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I cannot belive 2 years into our situation I have only just discovered this little forum! It's answered So many questions so far but I do have a few more I'm hoping for some help on!
so a little background. OH was arrested Sept 2022 charged Oct 2023. We have a 2 year old boy and a nearly 1 year old little girl. He's able to live at home, no SS involvement, low risk ect. However I'm finding a lot of it confusing. When he was charged he was told by his DPO that he wasn't allowed to go to swimming lessons anymore... which made sense I guess but was annoying as it hadn't been a problem for the last year when on bail... I have 2 small children and want to tech them to swim... but I can't take them both and can't leave one on their own? Is he really not allowed to take littles ones to a swimming lesson ? There is nothing about it on any of the paperwork!
I've always worked with children... I'm a qualified EYP and always dreamed of being a childminder... obviously this won't happen now. But I can't work with children as I have a SO living with me... is this for life of just the 5 years he's on the register?
Family holidays like Butlins... I find this one odd. So we've been told that their policy says we can't go as they won't allow anyone with a offence in knowligly... but how would they know? Would he be in trouble with probation or anything if we did go? There is no logic to me as they're happy for us to go to CBeebies land hotel at Alton towers as they don't see him as a risk but just simple terms and conditions say he can't go other places? Would this backfire at all? Assume we don't even need to tell them we were going as it's only 4 nights?!
last thing SCHOOL! my little ones are still a few years of this. I've always been very open to the idea of homeschooling. His DPO has implied that once my little boy starts school or nursery she would have to tell them about the offence... we live in a small area and there is no way I'm letting that get out. Is this defiantly the case? If it is it just pushes me to home school which isn't a bad thing for me, but would this set SS off?
sorry for the long post. It's been a rough 2 years and I feel like we're finally starting to see the light but the future still worries me :(
so a little background. OH was arrested Sept 2022 charged Oct 2023. We have a 2 year old boy and a nearly 1 year old little girl. He's able to live at home, no SS involvement, low risk ect. However I'm finding a lot of it confusing. When he was charged he was told by his DPO that he wasn't allowed to go to swimming lessons anymore... which made sense I guess but was annoying as it hadn't been a problem for the last year when on bail... I have 2 small children and want to tech them to swim... but I can't take them both and can't leave one on their own? Is he really not allowed to take littles ones to a swimming lesson ? There is nothing about it on any of the paperwork!
I've always worked with children... I'm a qualified EYP and always dreamed of being a childminder... obviously this won't happen now. But I can't work with children as I have a SO living with me... is this for life of just the 5 years he's on the register?
Family holidays like Butlins... I find this one odd. So we've been told that their policy says we can't go as they won't allow anyone with a offence in knowligly... but how would they know? Would he be in trouble with probation or anything if we did go? There is no logic to me as they're happy for us to go to CBeebies land hotel at Alton towers as they don't see him as a risk but just simple terms and conditions say he can't go other places? Would this backfire at all? Assume we don't even need to tell them we were going as it's only 4 nights?!
last thing SCHOOL! my little ones are still a few years of this. I've always been very open to the idea of homeschooling. His DPO has implied that once my little boy starts school or nursery she would have to tell them about the offence... we live in a small area and there is no way I'm letting that get out. Is this defiantly the case? If it is it just pushes me to home school which isn't a bad thing for me, but would this set SS off?
sorry for the long post. It's been a rough 2 years and I feel like we're finally starting to see the light but the future still worries me :(
Hi. Sorry I do not know the answer to most of your questions but, in answer to the Butlins t&c. I read somewhere, that if this is in the t&c then it is advisable not to go. Should the company find out they can then ban you. Also, should there be any incidents at the holiday park, even if your person is not involved, they will be the first person that the poilce will suspect. So it is for their protection as much as anyone's.