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So my son was sentenced this morning , pre sentence report not worth the paper it was written on unfortunately.
Hes got an 8 month sentence suspended for 18 months , 20 RAR days , 150 hrs unpaid work , 10yrs SOR and SHPO . .
I know it could have been worse, obviously we are grateful to have brought him home but he is so young to have this over him for 10 years . He is likely to lose his job which is the biggest stabilising factor in his life . I know that he has done wrong but I'm devastated for him .
Hes got an 8 month sentence suspended for 18 months , 20 RAR days , 150 hrs unpaid work , 10yrs SOR and SHPO . .
I know it could have been worse, obviously we are grateful to have brought him home but he is so young to have this over him for 10 years . He is likely to lose his job which is the biggest stabilising factor in his life . I know that he has done wrong but I'm devastated for him .
Oh Bobbie, I'm so sorry, sending you lots of love. you know your story echos mine, we are a year past sentencing, if you need anything, shout
Bobbie x
Glad you are home and it was a suspended sentence ,
Just take a bit of time to focus on yourselves you have all been through so much x hugs sent x
I hope he doesn't have to leave his job, are they aware he was under investigation?x
Glad you are home and it was a suspended sentence ,
Just take a bit of time to focus on yourselves you have all been through so much x hugs sent x
I hope he doesn't have to leave his job, are they aware he was under investigation?x
Hello Bobbie,
It may feel harsh atm but glad he got to stay at home. It's all about adjusting now to a new norm and he is young enough to do that. Today will be overwhelming for you and it will be hard to process for a while. Whilst not underestimating the seriousness of these offences though I do wonder what the benefit of 10 years of further restrictions are to some people who are already sentenced with either a custodial or suspended sentence especially when they have demonstrated remorse and are willing to rehabilitate themselves?
Lets hope things get better for you all now.
Best wishes
Katie xxx
It may feel harsh atm but glad he got to stay at home. It's all about adjusting now to a new norm and he is young enough to do that. Today will be overwhelming for you and it will be hard to process for a while. Whilst not underestimating the seriousness of these offences though I do wonder what the benefit of 10 years of further restrictions are to some people who are already sentenced with either a custodial or suspended sentence especially when they have demonstrated remorse and are willing to rehabilitate themselves?
Lets hope things get better for you all now.
Best wishes
Katie xxx
@upset mum - no one knows anything about anything including family and employer . His job is the 1 stabilising factor that he has but the PPU want him to disclose .
@katie - we were expecting 5 years and a community order so today's sentence was a bit of a shock , the judge spoke to him like he was the scum of the earth , no consideration that the offences took place age 14-18 and he is autistic ( neither of which are excuses btw) , although she did say she felt there was a very low chance of him re offending so when she said 10 years we were stunned
@katie - we were expecting 5 years and a community order so today's sentence was a bit of a shock , the judge spoke to him like he was the scum of the earth , no consideration that the offences took place age 14-18 and he is autistic ( neither of which are excuses btw) , although she did say she felt there was a very low chance of him re offending so when she said 10 years we were stunned
It's awful and like a sucker punch. On the one hand you are relieved it's not custodial but the reality of 10 years SOR/SHPO.
My OH Judge was also awful, I get they have a job to do but some of her comments and actions were just vindictive.
I know you are probably angry but it's best to just build on what it is, otherwise you will drive yourself mad.
Cornish Tea
My OH Judge was also awful, I get they have a job to do but some of her comments and actions were just vindictive.
I know you are probably angry but it's best to just build on what it is, otherwise you will drive yourself mad.
Cornish Tea
Bobbie, I'm so sorry you're feeling devestated, I can really sympathise with you. I expected to feel relieved when my son received a suspended sentence but I just felt completely flat. The next few days will be hard but over the coming weeks you'll start to adjust and the outcome will sink in.
I understand your fears about your son losing his job and his case being in the media. These were some of my fears too and both came true. But once my son hit rock bottom and all his fears had come true, he started to rebuild his life. 12 months on he has a small part time job, has completed his community hours, looks after his children (with our supervision) each weekend and school holidays, and has joined a 5 a side football.
12 months on and the sun is shining in our lives again. Yes life will never be the same as it was but that doesn't mean we can't enjoy our now simpler life and in times you and your son will start to embrace your new lives too.
I understand your fears about your son losing his job and his case being in the media. These were some of my fears too and both came true. But once my son hit rock bottom and all his fears had come true, he started to rebuild his life. 12 months on he has a small part time job, has completed his community hours, looks after his children (with our supervision) each weekend and school holidays, and has joined a 5 a side football.
12 months on and the sun is shining in our lives again. Yes life will never be the same as it was but that doesn't mean we can't enjoy our now simpler life and in times you and your son will start to embrace your new lives too.
Well the ppu visited today and he doesn't have to disclose to work so that's a relief for now anyway .
Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts xx
Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts xx