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Bondi

Member since
December 2023

65 posts

Posted Sun July 28, 2024 10:48pmReport post

Hi my son known his father was arrested for doing/looking at inappropriate things on the pc (not specific iioc as he is too young for that info!) and he isn't allowed to be alone with him etc. We have been quite open talking about it but he has recently asked if the neighbours know and the subject was touched upon when he was playing football with his peers, I feel he is wanting to discuss more with others with his curious mind....

Obviously it wouldn't take a genius to figure out his father may be involved in.

Has anyone had to have a conversation with preteen about who to share information with, I hate to say it's keeping secrets as its a slippery slope! I don't want everyone knowing our problems but don't want son also bottling it all up.

He has good support from school and close family know the full story (as much as we know anyway).

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1052 posts

Posted Mon July 29, 2024 8:26amReport post

Hi,

I think he's looking for answers. I would ask if there's anything on his mind and depending on his response you could give more information if you are comfortable doing so. Alternatively you could give him a list of people he can talk to about his dads situation if he wants to express his feelings to someone not directly connected to the situation. You'd need to prewarn the people that he may bring it up with them.

There was a peer group shared on here previously although I'm not sure if that was for children of those serving custodials. He might benefit from counselling or talking therapy, someone completely neutral.
Explaining about not sharing information with everyone protects us. Explain the importance of having a safe circle for times that they need to talk xxx

Holdingthegrenade

Member since
June 2024

161 posts

Posted Tue July 30, 2024 10:53pmReport post

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