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Worried2006

Member since
September 2024

2 posts

Hi my son has been bailed with conditions until dec 2

we have appointment with a good solicitor nexr week but I want to make most of time so trying to research best questions to ask before hand

my son who is now just 18 has been arrested for a cat c image on his phone ( via a bloody gaming chat room Discord) and inciting sexual activity with girl under 13 non penetration

he was 15/16 at times of offence and got himself free of the evil online predators who he was being groomed and coerced by into this behaviour before the police where even made aware of the offence

Any advice greatly appreciated, our whole world has been shattered by this

police not taken to cps yet but said they will

Posted Fri September 6, 2024 3:49pmReport post

Holdingthegrenade

Member since
June 2024

201 posts

Just noticing nobody has been able to reply yet.
Im so sorry you've found yourself here. Hopefully one of the others will be along to give a bit more guidance (my person is an adult) but there are sadly quite a few on here whose sons have been in similar situations. Hopefully they'll be along to give some advice or info they found useful. Please reach out to the helpline if you are struggling....they are an absolute godsend and a voice of reason and support in the confusion and gloom.

Posted Fri September 6, 2024 10:17pmReport post

Worried2006

Member since
September 2024

2 posts

Thank you for reaching out I'm very alone with this , I have used the helpline and they are lovely but it's still just not knowing and my son is so fragile and hates himself

I don't know your situation but I hope you are getting support and send kindness

Posted Fri September 6, 2024 11:19pmReport post

edel2020

Member since
March 2022

515 posts

There are plenty of reasons why this case should not even go to the CPS. So the solicitor should push the police for an out of court disposal, such as a youth caution. If they say they cannot do anything until he is charged, then challenge them, or get another solicitor who will fight for your son.

Posted Sat September 7, 2024 10:19am
Edited Sat September 7, 2024 10:22amReport post

Crushed

Member since
July 2024

148 posts

Hi worried,

When did this journey start for you then and was it a knock on the door? Am I right in understanding that he hasn't done anything for the last few years then?
we are at the beginning of our journey, my son is 15 and has been found to have images. We are now waiting following devices being seized.

I also wonder if there was some grooming with my son.

It is such an awful feeling. Hope you are okay xx

Posted Sat September 7, 2024 12:00pm
Edited Sat September 7, 2024 12:02pmReport post

Ajustcopingparent

Member since
August 2024

117 posts

Hi

I'm a mother of a 16yr old and wondering if my sons been groomed. We are awaiting devices to be checked. But know my sons reported something on snapchat that out of 3 items one was classed as violation.

The police seemed fixed on a certain time frame that tied in with him having snapchat. The not knowing is causing me terrible anxiety.

My concern is how long this all goes on for and his age. He only had snapchat because teachers recommended it for school project. I will be honest my snapchat knowledge is limited.

He's just gone to college and we use family controls for Internet etc. I asked if it bothered him and he said no. He gets it's to keep him and his brother safe. But know it means he can't just search anything relating to college. Originally he wanted to do software development but now he's no interest in being sat at a computer so doing A levels.

One question I keep asking myself is if he reported something on snapchat does that mean it's something someone's sent him.

Posted Sat September 7, 2024 5:30pm
Edited Sat September 7, 2024 5:31pmReport post

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