Approaching week 7
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We are about to enter our 7th week post - knock.
Partner is still denying any knowledge of what he has been accused of. For those not familiar with our story, he has been accused of 1 cat B image which was flagged by the kik app.
I can't even remember what life was like before all this happened now.
I continue to stand by him. He says he's innocent then for better or worse I'm right here next to him until I'm given any evidence that shows me he's lying.
Police said 10 to 12 weeks for devices to be checked. So, 6 down, entering week 7, 6 to go.
A halfway milestone I never dreamed we'd be hitting.
Partner is still denying any knowledge of what he has been accused of. For those not familiar with our story, he has been accused of 1 cat B image which was flagged by the kik app.
I can't even remember what life was like before all this happened now.
I continue to stand by him. He says he's innocent then for better or worse I'm right here next to him until I'm given any evidence that shows me he's lying.
Police said 10 to 12 weeks for devices to be checked. So, 6 down, entering week 7, 6 to go.
A halfway milestone I never dreamed we'd be hitting.
We are 14 months in and was told 12 weeks. Try not to focus on a time scale my lovely as you'll drive yourself insane if it doesn't happen. My anxiety levels were through the roof around the 10 week mark as I was so focused on the 12 week mark that came and went.
Sending you love and strength to get through this. I hope its a much quicker process for you x
Sending you love and strength to get through this. I hope its a much quicker process for you x
Thanks both
I can't believe how wrong the time scales can be. This is our lives they're dealing with not to mention the impact on the people accused. Whether they are guilty or not is not my place to judge but no one deserves to live with this level of fear for so long x
I can't believe how wrong the time scales can be. This is our lives they're dealing with not to mention the impact on the people accused. Whether they are guilty or not is not my place to judge but no one deserves to live with this level of fear for so long x
What has the solicitor said? I would find it very hard for the cps to charge on one image as it could be that your husband didn't know what the image was until it was clicked on. They need to prove that he would have know what it was. Also with 1 image then it could also be claimed that it was accidental. I really dont understand why the police are even looking into it. Hope it all works out for you x
I am afraid they will look into an alleged one image in case they come across others. For instance get may have been alerted to this image but it doesn't mean that other images were not downloaded prior.
I agree the time scales are disgusting. The offenders are living in fear and the families are going through hell everyday. It's not right and something needs to be done about it.
I agree the time scales are disgusting. The offenders are living in fear and the families are going through hell everyday. It's not right and something needs to be done about it.
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If your husband is saying he knew nothing about it and hes telling the truth then I doubt they will find more. He needs to be open and honest with you now as he is keeping anything from you it will make matters worse x
Thanks everyone.
I was fortunate in a weird way to be present for the knock, so I know it's only the 1 image they were alerted to as that's what the officers said in front of me. They said it was an image that was on a database which automatically flags up to them. They have also agreed that if he was prolifically looking then the chances are they would have had more than 1 flag due to the size of this database, if that makes sense.
He maintains that he is being honest with me so I have no choice but to believe him. From what I have read they will have a hard time bringing charges against him if what he is saying is true, as the police have confirmed to me that the image was of a 'teen' which backs up his theory that he has unwittingly looked at a child thinking they were an adult.
He swears that he has never searched for it or asked for it and has never had the inclination to do so. So, I have to pray that he is telling the truth because all that means they won't be able to prove intent and there will be no case to answer.
If he's lying then this is all so much worse, because I've begged him to just level with me and tell me the truth no matter how awful and this is his story which he has stuck to.
Just a waiting game isnt it. I appriciate that they have to see if there are more, but why on earth it takes so long is what I don't understand ????
I was fortunate in a weird way to be present for the knock, so I know it's only the 1 image they were alerted to as that's what the officers said in front of me. They said it was an image that was on a database which automatically flags up to them. They have also agreed that if he was prolifically looking then the chances are they would have had more than 1 flag due to the size of this database, if that makes sense.
He maintains that he is being honest with me so I have no choice but to believe him. From what I have read they will have a hard time bringing charges against him if what he is saying is true, as the police have confirmed to me that the image was of a 'teen' which backs up his theory that he has unwittingly looked at a child thinking they were an adult.
He swears that he has never searched for it or asked for it and has never had the inclination to do so. So, I have to pray that he is telling the truth because all that means they won't be able to prove intent and there will be no case to answer.
If he's lying then this is all so much worse, because I've begged him to just level with me and tell me the truth no matter how awful and this is his story which he has stuck to.
Just a waiting game isnt it. I appriciate that they have to see if there are more, but why on earth it takes so long is what I don't understand ????
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When I spoke to a solicitor they wouldn't even entertain taking us on as a case until the police came back with more evidence, if there even is any.
He is in the group of men who weren't arrested at the time, which I understand is because of changes in bail laws. The officer in charge actually said to me "we could arrest him on suspicion but we aren't going to" which makes me think they believe him?
Who flipping knows. You could drive yourself mad reading between lines couldn't you.
When I spoke to a solicitor they wouldn't even entertain taking us on as a case until the police came back with more evidence, if there even is any.
He is in the group of men who weren't arrested at the time, which I understand is because of changes in bail laws. The officer in charge actually said to me "we could arrest him on suspicion but we aren't going to" which makes me think they believe him?
Who flipping knows. You could drive yourself mad reading between lines couldn't you.
Hi Hilltop478
I was present when the knock came... Police stated they had evidence of one movie clip being downloaded... Anyway devices were seized.. parner released under investigation and in the end the found 4 movie clips... no more than 30 seconds and a photo. All had been deleted and were of teens with no adults. Anyway he was given a 12 month suspended sentence... we are still together... he was open and honest that the images he had deleted were not what he was searching for but using a file sharing site resulted in movie files being sent to him showing under 18s.
Fingers crossed that they do only find one image and your partner has been totally open and truthful...
I was present when the knock came... Police stated they had evidence of one movie clip being downloaded... Anyway devices were seized.. parner released under investigation and in the end the found 4 movie clips... no more than 30 seconds and a photo. All had been deleted and were of teens with no adults. Anyway he was given a 12 month suspended sentence... we are still together... he was open and honest that the images he had deleted were not what he was searching for but using a file sharing site resulted in movie files being sent to him showing under 18s.
Fingers crossed that they do only find one image and your partner has been totally open and truthful...
Hi hilltop. Yes it will drive you mad. Just try and stay positive.
Snowdrops I dont understand that your partner was convicted if things were deleted. That's quite harsh and unfair. You read about cases that are dropped etc but for silly reasons like hundreds of images in temporary files. That would still show they were viewed etc yet case was dropped. I'm wondering if those stories are actually true. X
Snowdrops I dont understand that your partner was convicted if things were deleted. That's quite harsh and unfair. You read about cases that are dropped etc but for silly reasons like hundreds of images in temporary files. That would still show they were viewed etc yet case was dropped. I'm wondering if those stories are actually true. X
Hi snowdrop
That's awful that they still convicted him. Was it all an accident? X
That's awful that they still convicted him. Was it all an accident? X
Thank you for your kind replies...
In court the CPS actually used his actions of deleting the movie clips against my partner. They accused him of deliberately trying to hide his perverted and deviant thoughts and by deleting trying to destroy evidence. Do he was damned as soon as the images were downloaded. As you can imagine the local press had a field day with this accusation and used it in their headline.. It appears the numbers are relevant in some areas of the country and not others and deleting material can actually make it worse for the offender. Still we are both moving forward together, it's difficult... stressful and still very tearful at times.
In court the CPS actually used his actions of deleting the movie clips against my partner. They accused him of deliberately trying to hide his perverted and deviant thoughts and by deleting trying to destroy evidence. Do he was damned as soon as the images were downloaded. As you can imagine the local press had a field day with this accusation and used it in their headline.. It appears the numbers are relevant in some areas of the country and not others and deleting material can actually make it worse for the offender. Still we are both moving forward together, it's difficult... stressful and still very tearful at times.
Keep moving forward. Maybe because it was videos, I've heard they are looked at more severely than images? I hope in time you'll be able to relax a bit more. Keep your head held high, you've done nothing wrong. I think you are very brave xx