Feeling so isolated
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We are 4 years post knock for my husband and his 2 years on the SOR ended in February this year.
I stayed with him as my choice. It wasn't respected by my family or a lot of my friends but hey ho, my choice, my consequences right?
I have 3 siblings with 4 children between them. I don't drive and they're all 2.5-3.5 hours away. We've reached a bit of an understanding over the last 4 years where my husband drives me part way and my sister comes to pick me up for a few days, then same on way back. Obviously not ideal but feel very lucky I'm not being stopped from seeing the kids when I've done nothing wrong.
I work in a primary school so only really have the holidays when I can go visit. They never offer to come this way. There's plenty of places elsewhere in the county I could meet them at. I've just tried to organise a few days at Xmas to see the kids. I went at Easter and in the summer holidays so its not like I'm very demanding.
Two of the siblings have replied to my message basically saying they don't know what they're up to yet, but made me feel so uncomfortable, like they can't make time for me as they're busy doing stuff they could do any time.
The 4 kids are aged 3-10 years and won't be little forever.
Like I said, I know there are consequences to my choice of standing by my vows and my husband. Just wish it wasn't so very hard.
I stayed with him as my choice. It wasn't respected by my family or a lot of my friends but hey ho, my choice, my consequences right?
I have 3 siblings with 4 children between them. I don't drive and they're all 2.5-3.5 hours away. We've reached a bit of an understanding over the last 4 years where my husband drives me part way and my sister comes to pick me up for a few days, then same on way back. Obviously not ideal but feel very lucky I'm not being stopped from seeing the kids when I've done nothing wrong.
I work in a primary school so only really have the holidays when I can go visit. They never offer to come this way. There's plenty of places elsewhere in the county I could meet them at. I've just tried to organise a few days at Xmas to see the kids. I went at Easter and in the summer holidays so its not like I'm very demanding.
Two of the siblings have replied to my message basically saying they don't know what they're up to yet, but made me feel so uncomfortable, like they can't make time for me as they're busy doing stuff they could do any time.
The 4 kids are aged 3-10 years and won't be little forever.
Like I said, I know there are consequences to my choice of standing by my vows and my husband. Just wish it wasn't so very hard.
Hi,
it might not be anything to do with your husband's offending or your decision to stay with him. As the children get older there are generally more activities outside of seeing family around Christmas.
In my family we try to all get together one day over the Christmas period but it is becoming increasingly difficult to organise.
Maybe try again in a couple of weeks with suggestions of activities you've found. I think this journey does make us over analyse everything and also crave that reassurance from loved ones that we are important. I hope everything works out for you. Sending love xxx
it might not be anything to do with your husband's offending or your decision to stay with him. As the children get older there are generally more activities outside of seeing family around Christmas.
In my family we try to all get together one day over the Christmas period but it is becoming increasingly difficult to organise.
Maybe try again in a couple of weeks with suggestions of activities you've found. I think this journey does make us over analyse everything and also crave that reassurance from loved ones that we are important. I hope everything works out for you. Sending love xxx
Thank you for your kind words. Overthinking is my party trick. I'm not emotionally in a good place at mo for all sorts of reasons and this just feels like its tipped me over the edge today.
I'm sorry to know you're feeling isolated. I agree with Distressed that the response you've received may not be related to your OH as Christmas can be such a busy time for families that it might just be too soon for them to know what their own commitments will be at the moment. It's so easy though to take things like this personally as our minds can be our own worst enemy at times.
Thanks Ocean