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Evening all,
It's been a while since I last posted, I have recently started the Inform course via Skype. Whilst this is helping it is also stirring up a lot of emotions. Top one being anger!!! I am really struggling to keep it together, I feel I am at the point of calling it a day with my husband. I don't know if I can ever forgive and forget.
I can't deal with his wallowing in his own self pity and sorry just ain't cutting it.
Please tell me I'm not on my own????
Mata xx
It's been a while since I last posted, I have recently started the Inform course via Skype. Whilst this is helping it is also stirring up a lot of emotions. Top one being anger!!! I am really struggling to keep it together, I feel I am at the point of calling it a day with my husband. I don't know if I can ever forgive and forget.
I can't deal with his wallowing in his own self pity and sorry just ain't cutting it.
Please tell me I'm not on my own????
Mata xx
Take it day by day and don't make any big decisions when you are angry or exhausted. Talking about it is often akin to reopening the wound, and it's perfectly normal for you to feel those sorts of emotions - this is a massive thing to be dealing with.
Where are you in the process of investigation etc? I'm with my partner still, but my situation is slightly different as he denies any wrong doing. The way I look at it is, if for whatever reason I am one day forced to walk away from him, I'll be able to do it with my head held high, knowing that I gave it my all.
The old saying "what makes you bad makes you better" springs to mind here - it's gotten worse right now, but in time that will help you to move forward.
Take care xx
Where are you in the process of investigation etc? I'm with my partner still, but my situation is slightly different as he denies any wrong doing. The way I look at it is, if for whatever reason I am one day forced to walk away from him, I'll be able to do it with my head held high, knowing that I gave it my all.
The old saying "what makes you bad makes you better" springs to mind here - it's gotten worse right now, but in time that will help you to move forward.
Take care xx
Hi Mata,
It is perfectly normal to experience all different emotions. I don't know your story and so it's hard to comment. Every situation is different and also every relationship is different.
Like Hilltop I am standing by my husband as he is pleading Not Guilty. I may be wrong but I have had nothing concrete whuch proves he has done it. Don't make any decisions when you are angry, wait until you are calm and can think things through.
xx
It is perfectly normal to experience all different emotions. I don't know your story and so it's hard to comment. Every situation is different and also every relationship is different.
Like Hilltop I am standing by my husband as he is pleading Not Guilty. I may be wrong but I have had nothing concrete whuch proves he has done it. Don't make any decisions when you are angry, wait until you are calm and can think things through.
xx
Hi Mata
i am sticking with my partner too. I have also had the roller coaster of emotions, though I got some good counselling a few months in so by time I did inform course I had dealt with a lot of that anger. I think it’s perfectly reasonable to want to walk away from this sh** storm. Even those men who are innocent have usually been looking at adult porn and you can still feel angry that their actions (even if it is totally legal and is something millions of men do) have brought this raining down on your head.
only you can decide if your relationship is worth saving - but as others have said, you probably can’t make that decision whilst stirred up with anger. If you can get some counselling it might be worth doing so that whatever decision you make, you know you have made it from the right place. X
i am sticking with my partner too. I have also had the roller coaster of emotions, though I got some good counselling a few months in so by time I did inform course I had dealt with a lot of that anger. I think it’s perfectly reasonable to want to walk away from this sh** storm. Even those men who are innocent have usually been looking at adult porn and you can still feel angry that their actions (even if it is totally legal and is something millions of men do) have brought this raining down on your head.
only you can decide if your relationship is worth saving - but as others have said, you probably can’t make that decision whilst stirred up with anger. If you can get some counselling it might be worth doing so that whatever decision you make, you know you have made it from the right place. X