(Un)supervised access after sentencing - daughters
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Afternoon all.
I'm feeling a little stronger than last Friday when I was really struggling with anger and the impact of my person's addiction on my daily life and that of my daughters. I'm trying to think to the future with a clear head.
Is there anyone in here whose person was convicted of communication offences with young teenage girls, and who has daughters with their person? Did social services keep the supervision requirement until youngest daughter was 16 or 18? Did anyone have supervision requirement removed in this situation? I'd be very surprised if they remove the need for supervision in this scenario but want to get a feel for what arrangements could be in place.
I'm feeling a little stronger than last Friday when I was really struggling with anger and the impact of my person's addiction on my daily life and that of my daughters. I'm trying to think to the future with a clear head.
Is there anyone in here whose person was convicted of communication offences with young teenage girls, and who has daughters with their person? Did social services keep the supervision requirement until youngest daughter was 16 or 18? Did anyone have supervision requirement removed in this situation? I'd be very surprised if they remove the need for supervision in this scenario but want to get a feel for what arrangements could be in place.
I'm glad to know you're feeling a little better this week.
My son was convicted of communication and has 2 younger children and 1 nearer to the age of the child he communicated with. His SHPO states no unsupervised contact with under 18 years unless agreed by social services and the parents. At the moment social services won't allow unsupervised contact but did say they would re look at it when the younger children are old enough to be able to make their own disclosures.
My son was convicted of communication and has 2 younger children and 1 nearer to the age of the child he communicated with. His SHPO states no unsupervised contact with under 18 years unless agreed by social services and the parents. At the moment social services won't allow unsupervised contact but did say they would re look at it when the younger children are old enough to be able to make their own disclosures.
Thanks Ocean. I really appreciate your reply and kind wishes.
From the moment he was bailed my person can be with our daughters supervised by me. By week 5 the OIC had checked his phone and decided (with SW) that there was no evidence on it of a direct risk to our daughters, so bail was amended such that he can also stay overnight in our house subject to my supervision
Police and SW consider me protective and capable of safeguarding the girls based on what they've found so far
Currently he sleeps downstairs, and can only come upstairs eg to wash once he's checked with me that everyone's dressed. SW never gave us a safety plan so we've had to devise one ourselves which I think is appropriately protective.
The other devices haven't been checked yet so things may change.
I'm thinking ahead and wondering about downsizing after sentencing, to allow us to live mortgage free, with an annexe for him. It'll be unmanageable having him in the house with teenage daughters and ongoing supervision requirements. I won't be able to relax and they won't be able to have normal teenage freedoms. I'm minded to go down that route anyway for my own sanity and the girls' wellbeing anyway.
From the moment he was bailed my person can be with our daughters supervised by me. By week 5 the OIC had checked his phone and decided (with SW) that there was no evidence on it of a direct risk to our daughters, so bail was amended such that he can also stay overnight in our house subject to my supervision
Police and SW consider me protective and capable of safeguarding the girls based on what they've found so far
Currently he sleeps downstairs, and can only come upstairs eg to wash once he's checked with me that everyone's dressed. SW never gave us a safety plan so we've had to devise one ourselves which I think is appropriately protective.
The other devices haven't been checked yet so things may change.
I'm thinking ahead and wondering about downsizing after sentencing, to allow us to live mortgage free, with an annexe for him. It'll be unmanageable having him in the house with teenage daughters and ongoing supervision requirements. I won't be able to relax and they won't be able to have normal teenage freedoms. I'm minded to go down that route anyway for my own sanity and the girls' wellbeing anyway.
That's sounds like a real solution if you could make it work.
My son moved back in with us on the night he was arrested and has been with us ever since. We have provided the supervision between him and his children from day 1 and his children stay the night with us on a regular basis.
Social services closed the case before sentencing as long as the supervision continued and it has remained closed ever since due to his SHPO now detailing the restrictions.
We're now 12 months post sentencing and testament to the fact that despite the supervision requirements my son and his children can enjoy their lives and have fun together.
My son moved back in with us on the night he was arrested and has been with us ever since. We have provided the supervision between him and his children from day 1 and his children stay the night with us on a regular basis.
Social services closed the case before sentencing as long as the supervision continued and it has remained closed ever since due to his SHPO now detailing the restrictions.
We're now 12 months post sentencing and testament to the fact that despite the supervision requirements my son and his children can enjoy their lives and have fun together.
Ocean you're doing magnificently with your son and grandchildren. I hope their mother, whatever her feelings towards your son, sees your love and hard work to keep the family as together as it can be.
I know my wording implies a rather passive role in this for your son, and based on my person I suspect that reflects how things were at the start, at least.
I know my wording implies a rather passive role in this for your son, and based on my person I suspect that reflects how things were at the start, at least.
Anyone else?
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