I brother, my hero, my worst nightmare
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I had spoken out my whole life about how my biggest nightmare was a man in my life being convicted of this crime. Ever since I discovered sting videos, it's opened my eyes to how bad things can get. It sparked a fear I didn't have before and I spoke of it often. Then we had the knock. I knew what it was. My brother had suffered significant trauma his entire life but never engaged in treatment. His behaviour could be weird, disassociative and inexplainable, but never bad. I worried about him. Then when the words came out I felt like the world stopped. Two years later it's been all over social media and he's lost everything, a wonderful network of friends, family and overall life as he knew it. It was so much worse than we'd imagined. The shame is too much for me to take and I haven't just lost him, I've lost my mum who is a shell of who she once was. My relationship with my husband will never be the same again because I am not the same. I don't know how to cope. I love him, he was such a good person in every other way outwith his online activity. My world has collapsed under me and I don't know what to do
Well done for posting - you will get advice and support here but it may be better to post on the main Discussion forum which gets more reads.
Please phone the LFF helpline - they will listen to you and suggest support. Have you contacted your doctor - they are usually very supportive and can help you find the right type of support as well.
Lots of hugs - there are a lot of us in similar situations and we do understand the huge emotional turmoil that happens.
Please phone the LFF helpline - they will listen to you and suggest support. Have you contacted your doctor - they are usually very supportive and can help you find the right type of support as well.
Lots of hugs - there are a lot of us in similar situations and we do understand the huge emotional turmoil that happens.
so sorry you find yourself here but it will help you, I feel I could have written what you've wrote myself it's truly heartbreaking i hope you find the support that you need on here as everyone has felt what you feel so can maybe in time bring some comfort to you whilst you get over the shock and every other emotion you will feel it destroyed my family at first with my young family member it ripped my mum and dad and me to peaces when we got the call from my sister to say she'd had a knock and he was arrested instantly I wanted nothing to do with him I had written him out of my life just like that , and it nearly killed me I felt like someone had just called me and said he was dead it hit me like a train!!! but then I had to sit down and listen to all the facts that he hadn't been searching for it it was sent to him still terrible but to know he wasn't seeking it out lessoned the blow a little and you just deal qith things as they unfold God knows how we've gotten through this but we're here 9 months after sentencing gettinf on with life one day at a time
Hi, I'm so sorry. I completely related to your comment about your brother being a great person in every other way. It was the same with my ex. He was loved by me, his 4 children, his family and adored by the wider community. He was well known in the area which made things for us even worse. I know it's hard, I really do, but your brother is still there. What he and my ex have done is "Just" one element. It's not their entire being, even though it sure as hell feels like it! Xx
Just reading through various posts and your story caught my eye, as your brother is the offender.
My daughter is severely affected by her brothers crime so I resignate with your sentiments.
My daughter is severely affected by her brothers crime so I resignate with your sentiments.