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Ocean13

Member since
April 2024

83 posts

Hi everyone. So since the knock in Feb we have pretty much been given dates to ring the OIC back for an update and each time there isn’t one and told to ring again in another month. We’ve been doing this and I keep getting so anxious each time leading up to it. Has anyone else been doing this and getting in this cycle? I’m starting to wonder whether to leave it until they call as the there’s so much anxiety leading up to phoning them. I hate the whole cycle of every month getting wound up wondering if there will be any news only to get let down each time. Is it better to let them do their job and wait until they contact us? I’m worried it’ll lead to them forgetting about our case but it’s so distressing.

Posted Mon July 1, 2024 11:42amReport post

Bub84

Member since
January 2024

130 posts

Hi Ocean we used to message the OIC every month and we always had the same reply.. Sorry no update yet. We gave up messaging in the end and they contacted us at the beginning of June to say the case had been sent to cps. Really there isn't much they can say while investigating but we were glad to hear an update regards cps as it finally felt like we had moved a small step forward after months of no updates. Xx

Posted Mon July 1, 2024 11:47amReport post

Ocean13

Member since
April 2024

83 posts

Thanks I feel like it just adds to getting your hopes up by chasing them all the time. I was hoping in might give them a kick up the backside to get on with it but I don't know if I'm wasting more stress by trying to get answers all the time..

Posted Mon July 1, 2024 3:28pmReport post

SadAndWorried

Member since
October 2019

155 posts

Hi Ocean13, if I were you I'd just call or message and so youve decided not to call monthly and instead wait for the update when there is one. As they'll call you when things start to move, they wouldn't wait for you to call so anytime you are calling it's pretty much a certain there is no update or you'd already know it. Unfortunately calling won't speed things up, nothing seems too. Just call as and when you want to. This journey is stressful enough without calling monthly and being upset before, during and after. xx

Posted Mon July 1, 2024 5:06pmReport post

Ocean13

Member since
April 2024

83 posts

Thank you both for your replies! Ironically, we did receive a call after I'd posted that and my OH is to go in for an interview next week. The anxiety has upped now :( xx

Posted Mon July 1, 2024 7:49pmReport post

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June 2024

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SadAndWorried

Member since
October 2019

155 posts

Hi Ocean,

I'm sorry he needs to go in for another interview. This journey is terrifying with all the unknowns and waiting! I hope you are okay!! xx

Posted Tue July 2, 2024 6:39amReport post

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