Another date tarnished...
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I have just realised that the date my OH is going to see the probation for his pre-sentencing report is our 30th anniversary:(
Is so sad when special dates are tarnished like this. Sending you a big hug.
The day my son was sentenced was on a relatives birthday. A day I'll sadly never forget and yes tarnished!
Last Sunday should have been my 34th wedding anniversary. It could have been a sad day but thanks to a wonderfully supportive friend I made new memories.
Now Christmas on the other hand.....
Now Christmas on the other hand.....
I find a lot of celebration dates really hard now too; even if they have no duality to them. Father's Day was the worst, it was within weeks of the knock. My child is younger so I had to buy the card & wrap the presents for them to give....that was tough.
My birthday (unknown to me at the time...obvs) is the date his online activities took place which lead us to where we are now. I found that little gem from the OIC when the forensic report was finished.
Anxious....I'm hoping one day -we get to create some new special dates and memories....and "THOSE" dates fade away to be just another day, hoping we can all move on and recover with time.
My birthday (unknown to me at the time...obvs) is the date his online activities took place which lead us to where we are now. I found that little gem from the OIC when the forensic report was finished.
Anxious....I'm hoping one day -we get to create some new special dates and memories....and "THOSE" dates fade away to be just another day, hoping we can all move on and recover with time.
I first found out what he is on my sister's birthday. And on my niece's birthday, he told me what he'd done to her 15+ years ago.
I never would've forgotten when I found those things out about him whatever the date, but he made sure those two special dates will always be tarnished for me.
I never would've forgotten when I found those things out about him whatever the date, but he made sure those two special dates will always be tarnished for me.
I hope everything goes well for your OH on your 30th anniversary. Thinking of you both!
The date of my son's sentencing is the birthday of a family member so it is very difficult.
We have tried to do something nice together on the date and so far have managed to avoid any family gatherings by either visiting before or after the date because nobody in the family other than his sibling, my OH and myself know what happened.
We have tried to do something nice together on the date and so far have managed to avoid any family gatherings by either visiting before or after the date because nobody in the family other than his sibling, my OH and myself know what happened.
Dawn,
As awful as it is its another part of this crappy journey x
Once he has been for his pre report, can you both do something nice together for your anniversary? Something silly or something just for the two of you, try not to let this dampen an amazing 30 years together xx
As awful as it is its another part of this crappy journey x
Once he has been for his pre report, can you both do something nice together for your anniversary? Something silly or something just for the two of you, try not to let this dampen an amazing 30 years together xx
My OH was sentenced and sent to prison on his birthday... He's out now and we recently celebrated his birthday again. I look at it as making new memories