Rant-much more found than expected
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This is a rant really somewhere I can vent in a safe place!
Oh arrested after I found images, believed there were hundreds which was upsetting enough. Oh left, I remained naively neutral and allowed contact with child as my main priority is my son and keeping him no1 throughout this journey, now realise I've been in a very narcissist relationship for years but always secretly hoped he would want to eventually explain himself (as best as you can anyway for this behaviour) but got absolutely nothing from him apart from him saying how hard he has things.
I've recently found out there were thousands of images that the police basically Hve stopped counting. he downloaded something dark Web related with thousands of other deleted images. It's a real gut punch to have to have found this out via the police while he is still playing the victim.
He has constantly let down son with visits and now I have put a healthy boundary of a 3rd neutral person doing the supervision (instead of me) he is making false promises to visit asap whilst telling his family I am preventing him visiting his son. I'm sick of son been hurt and he hasn't seen him over a year so now I'm just feeling done and drawing a line (which I'm sure oh will turn around all onto me been the evil mother)
Im devastated all over again, he has started a new life while I'm picking up the pieces and now the concerns of it hitting the media locally emergency planning if it does etc. I'm so angry he seems to have walked away whilst I'm here dealing with the short and long term fall out.
Just needed a rant!
Oh arrested after I found images, believed there were hundreds which was upsetting enough. Oh left, I remained naively neutral and allowed contact with child as my main priority is my son and keeping him no1 throughout this journey, now realise I've been in a very narcissist relationship for years but always secretly hoped he would want to eventually explain himself (as best as you can anyway for this behaviour) but got absolutely nothing from him apart from him saying how hard he has things.
I've recently found out there were thousands of images that the police basically Hve stopped counting. he downloaded something dark Web related with thousands of other deleted images. It's a real gut punch to have to have found this out via the police while he is still playing the victim.
He has constantly let down son with visits and now I have put a healthy boundary of a 3rd neutral person doing the supervision (instead of me) he is making false promises to visit asap whilst telling his family I am preventing him visiting his son. I'm sick of son been hurt and he hasn't seen him over a year so now I'm just feeling done and drawing a line (which I'm sure oh will turn around all onto me been the evil mother)
Im devastated all over again, he has started a new life while I'm picking up the pieces and now the concerns of it hitting the media locally emergency planning if it does etc. I'm so angry he seems to have walked away whilst I'm here dealing with the short and long term fall out.
Just needed a rant!
Bondi,
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Not only betrayal but also picking up all the pieces and being the best mother possible. He sounds like a piece of work and like he's never going to give you the answers you want. I hope you have some support around you x
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Not only betrayal but also picking up all the pieces and being the best mother possible. He sounds like a piece of work and like he's never going to give you the answers you want. I hope you have some support around you x
Just wanted to let you know, I can relate in part to this.
My ex exhibited the same behaviour. I'd questioned over the years wether I was in an abusive relationship. But sometimes it's only when you get some space you get the mental clarity to recognise the behaviour.
Sending you love. I hope you're ok and you have some people to support you in person too.
X
My ex exhibited the same behaviour. I'd questioned over the years wether I was in an abusive relationship. But sometimes it's only when you get some space you get the mental clarity to recognise the behaviour.
Sending you love. I hope you're ok and you have some people to support you in person too.
X