Day 2 and lost
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I don't even know where to begin....my whole world has come crashing down.
2 weeks ago my brother in law was arrested for uploading 107 indecent images onto a social media account. We were in shock enough about that but then yesterday came a knock on the door at 6am when the police arrested my partner for engaging with a minor online.
Since being bailed, he's been honest with me and told me what he's done, and it's in no means anywhere near as bad as what his brother was arrested for, although he admits to being stupid.
We have 2 children at home, 10 & 16, with the 16 year old girl being a step daughter to him. We've not heard from children's services yet and don't know what to expect. I have my partner in a mess and not wanting to go on, and our son absolutely heart broken about not being able to speak to or see his dad at present.
I'm in a mess and struggling to hold it all together for all of us. How long does it take them to get in touch and then what happens next? Do I need to tell school? I just want our family back together
2 weeks ago my brother in law was arrested for uploading 107 indecent images onto a social media account. We were in shock enough about that but then yesterday came a knock on the door at 6am when the police arrested my partner for engaging with a minor online.
Since being bailed, he's been honest with me and told me what he's done, and it's in no means anywhere near as bad as what his brother was arrested for, although he admits to being stupid.
We have 2 children at home, 10 & 16, with the 16 year old girl being a step daughter to him. We've not heard from children's services yet and don't know what to expect. I have my partner in a mess and not wanting to go on, and our son absolutely heart broken about not being able to speak to or see his dad at present.
I'm in a mess and struggling to hold it all together for all of us. How long does it take them to get in touch and then what happens next? Do I need to tell school? I just want our family back together
I'm so sorry you find yourself here. I didn't want to scroll and not reach out. Social services will usually be in touch within a few daya, they have a deadline but it was all a blur so I can't remember the exact timescale I think it's 3days. Don't tell anyone you don't have to, until you have to and wait to see what they say. Please ring the helpline if you're struggling as they'll be able to advise. There are a few posts on "what do I tell my children" and what happens next.
deep breaths and take it one day at a time.
sending virtual hugs
deep breaths and take it one day at a time.
sending virtual hugs
Hi InPain,
I am so sorry that you are now apart of this horrible group we are all apart of, however someone is always here to talk to whenever you need them, so please be assured you are not alone.
My dealings with ss is an odd one as they were made aware I was pregnant a month after arrest, long story short (was told I would never have a baby and now have a 7mnths old).
But they did not get involved until she was 3mnths, due to them loosing info and then blaming police. So when they get involved is usually 30 days from when they are told from the police, they then go through a 30 day investigation stage and then you get allocated a SW who is close to your property.
However I just wanted to say be as calm as you can, if you sre struggling please speak to your GP and they can assess and put you down the right path for some help I.e. mental health.
Also just be honest when SS do speak with you and make sure you are calm and ready to speak to them. (I know this sounds easier than it is IRL).
Also just remember if you need to talk to anyone, there is always the helpline or this forum. But I fo suggest putting stuff in the general chat as there is more people who respond on there, that the sub topics.
I am sending you hugs, and luck. This is a horrible curve ball we all are having to deal with, but you get there. (I am 1yr 5mnths in and no further st the moment.) Xx
I am so sorry that you are now apart of this horrible group we are all apart of, however someone is always here to talk to whenever you need them, so please be assured you are not alone.
My dealings with ss is an odd one as they were made aware I was pregnant a month after arrest, long story short (was told I would never have a baby and now have a 7mnths old).
But they did not get involved until she was 3mnths, due to them loosing info and then blaming police. So when they get involved is usually 30 days from when they are told from the police, they then go through a 30 day investigation stage and then you get allocated a SW who is close to your property.
However I just wanted to say be as calm as you can, if you sre struggling please speak to your GP and they can assess and put you down the right path for some help I.e. mental health.
Also just be honest when SS do speak with you and make sure you are calm and ready to speak to them. (I know this sounds easier than it is IRL).
Also just remember if you need to talk to anyone, there is always the helpline or this forum. But I fo suggest putting stuff in the general chat as there is more people who respond on there, that the sub topics.
I am sending you hugs, and luck. This is a horrible curve ball we all are having to deal with, but you get there. (I am 1yr 5mnths in and no further st the moment.) Xx