Family and Friends Forum

Hi,

is the person child's biological father? There are a couple of things I wanted to address in your post; if the OIC thought your person posed a risk to your child or any other child in person then their bail conditions should reflect that. Essentially they can't impose restrictions not within bail although both the police and ss do like to try as it makes things easier for them.

Investigations can take years to conclude so is this something that would impact yours and your child's lives negatively by keeping no contact?

Personally, knowing what I know now I'd be inclined to pre empt ss by preparing a safety plan for supervised contact and what that will look like, disclosing to your child if age/developmentally appropriate, researching safeguarding if this isn't something you have had training on before and basically letting them know that at the moment there is no contact but you'd like them to sign you off to supervise whenever you feel comfortable with that in line with bail conditions xxx

It's a strange one. I'm in contact with my person who is allowed supervised access. We need to try to co-parent and still have a house and for now are still married. But also in order to safeguard fully I need to know what their state of mind is, what they're upto etc so I can spot any worrying behaviour of if they're doing anything that's not meeting bail etc. I can't do this without being involved in their life by asking if they've been going to therapy/support groups, making sure they've set up monitoring apps and keeping off websites etc. as that's also another way to keep my child and others safe from my person's previous online activities. Surely it's better that more people are watching them than nobody?!?