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Hi all,
I am wondering, as I am feeling massisvely judged by CS (as would be expected - it is their role after all!). I had a highly stressful meeting with them on Wednesday.
I was asked 2 questions.
1) Describe the images. I described them as best I remember them based on our discussions 3 years ago. Clothed, adolesent, posed (he described them at the time as modelling pics). The SW pushed me, what were they wearing? I said I dont know the specifics. He said bras or jumpers? You must know. I didnt. It was three years ago, I dont think I even asked if they were wearing shorts or dresses, underwear etc. Clothes meant clothes anyway, as in clothes, not underwear. I absolutely panicked as I felt I should know. But I think at the time I didnt feel the need. I knew it was wrong, the details were irrelevent. I have processed it and packed it away. It was massively triggering being asked this.
2) What were his search terms? I have not idea. I never asked. Should I have? I again felt like I should have known this as they felt it approporaite to ask me. He said 'I assumed you would know'. Again, the detail wasnt important to me at the time.
He has had a forensic risk assessment and it came back low risk with 'no H or P interests evident'. So when the SW asked me to acknowledge that he may have had an interest in children, I said he was found not to (by the way, the SW admited to not having read the risk assessment in full). He asked me this questions twice. I explained research has found that men who enter via the porn route may have a temporary or no interest, so he could have, but he was found not to. I am not certain the SW was happy with my response.
Anyway, I wondered what your thoughts were on this. Did you have graphic details of content and search terms? Did you want to know? Was it helpful to know? Should I know?
I am wondering, as I am feeling massisvely judged by CS (as would be expected - it is their role after all!). I had a highly stressful meeting with them on Wednesday.
I was asked 2 questions.
1) Describe the images. I described them as best I remember them based on our discussions 3 years ago. Clothed, adolesent, posed (he described them at the time as modelling pics). The SW pushed me, what were they wearing? I said I dont know the specifics. He said bras or jumpers? You must know. I didnt. It was three years ago, I dont think I even asked if they were wearing shorts or dresses, underwear etc. Clothes meant clothes anyway, as in clothes, not underwear. I absolutely panicked as I felt I should know. But I think at the time I didnt feel the need. I knew it was wrong, the details were irrelevent. I have processed it and packed it away. It was massively triggering being asked this.
2) What were his search terms? I have not idea. I never asked. Should I have? I again felt like I should have known this as they felt it approporaite to ask me. He said 'I assumed you would know'. Again, the detail wasnt important to me at the time.
He has had a forensic risk assessment and it came back low risk with 'no H or P interests evident'. So when the SW asked me to acknowledge that he may have had an interest in children, I said he was found not to (by the way, the SW admited to not having read the risk assessment in full). He asked me this questions twice. I explained research has found that men who enter via the porn route may have a temporary or no interest, so he could have, but he was found not to. I am not certain the SW was happy with my response.
Anyway, I wondered what your thoughts were on this. Did you have graphic details of content and search terms? Did you want to know? Was it helpful to know? Should I know?
Why are they asking you about the images? Is it because they were unable to find any images on his devices?
If there were no images found and no searches in his internet history, then has he been charged with any offences?
If there were no images found and no searches in his internet history, then has he been charged with any offences?
This child services. He has a caution for under 10 cat C.
Child services should have a copy of the reports and details within your file. Partners aren't always given full details or copies of these and sometimes only hear second hand. I'm so sorry you're being hauled over the coals for something your partner has done. Why can't they ask him?