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When do you know it's over

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Vikter

Member since
August 2019

21 posts

Posted Tue November 12, 2019 5:01pmReport post

When do you know the love has gone in a relationship sorry I've only ever had this relationship with my hubby for 18 years and since the knock in may I have been up and down but recently I'm more down when he's around I put on a movie fo us to watch geo something can't even remember it's name and after the little girl was speaking and her dad talking about his own brother sacked him and that he lost his house and everything I got up and walked away can't even watch a movie bar I get annoyed and have to walk away now 30 mins later I'm beating myself up because I can't seem to watch anything that has any kids in it due to all the events coming flooding back is it over for us or is it just because of how I feel I just don't know anyone

Lis

Member since
November 2019

40 posts

Posted Tue November 12, 2019 10:02pmReport post

I feel the same way as you. When do you know it is over? After 18'years of marriage and 20 years together you think you know your husband. And then this blow. Everything you have believed in, trusted and care for is gon. We are grandparents. Have both been married before. What will happen now? My husband will never see my grandchildren again. My son knows what he has done. How can our marriage survive?

Izzy

Member since
July 2019

91 posts

Posted Tue November 12, 2019 10:19pmReport post

LLis

II have been with my husband almost twice as long as your marriage.



II think you know it is over when life without him looks better than life together. I try tto remember the multitude of good times and treasure them but I realise that to bbe happy again I can't be his wife any longer.



Be strong ladies and look after yourselves. We have caused none of this but have to live with the consequences.



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Vikter

Member since
August 2019

21 posts

Posted Wed November 13, 2019 8:38amReport post

Lis I know what you mean I got married at 19 to this man I have 2 older children at uni I also had children young I'm absolutely devestated like yourself I am still with my hubby but feel like we're apart he lost his career job and now works a crappy job but it's a job I know he does nightshift 4 nights a week and that I'm glad of but just struggling with everything he's done I trusted him and loved him millions but a bit unsure now as it's all been boiled over

Vikter

Member since
August 2019

21 posts

Posted Wed November 13, 2019 8:40amReport post

Thank you izzy so much going on in my life like you say I need to look after me I don't want to be with him but I don't want anyone else to have him we have so many good memories together it hurts a lot to betray all of us the way he has, he has lied to me of a few occasions with all this that I fear no trust will ever be there I don't want to do anything drastic at moment like you say not sure if I can go on without him just so confused with it all still x