My brother, my hero. My worst nightmare
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I had spoken out my whole life about how my biggest nightmare was a man in my life being convicted of this crime. Ever since I discovered sting videos, it's opened my eyes to how bad things can get. I was never concerned of anyone in my life, however it sparked a fear I didn't have before and I spoke of it often. Then we had the knock. I knew what it was. My brother had suffered significant trauma his entire life but never engaged in treatment. His behaviour could be weird, disassociative and inexplainable, but never bad. I worried about him. Then when the words came out I felt like the world stopped. Two years later it's been all over social media and he's lost everything, a wonderful network of good friends, an adoring family and overall life as he knew it. It was so much worse than we'd imagined. The shame is too much for me to take and I haven't just lost him, I've lost my mum who is a shell of who she once was. My relationship with my husband will never be the same again because I am not the same. I don't know how to cope. I love him, he was such a good person in every other way outwith his online activity which is not in line with who I knew my big brother to be. My world has collapsed under me and I don't know what to do
Hello,
Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends Forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.
If you haven't already done so, I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free, on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support and do their best to answer your questions. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.
I hope this has been helpful.
Take care,
Lucy
Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends Forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.
If you haven't already done so, I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free, on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support and do their best to answer your questions. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.
I hope this has been helpful.
Take care,
Lucy
Broken x
I am so sorry that you have found yourself here and for the pain you are going through
This journey really does engulf you with so much hurt and not knowing what to do
Absolutely reach out to LFF they are there to support you even just to be able to talk about what has happened, also speak to your GP
Maybe your mum would also benefit from contacting the helpline
You are in shock that is only natural, try to focus on you as your selfcare is extremely important
Sending hugs xx
I am so sorry that you have found yourself here and for the pain you are going through
This journey really does engulf you with so much hurt and not knowing what to do
Absolutely reach out to LFF they are there to support you even just to be able to talk about what has happened, also speak to your GP
Maybe your mum would also benefit from contacting the helpline
You are in shock that is only natural, try to focus on you as your selfcare is extremely important
Sending hugs xx
I am currently going through the same situation with my brother. He has always been a father figure to me growing up so I'm really struggling with how to handle the situation. I'm worried about what the future holds and how this will effect me and the family when all the information comes out.
I am new to this and have only just started to seek some guidance.
I am new to this and have only just started to seek some guidance.