My son has admitted more offences to me
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My autistic son (15) has admitted today to watching and getting gratification from watching an inappropriate video of a 10 year old.
He told me he's also clicked on the link of a video of a child who was aged 6.
They are moving images of a child playing with their own genitals ????
He's told me that most the children he has viewed are his age but he found this stuff clicking through a link and didn't go searching for it.
Hes also been groomed by adults via these forums and has tried to arrange meet ups for sex.
I don't know how to feel but I wanted to share in a safe space as I've only got one friend I can talk to about this.
Our first police case has recently been concluded but now I feel like it's just waiting for the next knock to happen. My son is suicidal and wants reassurance, and I can't give it to him fully. I feel like someone is crushing my chest from all sides I am that anxious.
It is so conflicting your child being a victim as well as a perpetrator ????
My son has been sexually abused / assaulted by another SEN child when he was 9-10. He is on a CP plan, and under Camhs / forensic Camhs but so far no one has really offered any support other than medication. Everyone just tells me to monitor devices but this doesn't stop my sons addictive / compulsive behaviour of seeking out pornography / more extreme inappropriate illegal content by any means necessary.
Going to call the helpline on Monday for advice.
Sending hugs to anyone going through this.
He told me he's also clicked on the link of a video of a child who was aged 6.
They are moving images of a child playing with their own genitals ????
He's told me that most the children he has viewed are his age but he found this stuff clicking through a link and didn't go searching for it.
Hes also been groomed by adults via these forums and has tried to arrange meet ups for sex.
I don't know how to feel but I wanted to share in a safe space as I've only got one friend I can talk to about this.
Our first police case has recently been concluded but now I feel like it's just waiting for the next knock to happen. My son is suicidal and wants reassurance, and I can't give it to him fully. I feel like someone is crushing my chest from all sides I am that anxious.
It is so conflicting your child being a victim as well as a perpetrator ????
My son has been sexually abused / assaulted by another SEN child when he was 9-10. He is on a CP plan, and under Camhs / forensic Camhs but so far no one has really offered any support other than medication. Everyone just tells me to monitor devices but this doesn't stop my sons addictive / compulsive behaviour of seeking out pornography / more extreme inappropriate illegal content by any means necessary.
Going to call the helpline on Monday for advice.
Sending hugs to anyone going through this.
Sunshine x
I am so sorry for what you are going through I can feel your pain and anguish
Your son is so very young but how brave he was to open up to.you , deffinatly call the helpline they are so good and will be able to point you to other organisations that may also be able to offer support to you both
There are a few ladies on here who will also be able to offer some much needed advice
Sending you lots of strength and hugs and to let you know you are not alone xx
I am so sorry for what you are going through I can feel your pain and anguish
Your son is so very young but how brave he was to open up to.you , deffinatly call the helpline they are so good and will be able to point you to other organisations that may also be able to offer support to you both
There are a few ladies on here who will also be able to offer some much needed advice
Sending you lots of strength and hugs and to let you know you are not alone xx
Thanks upset mum. Yes it's a huge huge comfort having this forum and being surrounded by people that just 'get it' x
Hi,
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I would call CAMHS crisis line and report he needs help and suicidal idlisation is more previlent.
Also the images he is looking at are the same age as when he was abused, CAMH Forensic team should be made aware of this connection as it could be an unconcous way of processing what happened to him. Its a really confusuing time around this age and especally with SEN as pleasure recepters of the body come into play. I would talk to his SW and say that if CAMH can't meet his needs at the moment then a private therapist that has knowledge of Autism and Trauma has to be found ASAP (If you can fund this youself, I really encourage you to do so) before this gets out of control his living in fear of another knock.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I would call CAMHS crisis line and report he needs help and suicidal idlisation is more previlent.
Also the images he is looking at are the same age as when he was abused, CAMH Forensic team should be made aware of this connection as it could be an unconcous way of processing what happened to him. Its a really confusuing time around this age and especally with SEN as pleasure recepters of the body come into play. I would talk to his SW and say that if CAMH can't meet his needs at the moment then a private therapist that has knowledge of Autism and Trauma has to be found ASAP (If you can fund this youself, I really encourage you to do so) before this gets out of control his living in fear of another knock.
I'm so sorry sunshine
It sounds like you're both shouting at the top of your lungs for help and aren't being heard.
I don't know what to suggest, he does need some real help, urgently. Is he having any kind of counselling or therapy? If he's distraught and his mental health is concerning you do you have a crisis team you can reach out to?
I know you'll want to protect your son, and I feel terrible to bring this up but you have to also protect others from his actions. Can you take his devices off him? Can you block or report the people/apps/websites yourself?
Hopefully the helpline can point you in the right direction.
It sounds like you're both shouting at the top of your lungs for help and aren't being heard.
I don't know what to suggest, he does need some real help, urgently. Is he having any kind of counselling or therapy? If he's distraught and his mental health is concerning you do you have a crisis team you can reach out to?
I know you'll want to protect your son, and I feel terrible to bring this up but you have to also protect others from his actions. Can you take his devices off him? Can you block or report the people/apps/websites yourself?
Hopefully the helpline can point you in the right direction.
Thank you all.
Ive contacted a couple of therapists who specialise in this kind of thing and they don't want to touch him with a barge pole because of safeguarding.
I do understand safeguarding and its purpose, but we are going round and round in circles where all that's ever done is my son / others are safeguarded but the help is not provided to prevent it happening again.
Just sick of the beuracy of the whole system and the endless referrals / so many professionals being involved yet no one actually being able to do anything other than risk assess and safe guard.
Hes been safeguarded until the cows come home, he actually needs some treatment!!
Hopefully the stop it now helpline can direct me to a really good therapist ????
Thanks again for all your kindness and understanding. I am so lucky to be able to post here amongst others who get it.
Ive contacted a couple of therapists who specialise in this kind of thing and they don't want to touch him with a barge pole because of safeguarding.
I do understand safeguarding and its purpose, but we are going round and round in circles where all that's ever done is my son / others are safeguarded but the help is not provided to prevent it happening again.
Just sick of the beuracy of the whole system and the endless referrals / so many professionals being involved yet no one actually being able to do anything other than risk assess and safe guard.
Hes been safeguarded until the cows come home, he actually needs some treatment!!
Hopefully the stop it now helpline can direct me to a really good therapist ????
Thanks again for all your kindness and understanding. I am so lucky to be able to post here amongst others who get it.
Holdingthegrenade - I can't really take the devices off him, he has no friends and no real life, doesn't attend school and only does limited hours in an alternative provision. I am chronically ill so unable to do much with him. I am going to try push the idea of blocking websites to him, but it's very delicate with how suicidal he is. ????
I'm messaged you as can help you but don't really want to put it all on the forum xx
Sunshine sorry to hear this. It is positive he is opening up to you though.
Regarding therapy, he can be allocated one through stopso. My son got one through them and she is a forensic psychologist and excellent.
Hope you're okay xx
Regarding therapy, he can be allocated one through stopso. My son got one through them and she is a forensic psychologist and excellent.
Hope you're okay xx
Thank you justwanttoenditall - I've replied
Crushed- how are things with you? So pleased your son has got some support in the form of a forensic psychologist. I will ring the STOP helpline Monday. Ive been putting it off but its not going to help. Is your son finding the support he's getting helpful? Are you any further along with the police?
xx
Crushed- how are things with you? So pleased your son has got some support in the form of a forensic psychologist. I will ring the STOP helpline Monday. Ive been putting it off but its not going to help. Is your son finding the support he's getting helpful? Are you any further along with the police?
xx
Hi!
Yes I think he is finding it helpful, he is also doing the inform course. We are still in the same position, just waiting...
StopSo allocate a suitable therapist, you can just email them to request and then fill in a form. You do have to pay, but they have some funding for certain situations I believe. It may help your son too.
Hope you are okay xx
Yes I think he is finding it helpful, he is also doing the inform course. We are still in the same position, just waiting...
StopSo allocate a suitable therapist, you can just email them to request and then fill in a form. You do have to pay, but they have some funding for certain situations I believe. It may help your son too.
Hope you are okay xx
Crushed - thank you so much that's really helpful. I'm so glad your son is getting the support he needs. Xx