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sydhuds

Member since
June 2024

37 posts

Hello everyone



I am wondering how long your journeys have taken from start to end.. from knock until sentencing

Posted Wed July 31, 2024 9:07amReport post

Bobbie

Member since
June 2024

32 posts

Hi , We had the knock for our son in Feb 2023 , charged in June 2024 , plea hearing July 2024 and now awaiting court date for sentencing which should be in about 6 weeks ish

Posted Wed July 31, 2024 10:15amReport post

Devastated_mum

Member since
July 2024

64 posts

We had the knock for our son December 2022, he was sentenced April 2024.

Unfortunately he is now on remand (was originally given suspended sentence) - arrested mid July, court on Fri...

Posted Wed July 31, 2024 11:31amReport post

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

170 posts

Knock Feb 22 and still waiting........

Posted Wed July 31, 2024 1:24pmReport post

Devastated_mum

Member since
July 2024

64 posts

NaturalMystic - https://get-help.stopitnow.org.uk/family-and-friends/family-and-friends-forum/topic/7588

Posted Wed July 31, 2024 3:13pmReport post

Devastated_mum

Member since
July 2024

64 posts


Posted Wed July 31, 2024 3:14pm
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Flower

Member since
February 2023

144 posts

16 months knock to sentencing, 18months and counting with social services with no end in sight for at least another year.

Posted Wed July 31, 2024 4:33pmReport post

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

925 posts

22 months from arrest to sentencing.

Posted Wed July 31, 2024 4:36pmReport post

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

409 posts

Knock July 2022 and still waiting.

It's a disgrace.

We also have 3 very young children.

Posted Wed July 31, 2024 5:12pm
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Poppop

Member since
September 2023

76 posts

My son case

Arrested 2023

Sentenced crown court July 2024

Can recall dates in between

So just under a year

Posted Wed July 31, 2024 6:40pmReport post

CM1256

Member since
December 2021

45 posts

Hi Sydyhuds



Knock October 2021 and no word yet as to what is happening.

Posted Wed July 31, 2024 6:44pmReport post

MC96

Member since
February 2022

30 posts

Hi,

Arrest Feb 2022, charged July 2024, Magistrates July 2024 and sentenced July 2024.

Once charges came through, it was a very quick process.

X

Posted Wed July 31, 2024 8:07pmReport post

Cassiopeia

Member since
February 2024

38 posts

11months from knock to sentencing.

Posted Thu August 1, 2024 12:41amReport post

Don’t know what to do

Member since
February 2024

13 posts

Knock Feb 2023

Charged July 2024

next date in October

Posted Thu August 1, 2024 7:11amReport post

Horsegirl

Member since
February 2024

29 posts

Got the knock beginning of Feb 2024 and appearing in magistrates court today. So sentencing will probably be in a month making my OH a very short timeline of 7 months.

Posted Thu August 1, 2024 8:39amReport post

Bea

Member since
August 2021

65 posts

I really think it depends on area.

My person was 23 months from arrest to caution. 23 very long months of delay after delay after delay.

Posted Thu August 1, 2024 10:23amReport post

Amethyst

Member since
September 2023

26 posts

Apologies all.. reading these replies has all scared me as they all specify sentencing, how many of your people have done prison time?

My partner is slim, barely 5'3 and would not last inside! Scares the life out of me, trying to be strong for the children

Case has now gone to CPS and just waiting

Posted Tue August 6, 2024 8:23pmReport post

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2481 posts

Amethyst x

Please try not to worry yourself (easier said than done)

Each case is so different and no one other than the judge on the day can decide on the sentence

If it ends up being a custodial, everything x it doesn't, he will be ok, my son is doing ok they adjust I think better than we do, but we learn to live a new normal whatever the outcome x

Posted Tue August 6, 2024 10:59pmReport post

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2711 posts

Good morning Amethyst - I'm with Upset on this. When we were told my son faced a long custodial I was filled with terror and dread. He is a sensitive bloke, very nieave and not in the least bit streetwise. In a crowd or with strangers he'd crumble......l

But I'm so proud how he's coped, he's gathered strength along the way, had education classes and works very hard as a gardener. Tells me there's no intimidation and the staff are mostly supportive . He's only had me for telephone and financial support so done the rest by himself.

No doubt he's had hardships and got a mountain to climb on release but he has done it, he's surviving.

Posted Wed August 7, 2024 4:10am
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Louise49

Member since
January 2021

501 posts

Hi, my partner got the knock January 2021. Finally went to sentencing in April 2024. He got suspended sentence, community service and the horizon course although that hadn't started yet. It was 3 and a half years of hell but we are out the other side, I stayed with him. Once sentencing was done and I knew there was no chance of media I could feel the anxiety slip away. I finally woke up in the mornings without that crippling fear of everything. Our life is pretty much back to normal apart from him doing community service once a week and seeing probation

Posted Wed August 7, 2024 8:31amReport post

ConflictedMum

Member since
August 2024

14 posts

Louise

I wake up every morning with that stomach churning panic. I don't want to wake up and try hard to go back to sleep. Never can.

Knock April 23 - Interview April 24 - Please July 24 - sentencing end this month.

cached pics a - c totaly approx 300

Did your oh not go on the SOR

Posted Wed August 7, 2024 9:05amReport post

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

925 posts

Conflicted

Your post really resonates with me as I too woke up every morning with that crippling fear and dread of what was to come. My son received a 2 year suspended sentence with his story being in the media and across Facebook twice. All my worst fears came true. His marriage ended, he lost his job, his home and everyone that knew him, knew what he'd done. I couldn't see a future.

Fast forward 10 months later and my son's children spend weekends with us (my son now lives with us and we provide the supervised contact), he has a little job, it's nothing like he was doing prior to his sentencing but gets him out of the house and interacting with people a few times a week. He has recently joined a 5 a side football team and goes to the gym regularly.

Prior to his arrest my son was struggling with a secret addiction which he hated hated himself for. His self esteem was zero and his confidence was non existent. 10 months later his self esteem is better than it's ever been, he smiles and laughs and is an amazing Dad to his children.

We have no idea what the future will look like. I still wake up with anxiety but I've learned to live with that because today life is good and for me today is what matters.

Posted Wed August 7, 2024 9:35amReport post

EBP

Member since
September 2021

230 posts

Ocean,Thankyou for your hopeful,positive post. Maybe there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Posted Wed August 7, 2024 9:40amReport post

worried mum

Member since
July 2021

17 posts

Knock June 2021 Charges Feb 2024 magistrates July 2024 Crown for sentencing 15/08/24

3 years 2 months of absolute hell

Posted Wed August 7, 2024 9:57amReport post

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

501 posts

@conflicted Mum, yes my partner also got SOR and SHPO 10 years for both. The SHPO is internet based as he was charged with possession of iioc. He's very very " lucky" if that's the right word. Before sentencing ( which was cancelled about 4 or 5 times) I really thought he would get custodial. I will say writing a character reference from me and he wrote a letter to the judge made a huge difference. The judge mentioned them a few times. I also think if anyone can face it and are still with their partner they should go into the court room. The judge didn't actually go into a lot of detail and ways actually pretty annoyed with the prosecution as to how long it took to get to court but actually it was down to the courts!! The going into the court was the scariest thing I've ever done but the judge acknowledged my presence and also commented that I was also a victim too. I cried the whole time in there!

Posted Wed August 7, 2024 12:37pm
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ConflictedMum

Member since
August 2024

14 posts

Thank you Louise

I have written my letter. My son is going to write his own too.



XX

Posted Wed August 7, 2024 12:59pmReport post

LonelyExpat

Member since
September 2021

18 posts

Hi,

We had the knock in January 2021.

Second interview November 2023.

Court letter with charges June 2024

Magistrates July 2024

Crown court tomorrow :(

Posted Wed August 7, 2024 7:19pmReport post

AnxiouslyUnsure

Member since
June 2024

5 posts

We got our knock in October 2022 and have just been informed that's it has now gone to CPS for review.

22 months down and still not at the end of it x

Posted Thu August 8, 2024 8:51amReport post

ConflictedMum

Member since
August 2024

14 posts

April 23 knock

April 24 first interview

July 24 arrested due to not receiving the letter requiring him to attend second interview. Plea

Court later this month (currently)

Posted Thu August 8, 2024 11:30amReport post

Livinginlimbo

Member since
August 2024

3 posts

The knock was earlier Jan 23 he goes to court this month to be sentenced

Posted Thu August 8, 2024 2:00pm
Edited Thu August 8, 2024 2:06pmReport post

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

516 posts

Arrested on a Tuesday, charged on the thursday and sentenced three weeks later! So did not see or speak to my OH until he was sentenced.

Posted Fri August 9, 2024 12:34amReport post

Ghost hunter 23

Member since
June 2020

37 posts

4 years but doesnt really end because now we have to deal with social services assessments again

Posted Fri August 9, 2024 2:10pmReport post

Siouxsie8

Member since
July 2022

13 posts

Had the knock June 2022 now waiting on CPS (since February!)

Posted Sun August 11, 2024 9:18amReport post

WorseThanAnyNightmare

Member since
April 2022

82 posts

Got the knock March 22, court Feb 23. Suspended sentence, 180 community payback, 35 days counselling, 10 year SOR.

I still shake and feel sick if I see a police car on our street. I still feel sick whenever the doorbell goes. I still have nightmares. I still question comments he makes. For me it is never ending.

Posted Thu August 15, 2024 11:10amReport post

Molly dog

Member since
October 2023

68 posts

2.5 years from knock charges a month ago plea hearing Tomorrow at magistrates cctv supplied and fitted on house just incase of trouble I'm in pieces just hope to god no media !!!

Posted Tue September 3, 2024 7:02amReport post

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

170 posts

Best of luck MollyDog, we shall be thinking of you. Sending big hugs from us all. Let us know how you get on X

Posted Tue September 3, 2024 11:35pmReport post

Anxiousmummy

Member since
July 2024

17 posts

Coming up 4 years.

knock dec 2020... all still ongoing. Trial delayed until Nov 2025... if it does manage to go ahead next yr it'll be 5years.

hate every single day.

Posted Wed September 4, 2024 10:29am
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LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

664 posts

Hi, the first knock was dealt with in about 5 weeks as he was remanded. The second knock was 2 1/2+ years ago, went to the CPS 3 months ago and still haven't heard anything. It's a living Hell. X

Posted Wed September 4, 2024 4:55pmReport post

D1286

Member since
November 2019

65 posts

From start to finish-full process for us.

Knock on the door September 2018, second interview March 2019, charged October 2019 court and sentencing March 2020.

My husband was convicted of possession of idoc. He got a 12month sentence suspended for 12months, probation for a year and 5years on the sex offenders register.

This was his first ever offence.

Thanks dani

Posted Mon November 18, 2024 11:17pmReport post

T2021

Member since
December 2020

163 posts

Knock jujy 2020.
charges September 2024. Pleading guilty.
sentencing to come shortly.

Posted Tue November 19, 2024 6:33pm
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Ifeeldestroyed

Member since
December 2024

1 post

My partner has just been arrested and taken in for questioning a month ago. I am beyond heartbroken, completely shell shocked and feel completely destroyed. It has taken me a few weeks to be able to even come onto this website. I have read all your messages about start to finish from 'the knock'. I am sat crying reading all your messages, I also keep now having panic attacks when I hear the police or just a knock comes on the door. It is a living nightmare, every second of every day, I can't stop thinking about everything. So far we are trying to work through this together and he is getting a lot of support and counselling, I on the other hand have refused as I'm just not ready but tonight I have come onto here just to try and get some 'help' from people going through the same nightmare. Our journey through all of this is just 4 weeks in, I am now selling and moving, I cannot bare to even think of this getting out in the media for my little town to read about. Your messages are difficult to read as I'm going through all the same emotions but they are also a support as there are people going through the same emotions as me and I'm not on my own. I'm sorry for the long message but thankyou all for sharing. Some days I wish I just didn't wake up, it's beyond any nightmare I could ever imagine. I am utterly heartbroken and absolutely scared to death of what the future holds be it together or on my own.

Posted Sun December 29, 2024 10:05pmReport post

26a20

Member since
December 2024

112 posts

Ifeeldestroyed - firstly I'm sorry you've ended up on here its a club nobody wants to join. Dont apologise for a long first message, I think most of us used our first message to rant, ramble and pour our hearts out.

Like you I'm only a month in and have had to accept this is not going to be a quick process. I think everyone of us can understand how you are feeling right now and although I won't say it will get better it will get easier.

Only advice I would give is to find support in whatever way is best for you, whether that's family, friends, GP, counsellor etc.

Posted Mon December 30, 2024 11:44amReport post

Sparrowfall

Member since
December 2024

9 posts

I can't help on timescales as only had the knock in October 2024 and obviously no update on anything yet, but wanted to reply ifeeldestroyed.



I'm not very much further along in this journey than you. Every day still feels like a nightmare. I also refused to get therapy until a few weeks ago because my stance was 'why should I? I haven't done anything wrong?'



I posted the other day about being unsure what to do moving forward and my house is a big part of that.

I would just say that the timescales everyone else is giving really show that you don't need to make any hast decisions. I'm only 3 months into this but I feel completely different now to how I felt a month ago. Give yourself time and grace. Your person knew this was coming (or at least that it was a possibility), you've been totally blindsided and need time to adjust to this new reality.



if you want to message someone to talk through things privately, I'm happy to listen xx

Posted Mon December 30, 2024 11:57amReport post

LosingIt

Member since
September 2024

215 posts

So sorry you find yourself here. Usually, it is 12-18 months but where we are the device has been downloaded in the space of 3 months and the OIC has just not reviewed it yet because of Christmas/New Year etc. I don't know how quickly it will progress from here. Based on what they said, interview, what they've said to solicitor I cannot imagine they view him as high risk so I am surprised it's come back this fast.

Posted Mon December 30, 2024 12:09pmReport post

Quick exit