Is anyone there? Please help me get through this night.
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My husband came over to see our child tonight, after I split with him on Friday. He's finally admitted to me tonight that he was looking at images and videos and forwarding them. All ages, and boys and girls. He's been invited for a 2nd interview and asked to arrange it for the next couple of weeks.
He said he's sick, he's spoken to the samaritans, he's got a doctors appt and he's going to try and get better. He said it was an addiction that got out of hand and begged me to let him keep seeing our child.
I'm utterly devastated. He swore he had done nothing and that this was a terrible mistake or accident, but now I know he knowingly viewed and shared these unthinkable things.
What do I tell my 5 year old while I work out what to do next?
He said he's sick, he's spoken to the samaritans, he's got a doctors appt and he's going to try and get better. He said it was an addiction that got out of hand and begged me to let him keep seeing our child.
I'm utterly devastated. He swore he had done nothing and that this was a terrible mistake or accident, but now I know he knowingly viewed and shared these unthinkable things.
What do I tell my 5 year old while I work out what to do next?
I'm here and I can sense your devestation at hearing the truth. I know it won't help today but now that you know the truth you'll know what you're dealing with.
I would tell your daughter something that she can understand. My grandson who is 5 (I'm here because of my son) hasn't yet been told anything. He knows that his parents are not together any more but that's all he knows. His sister who is a few years older has been told the truth without too much details.
Your person has done a very brave thing in seeking help for his addiction and taking the first step forward.
Please don't suffer alone. If you haven't already done so I recommend contacting LFF for support and also your GP and remember we're here for you.
I would tell your daughter something that she can understand. My grandson who is 5 (I'm here because of my son) hasn't yet been told anything. He knows that his parents are not together any more but that's all he knows. His sister who is a few years older has been told the truth without too much details.
Your person has done a very brave thing in seeking help for his addiction and taking the first step forward.
Please don't suffer alone. If you haven't already done so I recommend contacting LFF for support and also your GP and remember we're here for you.
Thank you @ocean , I appreciate it.. I'll call the line in the morning after I've dropped little one at school. I wish there was a team of nice ladies who visited you at home after things like this to tell you exactly what to do next.
At least he has admitted what he has been doing - I don't think I will ever know the true story of the double life my person was leading. He took said it was a 'mistake' but I have too many unanswered questions.
Like you I have ended my relationship. The most difficult decision I have ever made. But the right one for me.
I am a little way down the line and can tell you it does get better. It's a slow journey. There will be good days and bad days.
I'm hoping I will come out of this a stronger person but we'll wait and see.
Take care of yourself.
Like you I have ended my relationship. The most difficult decision I have ever made. But the right one for me.
I am a little way down the line and can tell you it does get better. It's a slow journey. There will be good days and bad days.
I'm hoping I will come out of this a stronger person but we'll wait and see.
Take care of yourself.
There are no roadmaps as each journey is not the same but we all know what anguish this can bring and are here for each other. Try and get some rest if possible and please do call the helpline in the morning.
I hope you got some sleep and that you manage to call the help line this morning.
Children are more resilient that we give them credit for. See what the help line advises and maybe speak to your GP too, ask for an urgent appointment for your mental health and you should be seen the same day.
Here to listen and support you x
Children are more resilient that we give them credit for. See what the help line advises and maybe speak to your GP too, ask for an urgent appointment for your mental health and you should be seen the same day.
Here to listen and support you x
I'm sorry you are going through this. I am 7 months post knock.
I also have a 5 year old and social work involvement.
SIN advised me not to tell my child but SW wanted this done, which part of me understood as I have so many questions. Daddy just disappearing over night she must have too. We explained it in an age appropriate way.
Happy to chat.
I also have a 5 year old and social work involvement.
SIN advised me not to tell my child but SW wanted this done, which part of me understood as I have so many questions. Daddy just disappearing over night she must have too. We explained it in an age appropriate way.
Happy to chat.
Thank you so much for all of you help, you got me through a tough night and morning. I've spoke to the helpline this morning and they were great, and I'll speak to the doctor this afternoon. Thank you again