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Wolf_Pack

Member since
June 2023

34 posts

Posted Sun October 13, 2024 8:37pmReport post

Has anyone managed to successfully start a new relationship with someone? I am considering seeing where a connection I've made goes, but with this nightmare constantly in my mind I don't know how to move on. Have you managed to tell a new partner about what has happened? How did they take it? I've already been asked if my children's dad is involved in their life. He is but supervised only, how do I even explain that. Any help/ advice would be appreciated. I don't want to run away this time

Lucy from Stop it Now!

Member since
September 2018

517 posts

Posted Mon October 21, 2024 12:49pmReport post

Hello,

Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends Forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.


If you haven't already done so, I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free, on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support and do their best to answer your questions. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.

I hope this has been helpful.

Take care,

Lucy

Db

Member since
April 2023

12 posts

Posted Tue October 22, 2024 12:19amReport post

Hey yes I did and its the best thing I done. The knock happend in april 2022 and still awaiting a court date. I was married to the offender . I got divorced in August 22. I started a ne new relationship and I was fully honest with him and what my ex husband done . And he was totaly supportive , infact he was amazing and he's been my rock . Go a head jump at it strart that new life and feel happy x

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

321 posts

Posted Wed October 23, 2024 10:42amReport post

Hi, yes. About a year after the knock, I moved abroad to start a life with someone I knew decades ago. It was disastrous. It wasn't all my fault, he turned out to be a narcissist but I suppose I simply was never going to be able to trust again. X

AnxiousGirl

Member since
December 2023

232 posts

Posted Wed October 30, 2024 11:01pmReport post

I have. We were friends before the knock. I told him I was separated but not why. He found out through the grapevine. He has been v patient with me. Not sure the relationship is going to go anywhere but having a fun time whilst it lasts.

Wolf_Pack

Member since
June 2023

34 posts

Posted Sun November 3, 2024 6:25pmReport post

Thanks for your responses. It's getting to the point that I'm going to have to say something. Wednesday is court, so once I know the full facts I plan on telling him. We've gotten to know each other really well.
it is hard as can only talk when my little one is asleep, which sometimes can be late/ overlap with work etc.

cherrybakewell

Member since
December 2024

2 posts

Posted Sun December 15, 2024 5:03pmReport post

I have and it's been great. I was with my boyfriend for three years before we recieved the knock in July this year. I broke up with him on the day and later moved out.

I then found another partner who is amazing and better than my ex is every possible way, I am very happy with him. I told my new boyfriend about my ex's crimes after a few weeks of talking, he took it well and was very understanding. In fact, I let him read my diary entries recalling the event so he could view it from my perspective. Although I don't like to talk about ex partners in a new relationship, I am open about it but I try my best not to talk about them too much and focus on my new, happier life.