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BrokenWings

Member since
August 2024

3 posts

My husband who is an exceptionally decent man, loved by everyone who ever meets him is naturally heartbroken and angered by my younger brother's imprisonment for his crimes. I understand and I don't think anyone feels it more than me, my mum and dad. I still love my little brother, and I know what he did was inexcusable. I don't know where I stand with him right now as this has all hit us like a truck, and is completely against anything I ever thought was possible. People who have found out through the media are going to my husband to rant and he's letting them, which again I understand. I just can't cope with it. I'm heartbroken beyond words and I know there's no way back for my brother but I can't take it right now. I don't even know what my main problem is because it's so hard to articulate when I'm trying to juggle my work/uni/kids/etc. all I know is it's causing so many issues with us as a couple and we've done nothing to deserve this

Posted Mon August 12, 2024 8:50amReport post

EBP

Member since
September 2021

231 posts

It is so hard to deal with this. There is no straight path. Our offender is our son.
We both decided that we will support him as much as we can & certainly give him a home.

We find that we are both negative & positive on different days. Hopefully not on the same day. You have to acknowledge your different ways of coping & 'escaping' into any happy space you can find. I like to unload to close & trusted friends + this forum of course. My husband tries to distract himself & not discuss it with others.

The road is long,but it is important you walk together for strength.

Best wishes

Posted Mon August 12, 2024 9:58amReport post

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