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I'm in the midst of this, 3 months in to my life before the knock and my life after
I told 3 family members who have told partners. They are horrified and have called him a pedophile and it has been awful. I've had to lie to them saying he has moved out due to their black and white responses.
They have offered me a bed to stay in and rebuild my life but I returned to my partner must to their horror. They call and text saying I'm a walkover to even entertain this. I worry constantly and we are only 3 months past knock. I live in a really small area beside his elderly parents. My partner has admitted having all classes of videos.
How do families survive this. I worry about the upcoming conviction and mostly about media coverage as we live in a tiny village.i worry that my family will realise I lied about him moving out.
I love and hate my partner. I worry my 30 year old son is also, falling for the suicide threats. Any advice welcomed.
I told 3 family members who have told partners. They are horrified and have called him a pedophile and it has been awful. I've had to lie to them saying he has moved out due to their black and white responses.
They have offered me a bed to stay in and rebuild my life but I returned to my partner must to their horror. They call and text saying I'm a walkover to even entertain this. I worry constantly and we are only 3 months past knock. I live in a really small area beside his elderly parents. My partner has admitted having all classes of videos.
How do families survive this. I worry about the upcoming conviction and mostly about media coverage as we live in a tiny village.i worry that my family will realise I lied about him moving out.
I love and hate my partner. I worry my 30 year old son is also, falling for the suicide threats. Any advice welcomed.
so sorry your here !! it's a journey non of us want to be on , the deviation the hurt the pain and the lies as you say , you shouldn't be having to lie yet it's gets you by sometimes, how do you really feel if you want to support your partner that is your choice yes it's difficult but your family do not have to accept your choices they are your choices to make not having their support for yourself is because the minute these crimes happen the stigma of the 'P' word frightens everyone , how can we be associated with someone who has committed these crimes it was my initial reaction, abandonment I didn't want the shame on my family name , all the worst thoughts raced in my head and to be honest the worst did happen to my family , but everyone's case is different yet the pain is the same I hope you find some support on this forum I dont know what advice to give you other than people that choose to stay in your life accept their support and if they choose to leave there's nothing we can do unfortunately, you need to do what's you feel is right for you not what others expect you to do or want you to do xx