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Hynsith

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Welcome to the forum where you will get some answers & more important,solidarity & understanding.

You must try to take each stage one at a time. There is nothing you can do while person is being investigated. Sadly it can take several years. You just have to carry on as if this is not in your life. Crazy!!
Please use the LFF helpline to have a sympathetic ear to offload onto. They can also advise you on any appropriate courses if your other half is admitting that he has a problem.
This is not a normal situation but all along you must tell yourself that YOU have done nothing wrong

There is little point contacting a solicitor until interviewed. Then it is essential.

I sincerely hope No Further Action is taken.

Re solicitors, OH took on a specialist solicitor right at the start and I've personally found it reassuring to have someone who's handled many hundreds of these cases to talk to. So I'd personally say its worth it you can afford it, but thats just me.

It can take a while for the forensics. Just because they say that is the stage it is at doesn't mean they are actively doing right now. It will be in a queue, I believe.

Sometimes a follow up interview is undertaken if there is new evidence and/or the police discuss what they will be sending to CPS.

We found once CPS set charges a plea hearing follows a month later, with sentencing within a month of that. So it takes ages to hearing anything then feel like it ramps up from there.

Unfortunately it could takes years (took two years from arrest to sentencing for my person).

We found 'chasing' the police did nothing, they didn't give any timeframes.

The time between arrest and sentencing is best spent for your person to get help from LFF or other organizations to begin rehabilitation. The 'support' from probation wasnt amazing and was quite general, best to get the support from specialist focused organizations, like LFF

It's such a long winded process and so unnecessary in my eyes for anything to take this long, guilty or not guilty it's the toll it takes on the person accused and their family.

we still aren't quite at the end (trial happening next week) but my OH was arrested nearly 4 years ago and all this time they've had extension after extension to come up with some sort of evidence pack. Although I never wanted it to go to trial I'm praying we can get some closure of an end in sight.



feel free to find my post think I named it 'upcoming trial' it may give you an insight to our process so far but it's quite in depth and may or may not be similar to your situation.



Be strong, although it is so to be.

Hi hyacinth

welcome to the club nobody wants to be in. I think there unfortunately are a number of "waits" in this process.

we are fortunate in that knock to forensics was quite quick; 6wks. But the police have told us we're not top of their list and they have more serious cases to deal with first. So no idea when or if charges will be made, if bail will just be extended or how long it will take after that.

we're in an area with a bit of a general crime spree at the minute (cost of living and deprived area makes for some bad decisions). Our local police have a considerable backlog for online offences too by the sounds of it and have told us our case isn't the worst or their priority.



I hate the waiting, it leaves the whole family not just the offender in limbo. The stress and impact on us as secondary victims is awful. As others have said try take it one day at a time. I am prepared for the worst case scenario but hoping for anything better. I've got mini "if x happens" plans thought out as I don't do well with the unexpected. I like to be prepared.

At the end of the day we're doing all we can and it's just a miserable waiting game. But we're all here for you so please keep checking in.

Does anyone know when/how we find out

1. if police are sending to CPS (and what charges we are facing)

2. When we find out whether CPS want to go ahead

I've been advised by SW that press in the area release name address and photo online in ALL cases. I'm seriously having to think about deleting all social media and trace of myself online, moving my child out of school, getting a new job out of area, selling our house and finding somewhere new to live or emergency housing (unlikely to afford a mortgage on my own due to current prices) and change our names which is going to take time and planning.

I need to know how long I have and realistically when I would need to start. I need to protect my child from the fallout. I can take whatever they want to throw at me but can't have my child being bullied or socially excluded or unsafe in their own home because of something stupid his Dad did. Also I don't want the stigma to follow him or for him being confused for his dad in the future (similar name).

Holding the grenade, the sw has given you false information. Not all cases are reported, not all the cases reported have a photo.
I deleted all pictures of my partner from my social media but I have remained on there. My partner's case was in the media and we've not had any backlash xxx

Thank you distressed. She was adamant that photos and names are always included in our area if there's a conviction. Its been consuming me even since she told me.

I still wish I knew what we were facing. Solicitor seems to think it's very weak evidence but they still found something.....and police are very tight lipped. I think they've spent so much time and effort they want some sort of result as they had tons to go through (we've got about 20years of shared family/holiday photos etc all digital).