Our life turned upside down today
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Hello.
I actually can't believe I'm here of a forum like this existed until today.
this morning we got woke up early by plain clothes officers who took my husband and seized his phone. One of the officers told me that an indecent image had been shared from this address. She also said that she's confident there's been no making of images and no contact. My husband admitted it on his way out with the police. That's all I saw of him before they took him. Police then had a Quick Look round and found memory sticks, asked me what was on them so I explained wedding photos. They seized only his phone. They spoke to my children aswell 15 & 11 and explained it had to be referred to SS who will likely be in contact with me Monday or Tuesday.
he wasn't arrested but told to return in September and bail condition is that he's not allowed to sleep at the house or have unsupervised access with the children.
he was taken at 8:30 and released back at 1pm. I've spoken to him and he's said something was sent to him via something called KiK messenger (I've never heard of it) he claims it was one video that was sent to him and told me and the police that nothing else will be found.
surely it's more than that to warrant the police coming like they did?
I was given a leaflet and told to listen to a podcast, other than that I have absolutely no clue what's going to happen.
he doesn't work with children so I'm hoping he can keep his job as he's the main earner. Otherwise I really don't know what we will do. I'm only praying that the media don't get hold of this.
any help would be hugely appreciated right now. I'm at absolutely rock bottom
I actually can't believe I'm here of a forum like this existed until today.
this morning we got woke up early by plain clothes officers who took my husband and seized his phone. One of the officers told me that an indecent image had been shared from this address. She also said that she's confident there's been no making of images and no contact. My husband admitted it on his way out with the police. That's all I saw of him before they took him. Police then had a Quick Look round and found memory sticks, asked me what was on them so I explained wedding photos. They seized only his phone. They spoke to my children aswell 15 & 11 and explained it had to be referred to SS who will likely be in contact with me Monday or Tuesday.
he wasn't arrested but told to return in September and bail condition is that he's not allowed to sleep at the house or have unsupervised access with the children.
he was taken at 8:30 and released back at 1pm. I've spoken to him and he's said something was sent to him via something called KiK messenger (I've never heard of it) he claims it was one video that was sent to him and told me and the police that nothing else will be found.
surely it's more than that to warrant the police coming like they did?
I was given a leaflet and told to listen to a podcast, other than that I have absolutely no clue what's going to happen.
he doesn't work with children so I'm hoping he can keep his job as he's the main earner. Otherwise I really don't know what we will do. I'm only praying that the media don't get hold of this.
any help would be hugely appreciated right now. I'm at absolutely rock bottom
Just want to add, since this was accepted a lot has happened.
police have no concerns about our children but currently waiting contact from SS.
my mind was all over the place when I wrote this, she said an image was shared at this address not from this address. It's one date in July to which my person has admitted to fully that it was an accidental link on a chat thread in a gaming group on KIK messenger. He said he didn't download the image, viewed and removed right away then deleted the app.
does this seem believable? Police rang again yesterday (I was spiralling with anxiety, I'm officially diagnosed with anxiety and ptsd from my own childhood) he explained best and worst case scenarios and he said he doesn't think it's that and at the moment he is under investigation for intelligence recieved from the app.
they advised no contact with the kids until SS have made contact, which is torture as we are a very close family and are trying to muddle past two family deaths on the last 5 months.
If anyone can shed any light or help I'd appreciate it. Currently trying to work and I've no idea how I'm supposed to carry on as normal.
police have no concerns about our children but currently waiting contact from SS.
my mind was all over the place when I wrote this, she said an image was shared at this address not from this address. It's one date in July to which my person has admitted to fully that it was an accidental link on a chat thread in a gaming group on KIK messenger. He said he didn't download the image, viewed and removed right away then deleted the app.
does this seem believable? Police rang again yesterday (I was spiralling with anxiety, I'm officially diagnosed with anxiety and ptsd from my own childhood) he explained best and worst case scenarios and he said he doesn't think it's that and at the moment he is under investigation for intelligence recieved from the app.
they advised no contact with the kids until SS have made contact, which is torture as we are a very close family and are trying to muddle past two family deaths on the last 5 months.
If anyone can shed any light or help I'd appreciate it. Currently trying to work and I've no idea how I'm supposed to carry on as normal.
Hi
Didn't want to read and run.
I don't have much advice as we are 7 months post knock but nothing further has happened with the police. It's a waiting game. But you are definitely not alone.
SS are involved with my child and they are on the CPR but for us, although terrifying that SS have to be involved, we have a lovely social worker and she knows my child is safe and I understand SS have to do their job. My child is hopefully being removed from the CPR tomorrow after 6 months.
I have separated from my OH however, do have to see them for supervised visits.
We were the same, very close family and also had a very close family death when this all kicked off. It's so difficult.
However, I didn't really have a choice in my eyes, with SS too, it was my child or OH.
OH is still working just now but that could all change so I have managed to sort myself out financially with changing my hours. In my eyes it was the one thing I could control in this whole situation.
Didn't want to read and run.
I don't have much advice as we are 7 months post knock but nothing further has happened with the police. It's a waiting game. But you are definitely not alone.
SS are involved with my child and they are on the CPR but for us, although terrifying that SS have to be involved, we have a lovely social worker and she knows my child is safe and I understand SS have to do their job. My child is hopefully being removed from the CPR tomorrow after 6 months.
I have separated from my OH however, do have to see them for supervised visits.
We were the same, very close family and also had a very close family death when this all kicked off. It's so difficult.
However, I didn't really have a choice in my eyes, with SS too, it was my child or OH.
OH is still working just now but that could all change so I have managed to sort myself out financially with changing my hours. In my eyes it was the one thing I could control in this whole situation.
Hi 2 years ago I got the knock past sentencing now. But I totally understand the shock and worry you are going through and how hard it is. My now ex partner that offended was able to keep his job while the investigation was ongoing as the officer in charge said because he didn't work with children or need a dbs he didn't need to disclose anything to his employers so he worked the whole 2 year nearly while the investigation took place until he was charged then he had to tell employer. My two children have had to have supervised contact and this will remain until they are adults now because of his offence. I hope you don't have a long waiting game to find out what is to happen. X
We are past sentencing kik also but 5 images in a link, app deleted immediately which eas proven with our own cyber expert, he was allowed to be alone with our child she was 13 at the time had a chat with ss and there were no concerns, he was sentenced to 1 year supervision, 1 year on register, and 180 hours community payback there was no shpo and ss never got back in contact after initial chat with our daughter, we are 4 months past sentencing now
My children are 11 (almost 12) and 15. Bail condition was no unsupervised access to anyone under 18.
how did you get your own cyber expert please? At what point is that something we can do?
I'm in complete limbo right now, I've no idea when SS will contact me. No idea what they will ask or say. Or if they will tell me anything new. I just want to curl up into a ball and cry.
how did you get your own cyber expert please? At what point is that something we can do?
I'm in complete limbo right now, I've no idea when SS will contact me. No idea what they will ask or say. Or if they will tell me anything new. I just want to curl up into a ball and cry.
Hello.
So sorry you find yourself with us. I couldn't read and not respond.
I am sending love x
I am 3 months into this journey. SS contacted us quickly (within days) but we are stuck in a limbo with social services and police.
If you can afford a solicitor I would also recommend.
But the most important thing right now is to look after yourself, know you are not alone. Eat if you can, feel the sun on your face and know you did nothing wrong. You will find inner reserves you didn't know you had, no matter how broken you feel right now. I send hugs to you, and all of your family x we are all with you. And we get it.
Feel free to message if you needed
So sorry you find yourself with us. I couldn't read and not respond.
I am sending love x
I am 3 months into this journey. SS contacted us quickly (within days) but we are stuck in a limbo with social services and police.
If you can afford a solicitor I would also recommend.
But the most important thing right now is to look after yourself, know you are not alone. Eat if you can, feel the sun on your face and know you did nothing wrong. You will find inner reserves you didn't know you had, no matter how broken you feel right now. I send hugs to you, and all of your family x we are all with you. And we get it.
Feel free to message if you needed
We have all sadly been there, pur solicitor organised it for us it prolonged the court process but I needed peace of mind to know he had never actively searched for it, we went for not guilty as he never searched but was found guilty as had never reported to police having recieved something he shouldn't have, you may think why didn't I just believe my oh but my world was spiralling and didn't know what to believe
It seems that many of these crimes are being committed over apps. It really worries me for the future, for our kids and what they could possibly come across online not necessarily with any intent.
If people do report these things that they delete straight away, do the police still knock I wonder?
If people do report these things that they delete straight away, do the police still knock I wonder?