Some advice
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We got the knock on the door Jan 23. Like others I thought we were happy until that knock.
He goes to court next week for sentencing and all of a sudden my brain is trying process everything and I can feel the emotions coming up.
My o/h had spoken to a 13 year old for 2 days most of which was normal chit chat and then he crossed a line with two messages. I also found out he been talking to others online to just not underage.
I thought the love would just go but it didn't. I didn't want to shut the door completely. We'd been together 13 years and married for 8 at that point. We have a son and I've been doing supervised visits. I'm trying to give my son stability, routine and so we have regularly visits.
what I've seen on here involves videos and images but the police checks came back as nothing else. I'm struggling wanting my son to have the best life and not knowing whats the best thing to do.
I feel like my life has been more affected as I've lost 2 jobs because of it. He has been diagnosed with PTSD since this happened. As we had a turbulent time beforehand where he had multiple surgeries. So he said he was unwell but that still doesn't take away from the hurt.
Is there a light at the end of the tunnel and will everything work out. I'm just feeling lost and confused.
He goes to court next week for sentencing and all of a sudden my brain is trying process everything and I can feel the emotions coming up.
My o/h had spoken to a 13 year old for 2 days most of which was normal chit chat and then he crossed a line with two messages. I also found out he been talking to others online to just not underage.
I thought the love would just go but it didn't. I didn't want to shut the door completely. We'd been together 13 years and married for 8 at that point. We have a son and I've been doing supervised visits. I'm trying to give my son stability, routine and so we have regularly visits.
what I've seen on here involves videos and images but the police checks came back as nothing else. I'm struggling wanting my son to have the best life and not knowing whats the best thing to do.
I feel like my life has been more affected as I've lost 2 jobs because of it. He has been diagnosed with PTSD since this happened. As we had a turbulent time beforehand where he had multiple surgeries. So he said he was unwell but that still doesn't take away from the hurt.
Is there a light at the end of the tunnel and will everything work out. I'm just feeling lost and confused.
It's so hard. There's no one who can tell you what decisions to make.
have you or your person engaged in anything to address the issues? LFF courses? Stopso therapy? Safer lives?
I found more patience and forgiveness when it became clear to me how contrite my OH is and how much he engaged with confronting the offending and dealing with it.
but also, remember no decision you make has to be final
xx
have you or your person engaged in anything to address the issues? LFF courses? Stopso therapy? Safer lives?
I found more patience and forgiveness when it became clear to me how contrite my OH is and how much he engaged with confronting the offending and dealing with it.
but also, remember no decision you make has to be final
xx
I feel the same. It's so confusing and I feel so conflicted. You can't just turn off love, and when there are children involved it makes it even more complicated.
I have no answers because I'm constantly going back and forth with myself. Just solidarity.
Please let me know if you work it out!
I have no answers because I'm constantly going back and forth with myself. Just solidarity.
Please let me know if you work it out!
Same
I have every emotion, sometimes different day to day.
Just been put on seretonin
What a life of hell these males put us women through!
I have every emotion, sometimes different day to day.
Just been put on seretonin
What a life of hell these males put us women through!