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Hey folks as you know we are past sentencing it's been 4 months since media exposure and I thought I would never survive trial by social media, we live in a town I work heavily within the community everyone knows oh and myself, I will never forget that weekend it all went boom on social media I never thought I would come through it. Oh attempted suicide our daughter literally wanted nothing to do with her dad and I couldn't even face washing myself to get dressed, I had taken a week off after court in case this had happened so we could plan, daughter was on week off from school so we literally lay low for the next week just living in our little bubble came off all social media

oh was suspended on full pay due to newspaper article, when he went for meeting at work they literally didn't know what to do as the paper had left so much to the imagination oh chose to resign as he didn't want to work there had only been there for around 6 weeks as he wisely took redundancy at work last year before the court date. Oh was back to a new job thw following week 30 mins away but outwith our local area nobody knows him and he can be himself

our daughter returned to school her closest friends were very loyal to her they never said anything but she could tell they were looking out for her, one person said something at school to her but the school reacted immediately and she has had no other issues what so ever.

I went to see my manager she was great took all senior staff in and advised them of situation, if anything was said everything reported to her, my first day back I felt sick with nerves but nothing has ever been said to me, I am involved with the community in my Job and everyone has made me so welcome I have had no issues, I had my first community event yesterday didn't sleep for over a week worrying nobody would show up as its me hosting we made over £2000 for the cause in 2 hours the place was buzzing.

Oh is working through his community payback again he is doing it in another district as he doesn't want to expose himself within the area, his private psychologist is working on his self confidence he now goes to the shops in our town with no issues or worries.

Last night I turned around and there sitting on the couch together was my oh and daughter watching Glastonbury I felt so overwhelmed I never dreamt I would see this again, there is light at the end of the tunnel folks, take a day at a time, strength and love will get you through this.

We are off on holiday for a few days tomorrow just an air b n b but we go as a family and for that I am truly grateful for, 22 months since the knock and 4 months since sentencing he was given 1 year register, 1 year supervision, 180 hours community payback, he works 5 days per week and does at least 1 day per week community pay back I feel he needs 1 day off per week.





The road has seen lots of bumps and we still struggle with our mental health but we fight together so many times I thought my marriage was over as I couldn't see any hope,

Sorry for the long read but there is some hope.

Thank you upset I know i found myself looking for answers on the forum from day one but deep down I think it was hope I needed more than anything