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Hello this is my first time posting but have taken comfort in reading everyone's situation and knowing we are not alone.
Quick recap had the knock 10 months ago devices taken from whole family but they seemed most interested in 1 of my adult sons who has Autism and mental health difficulties.
Fast forward last month 1 of his devices came back with 1 cat A and 5 cat C got the feeling it was mostly manga and or AI but he isn't sure he knows he has been torrenting old episodes and old mango shows and he also has been on porn sights and downloaded porn files of what he believed to be adults. I believe him as I know him well and he is brutally honest.
I've been with him at interview ect and still unsure myself. Our solicitor said to do a full and frank confess as the evidence is there and has asked for a conditional caution but unsure if this will happen. Solicitor also advised to do courses but it's difficult as my son has said he has no interest in children and in the course you have to admit you have so he would have to lie. He said he's not sure what he's admitted to just that anything on his phone is his as it is his phone. Not sure really what to do now. Any had a conditional caution for anything like this? That's why he did admitting as he can't handle all this.
Thanks sorry if I'm rambling.
Quick recap had the knock 10 months ago devices taken from whole family but they seemed most interested in 1 of my adult sons who has Autism and mental health difficulties.
Fast forward last month 1 of his devices came back with 1 cat A and 5 cat C got the feeling it was mostly manga and or AI but he isn't sure he knows he has been torrenting old episodes and old mango shows and he also has been on porn sights and downloaded porn files of what he believed to be adults. I believe him as I know him well and he is brutally honest.
I've been with him at interview ect and still unsure myself. Our solicitor said to do a full and frank confess as the evidence is there and has asked for a conditional caution but unsure if this will happen. Solicitor also advised to do courses but it's difficult as my son has said he has no interest in children and in the course you have to admit you have so he would have to lie. He said he's not sure what he's admitted to just that anything on his phone is his as it is his phone. Not sure really what to do now. Any had a conditional caution for anything like this? That's why he did admitting as he can't handle all this.
Thanks sorry if I'm rambling.
Hi hat, I'm sorry you've found yourself joining us on the forum but well done for reaching out.
There are several reasons why people offend in the way they do with a sexual interest in children being just one of them. The courses which I think people may be referring to are courses aimed to help your son identify his triggers for offending and learning how he can address these triggers in a more healthy way.
My son did both the LFF course and CBT through a private therapist and found both to be life changing. With the help of the course he was able to identify his triggers e.g chronic low self esteem and work on improving this by putting things in place to help him make better choices and prevent reoffending. If you haven't come across it, you might want to have a look at the Good Lives Model. https://www.goodlivesmodel.com/information.shtml#General
If your son hasn't yet contacted the stop it now helpline I recommend that as a starting point.
There are several reasons why people offend in the way they do with a sexual interest in children being just one of them. The courses which I think people may be referring to are courses aimed to help your son identify his triggers for offending and learning how he can address these triggers in a more healthy way.
My son did both the LFF course and CBT through a private therapist and found both to be life changing. With the help of the course he was able to identify his triggers e.g chronic low self esteem and work on improving this by putting things in place to help him make better choices and prevent reoffending. If you haven't come across it, you might want to have a look at the Good Lives Model. https://www.goodlivesmodel.com/information.shtml#General
If your son hasn't yet contacted the stop it now helpline I recommend that as a starting point.
Wish we could just fast forward to next year! Thanks for the reply we are going to call.