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Futurenowuncertain

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June 2024

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Posted Fri June 28, 2024 9:24am
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Ocean13

Member since
April 2024

83 posts

I'm sorry you are now going through this as well. I'm shocked that you've been told you are not allowed contact with him. Has he told you anything about what's happened?

I agree with you as I've been with my OH for 5 years and don't know how I could give all that up. It's very easy for people to have an opinion and think they know what they'd do when they've never been in that situation themselves.

There is a post under the "understanding why" section on "surviving the early days". I found this very helpful so I hope it helps you too.

The knock happened 5 months ago for us and I still vividly remember the first few weeks being so hard.

Sending lots of love this group is a good support system where people understand x

Posted Fri June 28, 2024 10:51am
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Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2741 posts

Futurenowuncertain. ........You are exactly right, people do not understand any of this until it happens in their world, in their family, in their relationship.

i can see some people are so disgusted with it all they do break up or decide to move on without the person - also every situation is different. But it's not for me. I must add here I would never condone what my son did or minimise it.

i have faught against the odds to keep a relationship with my son in prison, its been (and still is) bloody hard but not a part of me regrets it.

This forum has been my main source of support through the good and bad times and I will be eternally grateful for that x

Posted Fri June 28, 2024 12:06pm
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Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Hi, sorry you have found yourself here in this awful nightmare, this forum is full of lots and helpful advise and it's really got me through the most darkest times. The start is just awful but after time it gets easier, my advice is don't make any rush decisions. I had ss pressure me for an answer as to if I'm leaving my husband or not..... I told her I'm not making any decisions yet until I'd seen everything.



almost 2 years later and my husband got a NFA!! I almost left my husband, there were times I wanted to divorce him, ss wanted me to leave him. I'm so glad I didn't make any rash decisions. Take time for yourself.

Posted Fri June 28, 2024 3:10pmReport post

SadAndWorried

Member since
October 2019

155 posts

Hello futurenowuncertain,

I can not see you post but I want to send you my love and thoughts. It is a truly terrible shock but this forum is a big shoulder to cry on and lean on for advice and support, I hope you find a time when you are comfortable to post again, should you want or need too.

The helpline is really good too.

xx

Posted Sun June 30, 2024 11:56pmReport post

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