Hi,
To sum up my story the knock was at the beginning of may my bf and I were still living at my dads at the time (we moved out a month later just so we had some space to talk to one another more openly and also because it was about time). He spent the weekend at the local station and when I finally saw him after he broke down and told me everything. He is currently working hard to better himself and taking all of the support he can get which is why I've chosen to stand by him. We are fortunate in a way as we don't have kids and would probably be waiting a few years before any of that anyway. However he hasn't received any further correspondence from his lawyer or the court and I'm finding myself thinking/worrying about it more and more everyday.
My main concern is the media finding out/reporting on it. I don't if I would be able to deal with the pressure from my family wanting me to break it off. Of course I'm also worried about the sentencing but I feel like I'm more prepared for that than the press finding out
I know a lot of it will just depend on what else is on at court that day but I genuinely can't take the waiting anymore im driving myself crazy it is the only thing I think about even when I try to distract myself with something completely different it always finds a way to circle back to this.
does anyone have any idea how long this process takes, is it good or bad that it's taking this long can you share your experience and any hints or tips to get through it?
thank you in advance
To sum up my story the knock was at the beginning of may my bf and I were still living at my dads at the time (we moved out a month later just so we had some space to talk to one another more openly and also because it was about time). He spent the weekend at the local station and when I finally saw him after he broke down and told me everything. He is currently working hard to better himself and taking all of the support he can get which is why I've chosen to stand by him. We are fortunate in a way as we don't have kids and would probably be waiting a few years before any of that anyway. However he hasn't received any further correspondence from his lawyer or the court and I'm finding myself thinking/worrying about it more and more everyday.
My main concern is the media finding out/reporting on it. I don't if I would be able to deal with the pressure from my family wanting me to break it off. Of course I'm also worried about the sentencing but I feel like I'm more prepared for that than the press finding out
I know a lot of it will just depend on what else is on at court that day but I genuinely can't take the waiting anymore im driving myself crazy it is the only thing I think about even when I try to distract myself with something completely different it always finds a way to circle back to this.
does anyone have any idea how long this process takes, is it good or bad that it's taking this long can you share your experience and any hints or tips to get through it?
thank you in advance
Hi Hisangel,
How long the whole process takes depends entirely on where you live. Some areas take months, others can take years. I spoke to the police and told them I couldn't cope with the waiting and I needed it to be over for the sake of my mental health (I've always been prone to severe depression) They told me they expected the investigation to be completed in 3 months. Monday just gone, (11 weeks in) I got a call from the police to say the forensic laboratory has completed the search of my husbands devices and found nothing. I SAW the images on his phone, which he then deleted. I was assured the lab would be able to retrieve the images, but they haven't done so. The CID have told me they will be having a meeting in 3 weeks time to discuss the case and having another look at my husbands devices. If they've found nothing in 11 weeks, I can't see how they can find anything in 3 weeks by having a second look.
Maybe try speaking to the police or the solicitor for an update? I hope it is dealt with soon for you and you can start moving on with your life. Take care of yourself xx
How long the whole process takes depends entirely on where you live. Some areas take months, others can take years. I spoke to the police and told them I couldn't cope with the waiting and I needed it to be over for the sake of my mental health (I've always been prone to severe depression) They told me they expected the investigation to be completed in 3 months. Monday just gone, (11 weeks in) I got a call from the police to say the forensic laboratory has completed the search of my husbands devices and found nothing. I SAW the images on his phone, which he then deleted. I was assured the lab would be able to retrieve the images, but they haven't done so. The CID have told me they will be having a meeting in 3 weeks time to discuss the case and having another look at my husbands devices. If they've found nothing in 11 weeks, I can't see how they can find anything in 3 weeks by having a second look.
Maybe try speaking to the police or the solicitor for an update? I hope it is dealt with soon for you and you can start moving on with your life. Take care of yourself xx
Hi Seamack
The police did a deep search after their initial search on the devices and found many many more images so maybe there will find something
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The police did a deep search after their initial search on the devices and found many many more images so maybe there will find something
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Hi Tracey,
thank you so much for that. I didn't know they could do a deeper search. I'm praying they find what I saw because I believe my husband deserves to be punished for what he has done. I'd feel exactly the same if it were my son, brother or father x
thank you so much for that. I didn't know they could do a deeper search. I'm praying they find what I saw because I believe my husband deserves to be punished for what he has done. I'd feel exactly the same if it were my son, brother or father x