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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2502 posts

Afternoon lovlies x

Here we are again, dosent time just fly by!

After my week off I have completed my first full week back and I have to say it's been really good, busy but rewarding at the same time

I hope you are all keeping ok x

Picked the furbaby up after work today but only have her until tomorrow evening, she is fast asleep next to me snoring away, it's to warm to take her out just yet, so will let her sleep away ,

Myself and my daughter had a visit planned Sunday morning but she is feeling a bit under the weather so just me going, I stopped of at the florist before I went to hers and had a bouquet made up for her, she loves flowers and it was just a little something to cheer her up x

Talking of the HC he got a distinction in his business studies module for the degree course he is doing, so proud of him, next module starts Oct ,he is doing well , he dosent know as yet he has me all to himself on Sunday lol but I am sure he will be to busy eating his way through the canteen food lol

I hope you all have a lovely weekend and dont forget to just remember how incredible you all are not matter what stage of this journey you are on xx

Love sent as always xx

Posted Fri August 16, 2024 3:58pmReport post

Bettyboo65

Member since
June 2022

354 posts

Hi upset, your son is amazing! You must be chuffed to bits.

Have a lovely visit on Sunday, don't forget to fill your pockets with pennies for his food intake xxx

Posted Fri August 16, 2024 4:32pmReport post

PrairieMom

Member since
May 2024

144 posts

Hello Friday Check in,

Nice to hear that HC is doing so well in his business studies. Upset, you must be so proud.

It was a quiet week here. The days are getting shorter and the nights a bit cooler. I'm ready for fall.

My husband has a date for his plea hearing, September 26. We also have an appointment next week with child services for a strengths and needs assessment. I am not sure what that will be but luckily things with the social worker have been good. She is fair.

I'm off work next week so looking forward to spending some time with my family. Nothing big planned but hoping to have a bit of fun.

Take care

Posted Fri August 16, 2024 5:05pmReport post

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

581 posts

Hello Friday check in,

Upset I am so delighted to hear how well your HC is doing you must be very proud of him and he should be equally proud of himself- I foresee that extra food may be consumed at your visit!!!

Had a better week and feeling a bit more positive about things now .



Lots of love and support to you all xx

Posted Fri August 16, 2024 5:11pmReport post

Dawn19

Member since
June 2023

165 posts

Hi Friday check in

Upset -nice to hear your HC is doing well in his studies, you must be so proud.

My positive start to the week with starting couch to 5k has slightly waned today. I snapped at my OH over the smallest thing and my OH ended up shouting and swearing at me, which our daughter decided to get involved and took my side, so she's now not talking to my OH. She should have stayed out of it, because it had nothing to do with her. She has now gone to her boyfriend's and is staying there until Monday.

It has also been an incredibly expensive week. We've had car trouble and it was in our local garage on Tuesday. We thought it was just the brakes and we would need new brake pads but also needed new calipers. We also need a new freezer which we need to sort out.

Our other daughter is happier than ever. She is back with her boyfriend (the father of her daughter) and he has moved in as he has fell out with his brother and mum. They have a managerie of animals. Our daughter already had a kitten, an axolotl and a tarantula (to help her get over her fear of spiders). He boyfriend has brought with him another tarantula, a scorpion and tomorrow we have to help them move his newts from his mum's house.

My OH had someone from something called the aurora project contact him and he spoke to them on the phone on Monday. I think it's therapy and he has an appointment to meet them face-to-face this Monday.

Posted Fri August 16, 2024 7:26pmReport post

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

965 posts

Hello Friday check in,

I returned to work this week but am now on leave again so that my son can have his children for the week again. We're having them every other week of the school holidays which keeps us busy.

Upset your son has done so well what a great achievement. Please pass on my congratulations.

Prairie, I hope you have a good week off next week and have fun with your family.

Seaside, I'm so pleased you've had a better week and are now feeling more positive.

Dawn, I'm pleased to know your daughter is back with her boyfriend and feeling happy. There's nothing quite like knowing your children are happy.

After a year of waiting my son now has a date to start the Horizon course. He goes for a 1:1 induction next Friday and then starts the course the middle of September. It'll involve a bit of travel but he doesn't seem worried about that which is good.

To all of you who are still navigating your way through those early days I'd like to reassure you that things really do get easier with time.

Posted Fri August 16, 2024 7:46pmReport post

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2502 posts

Dawn x

Keep going lovely, deep breath, and relax

Of course your daughter will step in, it dosent matter if you snap at OH you have had so much to deal with and he reacted towards you in a way that was not acceptable so she was defending her Mumma, she takes after you with her inner strength xx

Gosh my x husband had tarantulas eww lol xx

Posted Fri August 16, 2024 8:34pmReport post

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

527 posts

Hello friday check in

I have not done much this week other than go to work. Still going to my dancing classes which i find fun. But i now go out most nights and feel i need to cut back as i am just so tired. And it is costing me a fortune that i dont have.

Tomorrow I am meeting up with a friend who lives miles away, so each of us is travelling for 2 hours and meeting in the middle for lunch. so i am really looking forward to that, so that should be fun.



This week nothing much happeneing. Sunday will probably start going through my stuff as my bedroom is slowly being decorated. I have trouble throwing things away so this will be a challenge.



I hope everyone manages to have a nice weekend.

I look forward to the list from the HC.

Posted Fri August 16, 2024 10:51pmReport post

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2743 posts

Hi All.

Can I say a heartfelt 'well done' to our HC, under the circumstances he has done so well, showing grit and determination to fight against the odds, unbelievable. Surely deserving an extra treat come Sunday ?!? A 'hiphip haray' from us all....

All ok here, bit of a mundane week but it's been ok. Few words with hubby, being together for so long since he retired has its moments, especially when he rearranges the kitchen without asking. I know he means well but he just bulldozes in and yes that's tedious.

Boy fine and enjoyed time on the sports field this week. Not much to report really from him.

Heres me, sending my weekly hugs out to you all x

Posted Sat August 17, 2024 6:56amReport post

LonelyExpat

Member since
September 2021

18 posts

Hello ladies,

Upset Mum, so nice to hear about your son's studies going well. I am currently doing a business management degree through work! It is definitely not easy so well done to him for his achievements.

My week has been eventful but in a good way. Still checking newspapers and local police pages to see if they reported on husband's sentencing but nothing so far. I don't think I will ever feel out the woods about that one.



He had his first meeting with his probation officer. He is asked to do his 250 hrs community order in his first year so they are currently sorting that for him.



He had to do something quite nerve wracking this week. Police mandated that he tells about his conviction to his best friends (they are his friends from primary school that kept in touch. They are married) as they expect a baby girl and my husband has to disclose his conviction to the parents of any female child under 16 years old if he is to spend time next to them.



They made me cry happy tears. They told him that this changes nothing, they know who he is and that we all make mistakes. They said that he should have told them when it first happened as his friend is a solicitor and she said that she would have helped him. On top of that they said he is still to be the godfather of their baby girl. They also said very nice things about me.



I knew they were absolutely lovely people but I would have totally understood if as new parents they didn't want to be associated with him at all anymore. So I was shocked to hear how accepting they were. They are the only people in our lives that has a child so that was that and we won't have to tell anyone else now.

Posted Sat August 17, 2024 10:01amReport post

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

409 posts

Hello everyone,

we have some friends coming over later, so that should be nice. They're going to stay until tomorrow.

Spent a lot of time cleaning the bathroom this morning.

LonelyExpat, that sounds wonderful! We all need friends like this.

Have a nice weekend, ladies.

Posted Sat August 17, 2024 11:47amReport post

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2502 posts

Expat x

Your post just made my heart want to burst there are some really wonderful people who can look past this crime and love the person for just been them, this absolutely does not define a person and to have others who believe in them just amazing xx

Posted Sat August 17, 2024 11:57amReport post

Holdingthegrenade

Member since
June 2024

221 posts

Hi everyone

glad you're all finding your own ways of getting through the summer. We've been doing lots of day trips with family to keep little ones busy. I've spoken to my work to arrange returning once the schools are back to try get back into some sort of routine and push forward with a new normal. My person has had some promising job offers so just hoping they can gets past the checks and start working again, as they need an income and something to keep them occupied asespecially if this limbo period is going to drag on for years.

its just hard sometimes as my little one keeps asking about holidays and talking about "next time can we do x,y,z with dad". It's really hard to explain that we can only do it if other relatives go on the day trips with us (I'm not allowed to supervise) and diverting the conversation to say we might have to go on holiday with mam, or with other family instead. It's really hard for my child because they've always had a really close bond, doing everything with dad or both parents especially with Covid where you were only allowed to socialise with your own household.

Posted Sat August 17, 2024 12:06pmReport post

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2743 posts

LonelyExpat - how refreshing to read - there are people that see through the crime to focus on the person they know and show understanding.

We all never forget the crime or minimise it in any way - but it doesn't automatically turn a loved one or friend into a horrible, undesirable person does it?

made me feel better too x

Posted Sat August 17, 2024 12:12pm
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