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Alpaca

Member since
June 2024

25 posts

I'm constantly lying to everyone. Recently I told 3 family members who have gone on and told their partners.

They are horrified and have called him a pedophile and it has been awful. I've had to lie to them saying he has moved out due to their black and white responses. They have offered me a bed to stay in and rebuild my life but I returned to my partner must to their horror. They call and text saying I'm a walkover to even entertain this. I worry constantly and we are only 3 months past knock. I live in a really small area beside his elderly parents. My partner has admitted having all classes of videos. How do families survive this. I worry about the upcoming conviction and mostly about media coverage as we live in a tiny village.i worry that my family will realise I lied about him moving out. I love and hate my partner. The reason for the lies was so that the worrying calls and texts would stop. I loved my life before the knock. I worry constantly.

Posted Fri August 9, 2024 8:44amReport post

Lucy from Stop it Now!

Member since
September 2018

566 posts

Hello,

Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends Forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.


If you haven't already done so, I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free, on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support and do their best to answer your questions. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.

I hope this has been helpful.

Take care,

Lucy

Posted Mon August 12, 2024 1:48pmReport post

AnxiousGirl

Member since
December 2023

282 posts

It felt like my head was going to explode keeping so many secrets and telling so many lies.

I ended the relationship. No more lies to tell as I had done nothing wrong.

To me lies just breed more lies and you end up tying yourself in knots

Posted Mon August 12, 2024 8:19pmReport post

Quick exit