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Fatso

Member since
November 2019

103 posts

Posted Wed November 6, 2019 10:35amReport post

My son was arrested and questioned for sexual messages to an undercover police officer.he has been relased on bail and allowed supervised contact with his son but his wife has moved out of the family home.This is causing endless sleepless nights, I see a lot of of messaged on here for images but has any onle elso dealt with this and how you coped, I have a solictor for him but I still fear the worst.Any advice.

Maria

Member since
September 2018

286 posts

Posted Wed November 6, 2019 11:20amReport post

My partner was charged with attempting to have a sexual communication with a minor after chatting with an undercover officer. Theres no doubt what they have done is horrendous and they should have known better but it doesn't necessarily mean life is over. There was nothing else in my partners case, just this one conversation, no images, no grooming, no other conversation, no suggestions of meeting, nothing from forensics on the computers etc. He needs to be honest, but it is possible to be caught up in all this for a mistake, error of judgement, moment of madness or whatever you want to call it. My partner is getting his life back together, life on the sex offenders isn't always easy though. He deserved his punishment but also deserved the help he has recieved and deserves the chance to prove himself. Your son can get through this, it wont be easy but he needs to consider how it happened and why and how hes going to ensure it never happens again. His partner will be having a very though time, it takes time to rebuild relationships and it takes strength and courage to go through everything with social services, the situation and the betrayal from a partner. Keep everyone talking and support everyone where you can.

Fatso

Member since
November 2019

103 posts

Posted Wed November 6, 2019 5:07pmReport post

Hi Maria

Where did you partner get help from. We are in touch with LF but apprently there inform plus course would not be suitable as this only deals with people who have been looking at images. I am seeing my Doctor to see if I can get counselling. My biggest worry is losing my son and than my grandson.