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Hi, my husband wa arrested last week and bailed without charge for child images. He tell me it was not intentional and without giving details, I am inclined to believe him, but that doesn't change the facts. I don't want him in my house (no children) and am about to see a solicitor about divorce and a mortgage option I hope. I need advice, or even someone further down the line than me that it wil get better. I am swimming upstream here and feel like I am drowning. Thank you
Sorry to hear you're in the club nobody wants to be in. Divorces can be costly. Your person may need all their money for solicitors for their charges. If they lose their job or are sentenced they will have no income and may be able to get legal aid. However is non-offending partners aren't so lucky. I've looked into a legal separation. It's much cheaper and can be reversed if you change your mind further down the line as it sounds like you're very early in your awful journey after the knock.
Would they be likely to agree to divorce/separation? If you can sort joint things like the house etc amicably via mediation and get it down in writing it might not be as expensive. My person doesn't want to go that route but understands why I do, also their mental health is really low and I'm worried divorcing them whilst they're still in the recovery/shock period and we don't know what's happening might tip them over the edge. Also without sounding ruthless I hold all the cards, I've been supportive alllowing access to our child and keeping this very secret amongst close family and trying to be civil around each other so it doesn't upset our child and we still are a family (although a broken one). I have been financially independent and acting as a single parent since this whole thing started.
Would they be likely to agree to divorce/separation? If you can sort joint things like the house etc amicably via mediation and get it down in writing it might not be as expensive. My person doesn't want to go that route but understands why I do, also their mental health is really low and I'm worried divorcing them whilst they're still in the recovery/shock period and we don't know what's happening might tip them over the edge. Also without sounding ruthless I hold all the cards, I've been supportive alllowing access to our child and keeping this very secret amongst close family and trying to be civil around each other so it doesn't upset our child and we still are a family (although a broken one). I have been financially independent and acting as a single parent since this whole thing started.
Hi Alice,
I just wanted to tell you my story. My ex husband was convicted of downloading, uploaded IIOC, first offence, got 3 years in prison. We had 4 children and been in each others lives for 30 years. I simply didn't think he would put us all through it again because it was Hell. This was 7 years ago. 2 1/2 years ago he reoffended. The case went to the CPS 4 months ago but we haven't heard anything. I now know that he will always prioritise "it" over us. This last 2 1/2 years have been horrendous.
I also wanted to let you know that you can get Legal Aid for a divorce in these situations, if your partner gets convicted. It's means tested so might not apply to you but it's how I did mine. All the best to you. X
I just wanted to tell you my story. My ex husband was convicted of downloading, uploaded IIOC, first offence, got 3 years in prison. We had 4 children and been in each others lives for 30 years. I simply didn't think he would put us all through it again because it was Hell. This was 7 years ago. 2 1/2 years ago he reoffended. The case went to the CPS 4 months ago but we haven't heard anything. I now know that he will always prioritise "it" over us. This last 2 1/2 years have been horrendous.
I also wanted to let you know that you can get Legal Aid for a divorce in these situations, if your partner gets convicted. It's means tested so might not apply to you but it's how I did mine. All the best to you. X