to me n my heart breaks for the ones who are scared and suicidal


Thank you all so much there really isn't enough help and this room has been a big support x

Edited Sun June 16, 2024 2:49pm

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2556 posts

Posted Sun June 16, 2024 5:00pmReport post

You learn SO much on this journey - it changes you and certainly re-shapes your thoughts.