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Has anyone managed to successfully start a new relationship with someone? I am considering seeing where a connection I've made goes, but with this nightmare constantly in my mind I don't know how to move on. Have you managed to tell a new partner about what has happened? How did they take it? I've already been asked if my children's dad is involved in their life. He is but supervised only, how do I even explain that. Any help/ advice would be appreciated. I don't want to run away this time
Hello,
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Take care,
Lucy
Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends Forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.
If you haven't already done so, I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free, on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support and do their best to answer your questions. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.
I hope this has been helpful.
Take care,
Lucy
Hey yes I did and its the best thing I done. The knock happend in april 2022 and still awaiting a court date. I was married to the offender . I got divorced in August 22. I started a ne new relationship and I was fully honest with him and what my ex husband done . And he was totaly supportive , infact he was amazing and he's been my rock . Go a head jump at it strart that new life and feel happy x
Hi, yes. About a year after the knock, I moved abroad to start a life with someone I knew decades ago. It was disastrous. It wasn't all my fault, he turned out to be a narcissist but I suppose I simply was never going to be able to trust again. X
I have. We were friends before the knock. I told him I was separated but not why. He found out through the grapevine. He has been v patient with me. Not sure the relationship is going to go anywhere but having a fun time whilst it lasts.
Thanks for your responses. It's getting to the point that I'm going to have to say something. Wednesday is court, so once I know the full facts I plan on telling him. We've gotten to know each other really well.
it is hard as can only talk when my little one is asleep, which sometimes can be late/ overlap with work etc.
it is hard as can only talk when my little one is asleep, which sometimes can be late/ overlap with work etc.
I have and it's been great. I was with my boyfriend for three years before we recieved the knock in July this year. I broke up with him on the day and later moved out.
I then found another partner who is amazing and better than my ex is every possible way, I am very happy with him. I told my new boyfriend about my ex's crimes after a few weeks of talking, he took it well and was very understanding. In fact, I let him read my diary entries recalling the event so he could view it from my perspective. Although I don't like to talk about ex partners in a new relationship, I am open about it but I try my best not to talk about them too much and focus on my new, happier life.
I then found another partner who is amazing and better than my ex is every possible way, I am very happy with him. I told my new boyfriend about my ex's crimes after a few weeks of talking, he took it well and was very understanding. In fact, I let him read my diary entries recalling the event so he could view it from my perspective. Although I don't like to talk about ex partners in a new relationship, I am open about it but I try my best not to talk about them too much and focus on my new, happier life.
Yes! Knock in March 2021 after 18 years together. I honestly thought i would never be happy again or that anyone would ever want to spend time with me ir my family because of our history. Had a lot of therapy. A few years down the line I met and fell in love with my current partner. I was very honest and told him pretty soon after we met and i realised i wanted to spend more time with him. He is incredible and tells me frequently how resilient and admirable I am for dealing with my situation with so much love and courage. I am so glad I chose to move on and forward and put my trust in someone else, a tricky decision. My kids love seeing me happy especially after several years of me being utterly miserable. I guess it's not a cure all but choosing to move on and live your life fully, whatever that looks like, is very empowering. We are not defined by one (albiet incredibly traumatic) event in our lives. Listen to your instincts carefully and may your new connection bring you much joy, even just thinking about it if you don't choose to act. xx
Also, I would suggest hoing super slowly when it comes to introducing kids to new partners, especially after going through the things we have.
I replied back in October but that relationship didn't work - mainly because of the fact we lived 3 hours away from each other.
But I've now stays relationship with someone local who I've known for a few years. We dhays lot of friends so I assumed he knew why I was single. Turns out he didn't - and I thought everyone knew.
He has been supportive and is now helping me navigate the final stages of drawing a close on my 30 year marriage by selling my house and moving on.
Sunday was the 2 year anniversary of ending my marriage. If anyone had told me I would spend that day on my favourite beach with the man I love I would never have believed them.
Life has a way of moving on. I hope you find happiness
But I've now stays relationship with someone local who I've known for a few years. We dhays lot of friends so I assumed he knew why I was single. Turns out he didn't - and I thought everyone knew.
He has been supportive and is now helping me navigate the final stages of drawing a close on my 30 year marriage by selling my house and moving on.
Sunday was the 2 year anniversary of ending my marriage. If anyone had told me I would spend that day on my favourite beach with the man I love I would never have believed them.
Life has a way of moving on. I hope you find happiness