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Hi all,
I wonder if anybody has any advice for us. My Son remains under investigation (awaiting device forensics) he's currently in student accommodation however doesn't want to continue and plans to leave this summer.
Due to ongoing police investigation he is not allowed to live at home. He has rent arrears (we've just learned this) and I fear he is burying his head. He doesn't seen to grasp the gravity of the situation and claims it was a mistake. I am doubtful and He's not accessed support in the 18 months this has been going on.
He's had no contact with his younger siblings since the knock and not been to our home. On the advice of social services who closed the case due to me safeguarding my younger children. I also would be referred to LADO and lose my job if I allowed him to return home.
I am worried about where he will live. He won't be able to rent privately due to income and arrears (no references) and we own our home so no clue about social housing.
Has anybody been in this position. We have no family who could support him. We've had no updates from the police or solicitor and my son says after his last interview the solicitor said he likely won't serve a prison sentence. Which makes me feel he has offended. I'm feeling so conflicted x
I wonder if anybody has any advice for us. My Son remains under investigation (awaiting device forensics) he's currently in student accommodation however doesn't want to continue and plans to leave this summer.
Due to ongoing police investigation he is not allowed to live at home. He has rent arrears (we've just learned this) and I fear he is burying his head. He doesn't seen to grasp the gravity of the situation and claims it was a mistake. I am doubtful and He's not accessed support in the 18 months this has been going on.
He's had no contact with his younger siblings since the knock and not been to our home. On the advice of social services who closed the case due to me safeguarding my younger children. I also would be referred to LADO and lose my job if I allowed him to return home.
I am worried about where he will live. He won't be able to rent privately due to income and arrears (no references) and we own our home so no clue about social housing.
Has anybody been in this position. We have no family who could support him. We've had no updates from the police or solicitor and my son says after his last interview the solicitor said he likely won't serve a prison sentence. Which makes me feel he has offended. I'm feeling so conflicted x
You could talk or email the officer in charge of the case and see when his devices will be looked at, explain the situation and ask them to "Hurry it". When they have looked at it they may drop the bail conditions and he may be able to move home (dependent on what they find) and obviously if this is what you want too.
Thank you @ just want an end to it.
I was informed not to contact the OIC as my son is now an adult. He's not given us permission to speak with his solicitor either which makes me think he's guilty of more than what was shared with us by the Social Worker in the beginning.
I have contacted a duty social worker today for advice. They shared no info but were interested in whether I was supporting my son and how near too us he may want to live. Which again makes me wonder if there is a lot more I don't know about.
I guess we're stuck and my son needs to be more proactive in chasing updates if he won't allow us full disclosure. He has no conditions at the moment and is allowed to work in his part time job. The whole thing is confusing.
Thank you again for your reply
I was informed not to contact the OIC as my son is now an adult. He's not given us permission to speak with his solicitor either which makes me think he's guilty of more than what was shared with us by the Social Worker in the beginning.
I have contacted a duty social worker today for advice. They shared no info but were interested in whether I was supporting my son and how near too us he may want to live. Which again makes me wonder if there is a lot more I don't know about.
I guess we're stuck and my son needs to be more proactive in chasing updates if he won't allow us full disclosure. He has no conditions at the moment and is allowed to work in his part time job. The whole thing is confusing.
Thank you again for your reply