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Tryingtobebrave

Member since
July 2024

11 posts

Posted Mon September 30, 2024 8:28amReport post

Hi everyone.



Me and my OH separated when the knock came however I'm trying to be supportive of him still and still see him as I supervise contact with our children.



Anyway the knock came in April 24 and was asked to attended the station in July 24 to be charged. That date got put back to end of October 24 and remains that date. It all feels like it's going too fast now and I'm just worried about what the future brings. I'm praying he doesn't get a prison sentence as I have no idea how to explain that to our children.



I know whilst waiting for him to be charged he can keep his job, his rented flat but once he is charged then his life will change dramatically and although we are not together I hate the thought of how difficult his life is going to be going forwards. The closer it gets the scarier it feels again like it did in the beginning.



Just wanted to get my thoughts out xx

LisaMargeMaggie

Member since
July 2024

111 posts

Posted Mon September 30, 2024 8:38amReport post

You aren't alone I'm sure. Part of me wants this all to hurry up, and part of me dreads all the losses which will be triggered by charges, plea, sentencing etc. I can sort of of bimble along in my current crappy situation, which I'm almost used to after 4 months. Sending a hug xx

Tryingtobebrave

Member since
July 2024

11 posts

Posted Mon October 7, 2024 9:30pmReport post

It's been put back another 3 months again so back to waiting. Honestly don't know what's worse the waiting or having to face it all x

Inpain

Member since
September 2024

12 posts

Posted Wed October 9, 2024 2:54pmReport post

Have they said why it's been put back again? My OH is due back at the beginning of December after 3 months and we're dreading that happening. We're only just at the beginning of our nightmare but then if it gets put back another 3 months......

T2021

Member since
December 2020

105 posts

Posted Wed October 9, 2024 3:01pmReport post

In pain be parepared it's very likely after such a short time it will be. My person was on bail for one year, then RUi for 3 years. It is only just going to court.

Edited Wed October 9, 2024 3:02pm

Stan cat

Member since
October 2024

37 posts

Posted Wed October 9, 2024 8:58pmReport post

My oh what is first arrested back in January he was meant to appear at the police station again in April when it was put back to July then again to October now it looks like it might be being put back for a fourth time which means it will be a whole year since he was first arrested To me it just feels like our whole life has been put on hold and while I'm dreading my Oh having to face up to what he's done I just wish it could be over and done with !!!

Tryingtobebrave

Member since
July 2024

11 posts

Posted Thu October 10, 2024 7:04amReport post

@in pain

It's been put back twice both times saying admin delays. The OIC rang last week to say he was starting work on OH case yet we got the knock in April. Don't even know if it's gone to CPS yet. When we got the knock the OIC told me he'll have it done in 12 weeks!

Scaredmumof3

Member since
July 2023

100 posts

Posted Thu October 10, 2024 11:59amReport post

Sorry but to me these just seem like bail dates which sadly mean nothing.

I have been waiting over a year now almost 18 months. 9 months of bail (3 months, call back, 3 months repeat), then RUI then nothing........ the devices are in a very long line to be checked before then being called in for an interview, charged and then another X weeks as it goes to CPS.

T2021

Member since
December 2020

105 posts

Posted Thu October 10, 2024 9:52pmReport post

@scared mum agreed bail dates mean nothing. also just to let you know it goes to cps before charges are made, they have to agree to the charges

Inpain

Member since
September 2024

12 posts

Posted Thu October 10, 2024 9:55pmReport post

Wow I can't believe the time frames! The impact it has on families and peoples lives during the waiting is just awful.