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Lonely x

Sending huge hugs xx

It may feel like you have gone back to the beginning all over again, and the media side of this journey leaves us all in dread and shock, as hard as it is dont waste your energy on this, of course its easier said than done but it will be old news before long

Focus on what you can control

Look how far you have both come

OH has been working incredibly hard on himself and that is a huge step

Remember one day at a time , you will get through it

You have us to listen and support you so please reach out and remember you are not alone xx

I just popped on here quickly as i don't read or post very often now, but when I saw your post I had to reply just to say that of course you feel all over the place at the moment after the shock of the local paper (I'm dreading that too when our time comes) BUT this is only a new blip and so many people on here testify that it was absolutely awful at the time but the news dies down quickly and people move on to the next thing with their love of 'scandal'. If it's more than just people saying nasty things and involves vigilantes then you must let the police know.

I truly believe that this journey is one of 3 steps forward and then 1 step backward repeated many times - but you are still 2 steps forward and will catch up with where you were. Please look after yourself and your OH, hold each other close and remind yourself that there is still a good future just over the horizon....

Big hugs xx

L & B

I'm sorry you're struggling. We're still in the investigation stage of things and almost a year since it happened but it was a vigilante thing so was broadcast on Facebook. So I understand a little bit about it being out in the public domain.

Just know that on here people understand how you feel and are going through the same things. It will become old news I'm sure.

Sending you a hug and hope it helps a little x

LB

My son motto his to take one day at a time,and that's what I have started to do we can't say what's going to happen further down the line in his life

I know it's hard as when I fist posted on her I was a nervous wreck,anxiety through the roof



My son is just over a month past sentencing, he got 2 yrs suspended sentence and just under three weeks of being in papers,and family members finding out who we did not tell

At the moment viglantes are posting ,old videos, so I'm praying

He been seeing is probation officer for a few weeks, he said that's OK

Just started community

Are next stage his to get a job, and sort car insurance out

We are taking day by day,hour by hour

I can't stress him out to much as he as autsim

Hi L&B, how awful for you, I know that feeling of having your worst fears come true. It may seem like the bottom has fallen out of your world again but you'll move forward from this just like you've done with everything else you've faced.

It sounds like your OH is trying hard to learn, grow and make positive changes to his life. So whilst it might feel like you're back to square one, you're not, you're dealing with a set back. Having been where you are, I can reassure you it won't feel this bad for very long.

Sending you both strength and my best wishes.

Hi L&B - know I carnt add much to what our wonderful ladies have said, but this media spotlight is horrible and hits to the pit of your stomach. We had the full works, thankfully no vigilantes.

You feel you are being analysed and your life wide open to finger pointing and criticism..... it's so cruel.

Time moves on - your story is replaced and sadly its some other poor other soles turn.

hold your head high, my lovely - YOU know the truth - rise above their fickle stories.