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its been over 5 years since "the knock" . i just wanted to say there is life at the end of the tunnel.
I will never forget the awful feeling of someone knocking on the door with a search warrant. we were together for 10 years and married for 5. I thought we were really happy, and i trusted him completely.
However after the knock I found out that most of what he had told me about his life was a lie. i loved him but no longer trusted him. So i got a divorce, changed my name and moved over 100 miles to be with my family. it was a hard decision to make as I loved my home, job and friends. To walk away from the man (and life) | loved was tough, but the right decision for me. I admire people that choose to stay, but I want you to know that sometimes the right thing to do is leave.
i suffered horrendous panic and anxiety attacks. partly because it was the beginning of Covid lockdown and I was unable to tell my family and friends as i was living on the isle of wight and not allowed to travel off it.
5 years on and i have a new home, name, job and am close to my family. Also 3 years ago I met my amazing partner. i never thought I would be able to trust anyone or be happy again. how wrong was I.
i just want people to know that whatever happens life will be good again. you just need to make the right choice for you. it may be the hardest decision you will ever make.
good luck. xx
I will never forget the awful feeling of someone knocking on the door with a search warrant. we were together for 10 years and married for 5. I thought we were really happy, and i trusted him completely.
However after the knock I found out that most of what he had told me about his life was a lie. i loved him but no longer trusted him. So i got a divorce, changed my name and moved over 100 miles to be with my family. it was a hard decision to make as I loved my home, job and friends. To walk away from the man (and life) | loved was tough, but the right decision for me. I admire people that choose to stay, but I want you to know that sometimes the right thing to do is leave.
i suffered horrendous panic and anxiety attacks. partly because it was the beginning of Covid lockdown and I was unable to tell my family and friends as i was living on the isle of wight and not allowed to travel off it.
5 years on and i have a new home, name, job and am close to my family. Also 3 years ago I met my amazing partner. i never thought I would be able to trust anyone or be happy again. how wrong was I.
i just want people to know that whatever happens life will be good again. you just need to make the right choice for you. it may be the hardest decision you will ever make.
good luck. xx
Hi In Limbo
Thank you for sharing your story. It is really good to hear from people who have arrived at a better place after having been through such a trauma.
I wish you every happiness.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is really good to hear from people who have arrived at a better place after having been through such a trauma.
I wish you every happiness.
I'm just over 2 years from the knock. Ended my marriage just before he went to prison.
I have stayed out despite the online and actual retaliation to the news on social media and in the press as my friends and job are here.
I've done nothing wrong and slowly learnt to keep my head up and move forward.
I'm now off any medication and my counselling has finished. I don't come in the forum as much although it was a godsend at first
I'm carving a new life for myself with new interests and hobby's. I couldn't have done it without my fabulous support network of friends and my work colleagues.
I've still a way to go - selling the house and buying somewhere new - scary thought getting a mortgage not long before I'm 60.
But there is now light at the end of the tunnel
I have stayed out despite the online and actual retaliation to the news on social media and in the press as my friends and job are here.
I've done nothing wrong and slowly learnt to keep my head up and move forward.
I'm now off any medication and my counselling has finished. I don't come in the forum as much although it was a godsend at first
I'm carving a new life for myself with new interests and hobby's. I couldn't have done it without my fabulous support network of friends and my work colleagues.
I've still a way to go - selling the house and buying somewhere new - scary thought getting a mortgage not long before I'm 60.
But there is now light at the end of the tunnel