Its that Weekly Friday check in x
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Afternoon lovlies x
Well I for one am pleased its Friday, what a week at work, its flown by but so busy, not with the work but emotionally demanding, my area of work is predominantly a Male environment and I am fortunate to have a great working relationship with everyone, there are a couple of the guys who are struggling with personal issues, nothing like what we have been through, but the one thing they do have in common is they dont openly talk, the two guys i have been supporting are aware of my situation with HC and our journey so they feel even worse having to bring there issues to me, but the fact they can they are really appreciative, and just taking some time talking other than about work is actually really beneficial, one of them brought me a bottle of wine to say thank you, he really didn't have (it is in the fridge for later ;-)
The forum this week has also brought a lot of new posts (its scary how much this crime is increasing) and new people are finding themselves in our situation x
Had a video call with HC and he is doing well x
Picked the furbaby up after work so this weekend is all about her and walks xx
I hope you all find something nice to do over your weekend
Love sent as always xx
Well I for one am pleased its Friday, what a week at work, its flown by but so busy, not with the work but emotionally demanding, my area of work is predominantly a Male environment and I am fortunate to have a great working relationship with everyone, there are a couple of the guys who are struggling with personal issues, nothing like what we have been through, but the one thing they do have in common is they dont openly talk, the two guys i have been supporting are aware of my situation with HC and our journey so they feel even worse having to bring there issues to me, but the fact they can they are really appreciative, and just taking some time talking other than about work is actually really beneficial, one of them brought me a bottle of wine to say thank you, he really didn't have (it is in the fridge for later ;-)
The forum this week has also brought a lot of new posts (its scary how much this crime is increasing) and new people are finding themselves in our situation x
Had a video call with HC and he is doing well x
Picked the furbaby up after work so this weekend is all about her and walks xx
I hope you all find something nice to do over your weekend
Love sent as always xx
Good afternoon Friday check in,
Upset, what a wonderful thing you're doing by supporting your male colleagues. You have such a big heart and really make a difference to other peoples well being.
My son continues to do well and has just heard from probation that he'll hopefully be starting the Horizon course within the next couple of months, a year after his sentencing. I'm really hoping that doing the course might put him in a stronger position to challenge SS about having unsupervised contact but at the moment that's not a challenge he feels ready to face.
We have my husbands cousin and her children and a couple of close friends coming round tomorrow for a BBQ so I'm hoping the weather will be better than it is today.
Too all those of you in the early days of your journey I read this recently and thought you might find it helpful
Take a shower, wash off the day.
Drink a glass of water. Make the room dark. Lie down and close your eyes. Notice the silence. Notice your heart. Still beating.
Still fighting. You made it, after all. You made it, another day. And you can make it one more.
You're doing just fine.
Charlotte Eriksson
Upset, what a wonderful thing you're doing by supporting your male colleagues. You have such a big heart and really make a difference to other peoples well being.
My son continues to do well and has just heard from probation that he'll hopefully be starting the Horizon course within the next couple of months, a year after his sentencing. I'm really hoping that doing the course might put him in a stronger position to challenge SS about having unsupervised contact but at the moment that's not a challenge he feels ready to face.
We have my husbands cousin and her children and a couple of close friends coming round tomorrow for a BBQ so I'm hoping the weather will be better than it is today.
Too all those of you in the early days of your journey I read this recently and thought you might find it helpful
Take a shower, wash off the day.
Drink a glass of water. Make the room dark. Lie down and close your eyes. Notice the silence. Notice your heart. Still beating.
Still fighting. You made it, after all. You made it, another day. And you can make it one more.
You're doing just fine.
Charlotte Eriksson
All good for me too. I too work in a mostly male environment and I think it means SO much when you show compassion as society expects men to be tough guys.
I'm definately a much better person than I was - wrapped up safely in my own little world. Rocked by this journey I now realise people carry pain in their life, pain they keep hidden from the outside world....... it doesn't cost a penny to treat each other nicely and it could make their day or even be as important as a life-line.... good job done Upset xxxxxxx. You are one of the kindest people that breathes in my opinion.....
My boy is ok and upbeat. I'm so glad he's on a decent block with private shower and loo. Horror stories coming from his old wing. My goodness the balloon would go up if dogs were treated like this.... so wrong, they are human beings....
So all good and Smile is smiling with no tears!
I'm definately a much better person than I was - wrapped up safely in my own little world. Rocked by this journey I now realise people carry pain in their life, pain they keep hidden from the outside world....... it doesn't cost a penny to treat each other nicely and it could make their day or even be as important as a life-line.... good job done Upset xxxxxxx. You are one of the kindest people that breathes in my opinion.....
My boy is ok and upbeat. I'm so glad he's on a decent block with private shower and loo. Horror stories coming from his old wing. My goodness the balloon would go up if dogs were treated like this.... so wrong, they are human beings....
So all good and Smile is smiling with no tears!
Ocean x
Thank you, this journey has really taught me so much, I have always tried to never judge a book by its cover, but now when people complain about such trivial things I try to put things in to perspective, men just dont open up.do they, so at work I know there are so many that know my situation and not one has ever said anything other than shown compassion, so for me no matter how difficult it has been I just want to be someone they can open up to and if they ask I am completely open about our journey xx
Your son has overcome so many hurdles and he is gaining his confidence x the horizon course is tough from what HC has said as a few of the guys where he is has done as in mentally draining, but does help them xx
Thank you, this journey has really taught me so much, I have always tried to never judge a book by its cover, but now when people complain about such trivial things I try to put things in to perspective, men just dont open up.do they, so at work I know there are so many that know my situation and not one has ever said anything other than shown compassion, so for me no matter how difficult it has been I just want to be someone they can open up to and if they ask I am completely open about our journey xx
Your son has overcome so many hurdles and he is gaining his confidence x the horizon course is tough from what HC has said as a few of the guys where he is has done as in mentally draining, but does help them xx
I love reading all of your weekly check ins. It's my second favourite type of post, right behind the stories of hope shared from people further along than myself. I think it's because you are all just getting on with life, trying to make it through.
I too work mostly with men. Two of my co-workers have lost teenage children suddenly this year. In my opinion, that is the only pain I think is worse than what we experience.
At the end of this month it will be one year since my "knock". I am doing so much better today, yet still very sad. I have connected with a local woman with a similar story and we plan to meet in person soon. This weekend I have a visit with family from our of town, a visit with my husband and our kids, and I'm meeting a couple friends for a drink on the patio.
Have a good weekend everyone!
I too work mostly with men. Two of my co-workers have lost teenage children suddenly this year. In my opinion, that is the only pain I think is worse than what we experience.
At the end of this month it will be one year since my "knock". I am doing so much better today, yet still very sad. I have connected with a local woman with a similar story and we plan to meet in person soon. This weekend I have a visit with family from our of town, a visit with my husband and our kids, and I'm meeting a couple friends for a drink on the patio.
Have a good weekend everyone!
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Everyone at my work knows what has happened. The blokes I work with are decent, compassionate men. I am lucky.
Starting to feel a bit more positive. My counsellor only wants to see me fortnightly and she asked me why I was there as to her I seem like a strong woman who knows what she wants moving forward. It doesn't often feel like that but it has given me a wee boost.
Starting to feel a bit more positive. My counsellor only wants to see me fortnightly and she asked me why I was there as to her I seem like a strong woman who knows what she wants moving forward. It doesn't often feel like that but it has given me a wee boost.
Hello friday check in,
Last weekend went for a long walk up a local hill (but feels like a mountain as its very high and steep) but it is my happy place. Weather was great, and my young dog came with me with a friend. Perfect.
Still have not got an outfit for my sons wedding.
But still going dancing and focusing on that. Next week it is my and my sons birthday (same day) it will be different as one son is now abroad. But got a few days off work so will watch Wimbledon as I love the tennis.
Upset.....I am glad that the men in your workplace have you in their corner.
Ocean.....I hope you have a nice bbq and the weather is good for u. And i love that saying. Thank you
Smile.....so nice to hear you are not smiling through tears
Prairiemom .....i hope you have fun with your friends. We all deserve some fun
Anxiousgirl.....I am glad that you feeling more positive. This journey is so hard and yes we all forget how strong we all are.
Hope everyone has a good weekend
Last weekend went for a long walk up a local hill (but feels like a mountain as its very high and steep) but it is my happy place. Weather was great, and my young dog came with me with a friend. Perfect.
Still have not got an outfit for my sons wedding.
But still going dancing and focusing on that. Next week it is my and my sons birthday (same day) it will be different as one son is now abroad. But got a few days off work so will watch Wimbledon as I love the tennis.
Upset.....I am glad that the men in your workplace have you in their corner.
Ocean.....I hope you have a nice bbq and the weather is good for u. And i love that saying. Thank you
Smile.....so nice to hear you are not smiling through tears
Prairiemom .....i hope you have fun with your friends. We all deserve some fun
Anxiousgirl.....I am glad that you feeling more positive. This journey is so hard and yes we all forget how strong we all are.
Hope everyone has a good weekend
Smile x
So glad our boy is doing well x
And thank you for your kind words, we just clicked from day one xx
So glad our boy is doing well x
And thank you for your kind words, we just clicked from day one xx
Prairiemom x
So pleased you have met someone going through the same journey, and deffinatly if you get a chance to arrange a meet so x
I have met some incredibly amazing ladies here and have been so fortunate to have found Smile, we just clicked from one x
This journey is horrendous yet no matter how difficult it is we are just there for each other
Men just dont know how to open up and discuss there feelings in general, to loose a child is heartbreaking, x
The reason for my check in was just to make sure everyone was ok and to know they are mot alone, but rather than focus on the reason why we were here it was about us to realise how incredibly strong and inspiring each one of you are, it's a post to just to share how the week has been good or bad, if someone is struggling we just get it and now its just become the regular weekly routine
There is no pressure to.post, but its about knowing we are there xx
So pleased you have met someone going through the same journey, and deffinatly if you get a chance to arrange a meet so x
I have met some incredibly amazing ladies here and have been so fortunate to have found Smile, we just clicked from one x
This journey is horrendous yet no matter how difficult it is we are just there for each other
Men just dont know how to open up and discuss there feelings in general, to loose a child is heartbreaking, x
The reason for my check in was just to make sure everyone was ok and to know they are mot alone, but rather than focus on the reason why we were here it was about us to realise how incredibly strong and inspiring each one of you are, it's a post to just to share how the week has been good or bad, if someone is struggling we just get it and now its just become the regular weekly routine
There is no pressure to.post, but its about knowing we are there xx
Hi upset mum! I'm glad you have a good support system at work and I'm sure going through this experience means you are more capable of understanding and people feel comfortable enough to talk to you.
I've been struggling at work this week knowing that my OH's first interview is coming up. With more workload and trying to carry on through the day, pretending I'm fine and focus on my work it's adding a lot of pressure and I feel drained.
I'll be working on the day he goes into the station and am so scared about how I'll cope and fear hearing any bad news.
This weekend we've planned to go for a long walk which I hope will help to clear our minds even for a little while.
Wishing everyone lots of strength and a good weekend. I will definitely be treating myself to some wine that we also have in the fridge. Cheers!
I've been struggling at work this week knowing that my OH's first interview is coming up. With more workload and trying to carry on through the day, pretending I'm fine and focus on my work it's adding a lot of pressure and I feel drained.
I'll be working on the day he goes into the station and am so scared about how I'll cope and fear hearing any bad news.
This weekend we've planned to go for a long walk which I hope will help to clear our minds even for a little while.
Wishing everyone lots of strength and a good weekend. I will definitely be treating myself to some wine that we also have in the fridge. Cheers!
Anxious x
That is a good step forward and it just shows how incredibly strong you are, it may not feel like it but rewind to day one to where you are now , absolutely take the positive and hold your head high lovely xx
That is a good step forward and it just shows how incredibly strong you are, it may not feel like it but rewind to day one to where you are now , absolutely take the positive and hold your head high lovely xx
Webb89 x
So pleased for you x
The outfit will just happen, when you least expect it you will find the perfect one xx
So pleased for you x
The outfit will just happen, when you least expect it you will find the perfect one xx
Ocean13
Its easier to say dont let work get to you, with everything you have going on its understandable, but sometimes you have to step back and breathe , are you able to confide with a manager as to what is happening, not the journey you are on but how you are? Xx
Its easier to say dont let work get to you, with everything you have going on its understandable, but sometimes you have to step back and breathe , are you able to confide with a manager as to what is happening, not the journey you are on but how you are? Xx
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Quietlife x
So sorry you have found yourself here x
We are here for each other so never feel like you are alone
We understand this journey so please reach out if you need us xx
So sorry you have found yourself here x
We are here for each other so never feel like you are alone
We understand this journey so please reach out if you need us xx
Good morning, I'm a bit late posting to this
We're having a different weekend to last weekend when we had our granddaughter staying with us while our daughter went out drinking. She was good and only woke up at 3.30am but I don't know if I woke her up when I went to the toilet. Then she was all smiles when she saw me. Our daughter wasn't as good though lol. She got completely wasted and only remember going in 2 pubs (they went in 5 pubs). It was her first night out and she's not used to it.
Not much has happened, just busy at work as usual. Was supposed to have my appraisal on Friday but my manager had to sort out a problem with the builders we have in at the moment, but I wasn't told this. So I wasted half an hour waiting for her when I could have been working. Still I had a nice catch up with my colleague who I don't talk to much now I don't work in the same office as her. On Monday we had an inset day and we were practicing lockdown if we get an intruder onsite. The only problem was they decided to do the lockdown at 2pm and I finish work on a Monday at 2pm, so I had to wait and quickly text my OH who had come to pick me up that I couldn't come out yet.
We're having a different weekend to last weekend when we had our granddaughter staying with us while our daughter went out drinking. She was good and only woke up at 3.30am but I don't know if I woke her up when I went to the toilet. Then she was all smiles when she saw me. Our daughter wasn't as good though lol. She got completely wasted and only remember going in 2 pubs (they went in 5 pubs). It was her first night out and she's not used to it.
Not much has happened, just busy at work as usual. Was supposed to have my appraisal on Friday but my manager had to sort out a problem with the builders we have in at the moment, but I wasn't told this. So I wasted half an hour waiting for her when I could have been working. Still I had a nice catch up with my colleague who I don't talk to much now I don't work in the same office as her. On Monday we had an inset day and we were practicing lockdown if we get an intruder onsite. The only problem was they decided to do the lockdown at 2pm and I finish work on a Monday at 2pm, so I had to wait and quickly text my OH who had come to pick me up that I couldn't come out yet.
Hi Upsetmum,
I have spoken to HR and she knows vaguely what's going on as I got the call about the knock when I was at work and was so devastated I had to go home.
Unfortunately I work in a male dominated environment and they like to act like macho men so I don't feel comfortable talking to my manager. I'm telling myself I just have to get through this week which I think will be one of the hardest since this all started x
I have spoken to HR and she knows vaguely what's going on as I got the call about the knock when I was at work and was so devastated I had to go home.
Unfortunately I work in a male dominated environment and they like to act like macho men so I don't feel comfortable talking to my manager. I'm telling myself I just have to get through this week which I think will be one of the hardest since this all started x