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Just spoken to the police...my OH as 2 charges one for talking sexually to a minor and the other was incent to a female child) so asking her to touch herself. Am I wrong to still stand beside him? I'm a mess I don't know what to do
It is absolutely your choice whether you stand beside your person. You know the context of their offending and the person they are beside this.
there is no right or wrong answer
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there is no right or wrong answer
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So many thoughts are going through my head. Just hope we find out more when we've been to court. For my sake and for his
How does it align with what he's told you himself?
Hi - you will learn very quickly this journey is not 'black & white' there's many grey areas with no direct answers.
ive said it so many times, go along with your gut feelings and go with whatever puts your mind at peace, even if others disagree. Your life your relationship.
ive been through hell to have some sort of relationship with my son in prison and I don't regret it for one second.
ive said it so many times, go along with your gut feelings and go with whatever puts your mind at peace, even if others disagree. Your life your relationship.
ive been through hell to have some sort of relationship with my son in prison and I don't regret it for one second.
You might want to ask him for full disclosure; the charges should detail all the evidence that will be disclosed in court.
There shouldn't be any surprises in court as the prosecution should give all the evidence to the defence
it wasn't pleasant reading all the evidence but it did align with what he'd told me and helped me to trust him again
Good luck and thinking of you
Xxx
There shouldn't be any surprises in court as the prosecution should give all the evidence to the defence
it wasn't pleasant reading all the evidence but it did align with what he'd told me and helped me to trust him again
Good luck and thinking of you
Xxx
I agree with Smile, in that most cases are not black and white. The reasons why our people do what they do are complicated and deep. Only you can decide whether you stay or leave but you might want to take in to account whether your person is showing remorse, whether there is a willingness to engage in a programme of self help, a willingness to work in identifying why he offended in the first place and what he is doing to ensure it won't happen again.
Only you can answer that. I believed my ex husband would never put us through this again. I really really believed that. However, I'm waiting for the CPS to process his second case so he'll be heading back to prison. I think I was incredibly naive. I now know that he will always prioritise "it" over myself and his children. I knew very early on though that I couldn't share a bed with someone who had deliberately sought out those images and put us through hell. And trust and respect that was there in our 30 year relationship was gone. X
I think he personally went looking to talk to someone. That someone was 21 and then mid way in the convo the age turned to 12. But the conversation continued. I don't think he intentionally went out to look for a child if u get me. I'm just take it day by day. C what happens in court on Thursday and work from their.
thank everyone x
thank everyone x
Only you know whether or not to believe him.
My head goes down the road of he wanted to talk to someone - about what? If they had been over aged would it have continued.
But that is probably me - a bit bitter and cynical. And single!
I would have loved the decision to have been made for me as it was the hardest decision I've ever had to make. Life does go on.
My head goes down the road of he wanted to talk to someone - about what? If they had been over aged would it have continued.
But that is probably me - a bit bitter and cynical. And single!
I would have loved the decision to have been made for me as it was the hardest decision I've ever had to make. Life does go on.
My understanding is you shouldn't have to wait till court? His solicitor should see everything significant prior to the trial?